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2016-01-16 21:51:36 -0500 commented question my dad is not listening to me

I am a 16 year old girl

2016-01-16 21:50:31 -0500 asked a question my dad is not listening to me

My dad won't let me do seva at the Gurdwara anymore. I have been doing seva for 2 years at my local Gurdwara and i have fallen in love with it. I know everybody at the Gurdwara and i feel like i have everybodys trust. I feel incomplete whenever i don't do seva at least once a week. Well now my "dad" says that i can't do seva because only guys do seva and if i do seva with boys my age, then it will look bad. I have a hard time sitting for a long period of time so i do seva and listen to kirtan/katha. My dad says that if i am not able to sit for too long, then i shouldn't go to the Gurdwara. My parents and i have even taken amrit. Now I'm sitting here crying wishing i never started doing seva in the first place because to me.... it feels like a drug addict going through withdrawal symptoms. Another thing that really disappoints me is that, my dad thinks I'll do something wrong.

The biggest thing is... Seva is the only thing I'm capable of doing. My parents never taught me to do kirtan and they never let me learn Gatka. I'm ashamed because i don't know how to do much and now my dad is stopping me from the only thing that i can do.

So how can i convince my dad to let me do seva again???

2015-10-30 08:32:51 -0500 marked best answer Help me please

WJKK WJKF I... am in a dilemma. (There are so many things) 1. I can't do Paath at all.... - My dad wakes up from around 2 a.m. to 4 a.m. to do Paath and around that time he also goes to work. If I wake up at 12 or 1, I disturb him as the shower will make a loud noise. My dad already barely sleep 3 hours a day ( Guru di kirpa naal ). When my dad does wake up, he is loud. My dad has had a problem with Plegm (stuff that runs through your throat) so he constantly has to spit... and it is VERY LOUD. So I can't wake up anytime between 12 and 4 and by that time, the main time of Amritvela is over so I don't have any Paath or Simran done. 2. I try to wake up early.... -Realizing that I can't wake up from 12 to 4, I try to wake up at 6. That is hard for me because I sleep 2-5 hours a night( I have an extremely hard time trying to fall asleep, even if I do Simran or listen to Shabads. So say I fall asleep at 3 (which I did last night.. technically this morning while my dad was awake) if I wake up at 6, I only sleep for 3 hours, To shower and do Nitnem( excluding Simran) it will be about 7:30. My youngest brother will wake up at that time and he will go downstairs and start playing, yelling, or even crying. (There goes the amount of attention I pay to the Bani at that time) 3. Games..... -Today I woke up and saw that everybody was awake, cousin,(my cousin lives with us, he is 6 going on to 7 this month), siblings, parents and uncle, (my dad was at work and still is there) and the kids are playing on the Wii game console. They had been playing for 2 hours already and everyday they usually play for about 7 to 9 hours( no exaggeration ). So I got upset that even today I couldn't even concentrate on just 5 minutes of Simran so I went downstairs and turned off the game. Well, my siblings and cousin started crying and told my mom. I expected her to back me up but instead she said that she will beat me up if I don't set up the game for the kids. 4. The general stuff at home.... -In the house that Waheguru has placed me in can not go one entire day without saying at the very least, 20 bad words. My mom says bad words, so do my siblings . My mom says it when she gets angry with the kids and my siblings say it when they fight.(every hour at least). I promise you, try spending one day in this house, there will be at least on of the following going on for ... (more)

2015-10-30 08:32:50 -0500 marked best answer How do Karma points work

How do I increase my Karma points on this website?

2015-10-30 08:32:49 -0500 marked best answer how to deal with siblings

This might seem a little mean, but I am utterly annoyed with all my siblings and one of my cousin's. All they do is make noise... while playing, eating, Always... This makes it hard for me to focus on Paath and Simran. I try to stay away but sadly, without a license, I am confined to a single bedroom where I try to work. How can I learn to keep calm in such situations? (They are really loud, they make my ears hurt and I am not sensitive to normal high sounds). Also my cousin lives with me.

