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How Do I deal with my forced arrange marriage ? HELP

Here's the story of my life (Quite Tragic) that happened in merely 20-25 days...

I was living in bangalore and travelling to US often having my own successful software consulting company. I was happy. I had a girlfriend who is also in Bangalore. She is from Different caste and culture. I am Punjabi Sikh. She is gujurati Hindu. We were/are still madly in love. I asked my parents to fix my marriage with this girl many times but they denied. My parents didn't want me to marry out of culture or caste. They use to emotionally blackmail me if this happen we will kill ourself. My mom was supportive. But dad not at all.

So they forced me into an arrange marriage. I tried stopping them. They did all the emotional drama a family can do. They fixed my marriage in just merely 15-20 days, saying all the other relatives from aboard are here for one of the other family marriage, so we might as well just do your marriage as well and get rid of our responsibilities. They say you will automatically adjust to this new stranger i got married too.

So here i am married to a stranger. A nice girl who is only kitchen oriented, we have nothing in common. We are not compatible at all. I don't have any attraction towards her. She do have it towards me. I never consider her as my wife.

It's been almost month of my marriage. We fight so much. We don't talk. Not compatible at all. I am bit modern..she is very outdated or you can say she is from a small village so we have anything in common at all. Then I had to come to US for work and now she is alone in India with my family.

I want to divorce her. I am still madly in love with my girlfriend. I spoke with my wife and my parents regarding all this .. I told all of them I am going to peacefully end this and now my parents are thinking society will think bad of us. They are again blackmailing me just like before they forced me into the marriage. They again blackmailing me that they will do suicide or something. My mom is still supportive for me. She just wants to see everyone happy. She also told me once my dad is only doing this blackmailing drama so that you kill all your desires in life and accept this stranger girl they got me married to.

Also, As in India, girl can file false dowry case etc. We are all worried about that too now.

Also, My parents say...No girl will ever marry me because the families and relatives or anyone will think I am not a trustworthy guy and I have played with an innocent girl life.

Please help me fix this situation in my life. Please suggest me what should I now ?

Your URGENT resonse would be highly appreciated.

How Do I deal with my forced arrange marriage ? HELP

Here's the story of my life (Quite Tragic) that happened in merely 20-25 days...

I was living in bangalore and travelling to US often having my own successful software consulting company. I was happy. I had a girlfriend who is also in Bangalore. She is from Different caste and culture. I am Punjabi Sikh. She is gujurati Hindu. We were/are still madly in love. I asked my parents to fix my marriage with this girl many times but they denied. My parents didn't want me to marry out of culture or caste. They use to emotionally blackmail me if this happen we will kill ourself. My mom was supportive. But dad not at all.

So they forced me into an arrange marriage. I tried stopping them. They did all the emotional drama a family can do. They fixed my marriage in just merely 15-20 days, saying all the other relatives from aboard are here for one of the other family marriage, so we might as well just do your marriage as well and get rid of our responsibilities. They say you will automatically adjust to this new stranger i got married too. I am 27 yrs and she is 22yrs. Still both very young.

So here i am married to a stranger. A nice girl who is only kitchen oriented, we have nothing in common. We are not compatible at all. I don't have any attraction towards her. She do have it towards me. I never consider her as my wife.

It's been almost month of my marriage. We fight so much. We don't talk. Not compatible at all. I am bit modern..she is very outdated or you can say she is from a small village so we have anything in common at all. Then I had to come to US for work and now she is alone in India with my family.

I want to divorce her. I am still madly in love with my girlfriend. I spoke with my wife and my parents regarding all this .. I told all of them I am going to peacefully end this and now my parents are thinking society will think bad of us. They are again blackmailing me just like before they forced me into the marriage. They again blackmailing me that they will do suicide or something. My mom is still supportive for me. She just wants to see everyone happy. She also told me once my dad is only doing this blackmailing drama so that you kill all your desires in life and accept this stranger girl they got me married to.

Also, As in India, girl can file false dowry case etc. We are all worried about that too now.

Also, My parents say...No girl will ever marry me because the families and relatives or anyone will think I am not a trustworthy guy and I have played with an innocent girl life.

Please help me fix this situation in my life. Please suggest me what should I now ?

Your URGENT resonse would be highly appreciated.