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WJKWJF I am a 25 year old girl, I was in a relationship since last 9 years. My boyfriend was just a family now after being together for so many years. We shared great respect, comfort and true commitment all these years. Now that it was the time to justify our relation and commitment, I don't know what happened to him. He asked his mom for her permission for our marriage and her being old fashioned and orthodox, she refused. Now he is telling me to forget it. I don't understand how is this even happening. I love him so much that when it comes to him nothing else matters and he loves me a lot too but for some reason this thought has settled in his mind that since we cannot pay back our parents for making our life so perfect by sacrificing their own, he wants to pay her mom back by sacrificing our relation. I respect his mom even when she dislikes me to the extent that she hates me. I still tell him that I will prove myself to be total opposite of what she is afraid about but he does not want to take one step against the will of his mother. Because to him, his mother has made so many sacrifices over the years and he does not want to go ahead and marry me which will hurt her for rest of her life. After discussing this and trying to convince him for months now I am broken and torn apart. Every night I prayed to God Almighty to help me, to do some miracle that she agrees herself. But no answers. Then I thought I'll leave it on time and whatever is in my sanjog I'll get. I am in dilemma, isnt it like God help those who help themselves? Should I give up knowing he loves me as much as I love and accept this irrational reason of giving up? Although he clearly told me that he cannot marry me, he does not want to break up and neither it seems to be feasible from my side. We decide one day that fine we won't contact each othr from now and on. But we are so used to each other that it doesn't work. He messages me next morning and no matter how hard I try to resist it I end up replying back and then the cycle begins of initially talking and then discussing marriage, then he refuses, then I get hurt and disappointed, I pray, I cease the contact, and then he messages/ calls, then I try to resist, then I reply and so on. I feel I am stuck in this cycle and don't know what to do. Can you suggest me what should I do? This is really ruining my life.

WJKWJF I am a 25 year old girl, I was in a relationship since last 9 years. My boyfriend was just a family now after being together for so many years. We shared great respect, comfort and true commitment all these years. Now that it was the time to justify our relation and commitment, I don't know what happened to him. He asked his mom for her permission for our marriage and her being old fashioned and orthodox, she refused. Now he is telling me to forget it. I don't understand how is this even happening. I love him so much that when it comes to him nothing else matters and he loves me a lot too but for some reason this thought has settled in his mind that since we cannot pay back our parents for making our life so perfect by sacrificing their own, he wants to pay her mom back by sacrificing our relation. I respect his mom even when she dislikes me to the extent that she hates me. I still tell him that I will prove myself to be total opposite of what she is afraid about but he does not want to take one step against the will of his mother. Because to him, his mother has made so many sacrifices over the years and he does not want to go ahead and marry me which will hurt her for rest of her life. After discussing this and trying to convince him for months now I am broken and torn apart. Every night I prayed to God Almighty to help me, to do some miracle that she agrees herself. But no answers. Then I thought I'll leave it on time and whatever is in my sanjog I'll get. I am in dilemma, isnt it like God help those who help themselves? Should I give up knowing he loves me as much as I love and accept this irrational reason of giving up? Although he clearly told me that he cannot marry me, he does not want to break up and neither it seems to be feasible from my side. We decide one day that fine we won't contact each othr from now and on. But we are so used to each other that it doesn't work. He messages me next morning and no matter how hard I try to resist it I end up replying back and then the cycle begins of initially talking and then discussing marriage, then he refuses, then I get hurt and disappointed, I pray, I cease the contact, and then he messages/ calls, then I try to resist, then I reply and so on. I feel I am stuck in this cycle and don't know what to do. Can you suggest me what should I do? This is really ruining my life.