They never listen to me, nor my parents. They always complain on minor issues. They make it hard for me to work in general and the only time I am in total peace is when I am without them. That could mean, going to the Gurdwara, store, or school. THEY NEVER LISTEN AND THEY CONTINUESLY MISBEHAVE. Currently my dad is sleeping because he didn't sleep all night and still went to work. My brother is screaming upstairs. My sister is literally yelling and she is only a couple of feet away from my dad

My cousin hates studying/working so he always complains and throws his books. Help, how can I escape this. I can't focus on Gurbani, it is nearly impossible, and I can't leave home because I don't have a license

2015-10-30 08:32:48 -0500 marked best answer different sikh caste system

WJKK WJKF Sangat ji, I am a high school female student and i have taken amrit.There are some boys at my school who also have taken amrit. One time I decided to talk to one if the boys because i had a question. He unexpectedly got mad and said leave me alone and he later said ..."Bas theek va tusi sare idade hi koi va Stockton Gurdwara chale jao oh wounder ho jande oh taksali age bacho ina ton." I think I know what he is saying but can somebody clarify. He goes to the Gurdwara in Manteca and I go to the Gurdwara in Stockton. When he says Taksali, does he mean different types of Sikhs.. in the Sikh community. I thought that God was in everybody and we shouldn't differentiate between Hindu, Muslim, Christian, Sikh, etc. So why are Sikh people themselves splitting themselves up??? He and his friends also stare at me or my friend for a short amount of time, who is also indian. It's like evertime he sees me he gets mad and leaves. I haven't done nor said anything to him... He also says that girls should stay in their spot and guys should stay in their spots. I don't see anything wrong with simply talking to a guy if I need to ask a question WJKK WJKF

2015-10-30 08:32:48 -0500 marked best answer I want to go on a hunger strike

WJKK WJKF sangat ji, I want to go on a hunger strike for the unreleased Sikh prisoners. I am a teenage girl who goes to school. Should I go on a hunger strike (Yes I feel wierd asking but I want to know how people may react...) WJKK WJKF

2015-10-30 08:32:48 -0500 marked best answer I don't know how to ...

WJKK WJKF I don't know how to tie a keski and I tried to watch videos and that didn't work. My mom doesn't tie a keski so I can't ask her. Anybody who wears a keski lives a bit too far so. .. my question is does anybody know a video that will teach beginners. .. WJKK WJKF

2015-10-30 08:32:46 -0500 marked best answer unsure if seva?

I am a Sikh and I deeply enjoy doing seva. I feel incomplete without doing seva atleast once a week at the Gurdwara, ( I would do more but I can't drive). Sadly because I can't drive, I can't do any other form of community service besides seva and a couple of people suggested that I get a community service paper signed by the people at our Gurdwara. I don't want to get the paper signed because I feel guilty.( I need it for college ) .... my mom said that it was ok to get it signed because God knows that I did seva out of dedication, love, and faith. Yet, I feel super guilty. Should I get a paper signed stating I did community service..? I am extremely doubtful because I feel wierd and guilty. People who do Seva with me keep telling me how amazed that are with me capable of doing even for a long period of time. I have also made new friends in a way with older men and women who do Seva. I don't want them to think that I only did Seva to complete hours for community service. But then again I have limitations. My mom and I can't drive and my dad is busy at work all day so I have no ride to a medical Center or a place to do actual community service. ...And i think i could just tell them and they would understand, but i would still feel uncomfortable. What would you suggest Guru's gifted Sangat ji?

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2015-08-01 16:52:07 -0500 answered a question Amritdhari, masturbation, and kachera came off

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh For one, a Sikh shouldn't watch porn, next try to stop your masturbation. Do an Ardaas and ask for forgiveness but you have to be sincere. Don't do an Ardaas just to do it. It is ok if your kachera comes off accidentally, but the reason should be valid. Try to stop your problem by doing Seva, Paath, and Simran. Forgive me if I said anything wrong, Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

..... As far as I know, you don't have to do pesh as long as it is an accident, it is ok. Just do not repeat the mistake.

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2015-07-26 01:35:23 -0500 asked a question being a girl

Is there anything wrong if I'm a teenage girl and I want to build some muscle. I'm not going out all Hulk-like but can't I build even a little. Not even enough to where I can pick up something without the help of a guy? My mom and uncle repeatedly tell me not to build muscle because even a little because "Muscles don't suit girls, you won't get married, stop trying to show off that you are strong, don't compete with boys, you will look ugly, do what a girl is supposed to do.You'll get hurt." I want to build muscle so I can actually do things by myself. For example , when I do seva at the Gurdwara, my dad says not to pick up even a small bucket of water while the girls who are weaker than me (my friends who told me I am stronger than them) are doing it easily. Am I missing a line in the Bani where it says women aren't meant to be strong?( rhetorical question ) I have one life , in my life my goal is to meet God, but that doesn't mean I can't have other goals. I want to build muscles and I don't care how I look because at the end it won't matter who I married, it will only matter if I reached God. So why can't I build muscles?

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2015-06-22 02:29:20 -0500 asked a question Learning Gatka

WJKK WJKF, Sangat Ji, I will soon start Gatka practice and I am excited. I wanted to know how long it usually takes a person to master at least the Soti, Chakkra, and Kirpan.(sorry if misspelled). Do you have any past experiences that may help me on the way?

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2015-06-16 16:27:55 -0500 answered a question Sexism and Sikhi

Honestly, I agree with you. For reasons unknown women , even in Sikhi, aren't as important as they used to be. It actually makes me mad when I listen to some Sikh songs once in a while and they say something like :Guru Ji terai Singh ladlai instead of Guru Ji terai SIKH ladlai. Women are still considered weak. The other day I was cleaning the house and I moved the sofa to get the mess that was under the sofa...Not a big deal, I find it easy to pick up... But my mom said that I shouldn't pick up heavy stuff only guys should. I feel like women need to speak up. Many women these days are quiet and we , as females, need to fix that. In a way, this is our fault.

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2015-06-14 17:10:34 -0500 asked a question how do I Control my Anger?

How do I control my anger? My siblings always fight and yell. I tried to talk to my parents, they didn't help. I am usually calm but at home, everything goes wrong. I read Bani (and I understand it because I also read it in English) and it said that it is a persons responsibility to reform her or his( feminism ) family. Whenever I try to, everything backfires and my parents end up scolding me leaving me with more anger and guilt. I listen to Shabads, do Simran and Path, go to the Gurdwara weekly, though I wish to go daily, etc. My parents dont trust me because I HAVE AMRIT. Yup, they dont trust me because I tie a Keski. My parents have Amrit but the thing is that they think that one day I'll cut my hair and other kraits and they think I will shame them. I love Sikhi and unlike most girls that I know, I hate make up and shopping( unless for school or technology ) looking at meat makes me want to vomit and just by smelling or looking at it, I spit out the saliva in my mouth. I love Gatka and enjoy doing Seva. Yet my parents don't trust me , another big source of my anger.

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2015-06-04 22:45:16 -0500 asked a question Gurbaksh Singh

Bhai Gurbaksh Singh Ji had requested Panthic leaders to go on a one-day hunger strike. I feel that we should all do that. Knowing that people all over the world are doing it will help support him.

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2015-06-04 17:17:45 -0500 edited question Help Support Shaheed Sikh

It is June, one of the main months of the Martyrs. I am unfortunate that I live in America and not in India. I keep reading the news about how Shiv Sena followers are threatening the Sikh Kaum once again. Posters are being hung of Sant Jarnail Singh Bhindrawale and people are RIPPING THEM!!!!!! OH MY GOSH, and me... I am just sitting here with first-world problems and I HATE IT. I need something to do, (keep in mind, I am only 15 and a half so I can't do much). But I can't sit here. I want to protest or print pictures of Shaheed Sikh. I am really thinking about talking to the governers here and sending a bunch of letters to Barack Obama and others. I mean like what the. ..(I want to cuss badly but I won't as it is a krait) India, what's wrong with you????? YOU WONT RELEASE SIKH PRISONERS, I DON'T WHY I MEAN YOU KNOW, THAT EVEN I CAN GO OVER THERE AND JUST SHOOT YOU, I CAN LEARN HOW TO USE A GUN AND BECAUSE I AM YOUNGER, I AM QUICKER THAN MOST(I am also athletic). You just arrested Bapu Surat Singh Ji and harrassed him and his son who are both INNOCENT. They have absolutely no respect for Sikhs... How long will this continue???? I don't want to see it, I can gather my own group of Sikhs and do what previous Shaheed Sikh did. I can be a threat. I can be as brave as Sant Jarnail Singh Ji Bhindrawale, Satwant Singh, Beant Singh, Balwant Singh Rajoana, Kartar Singh Baaz, Sukha and Jinda... and the many MANY more. It's not fair, I understand that everybody basically goes through oppression, but we are not going to sit here, I have had enough, It's unfair and it is HIGH TIME that the Sikh Kaum wakes up. Just give me something to do and I will do it. Give me something big, something that will attract attention to the seriousness of the matter. *It is about time, actually overdue,that a female does something, rather than just being raped. * Come at me Government of India, I challege you. ALL OF YOU AGAINST THE KHALSA PANTH, AKAL PURAKH'S FAUJ, I DARE YOU TO COME AFTER ME.....