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I was married for last 15 years and my son is of 14 years. My husband is Amritdhari sikh and he told me to be amritdhari. Even I had done the same before marriage but after marriage it was difficult for me to follow rules of amritdhari as I was working in Corporate sector where I had to maintain my looks. My married life was very bad since beginning. In starting there was financial and family disputes. I feel he was Mama's boy and it will take some time for him to understand the place of wife in life.

We have so many fights since beginning issues are financial about my salary which in starting I had given to my father-in-law, going to my parents home, household work and so on. I was keep trying to fulfill all his wishes but all in vein. He always told me lie things and disrespect my integrity as a women. Abuse me in front of his family, my son and in alone also but I was thinking one day he will understand. He had taken me out of his parental home. For last 11 years we are leaving at rental home. So many times I convinced him emotionally, pressurized to purchase a home for our future. Even I am agreed to give all of my savings to him for purchase of home but he always given so many excuses for not purchasing home and showing me wrong for each and everything that I will not allow him to stay in the house. I will show him the power of my money and so on. Actually, I am working and taking care of maximum household expenses since beginning which he wants me to do.

Now, for last one year I get to know he is in extra marital affair with an unmarried woman which was disclosed by my son only and now he openely came in front of me and said in Gurudwara that he is in extra marital affair with a woman but he and his girl friend had sexual relationship also but when I made an issue of this thing at home. He was not accepting his relationship but even saying he will not keep any relationship with anybody including me in front of his mother. His mother knows all the facts but she was also refusing for the same.

I don't know what to do? He behaves very badly with me. He abuse me and my parents alot and now I don't what he was going to do with me and my son. He was playing with my emotions from a day one and make me a victim for all his faults. Is Amritdhari sikh can keep extra marital affair with non sikh women and show himself as amritdhari sikh.

Now, I am feeling what am giving my son what he learn from his parents.

Please guide me.

WJKWJF

I was married for last 15 years and my son is of 14 years. My husband is Amritdhari sikh and he told me to be amritdhari. Even I had done the same before marriage but after marriage it was difficult for me to follow rules of amritdhari as I was working in Corporate sector where I had to maintain my looks. My married life was very bad since beginning. In starting there was financial and family disputes. I feel he was Mama's boy and it will take some time for him to understand the place of wife in life.

We have so many fights since beginning issues are financial about my salary which in starting I had given to my father-in-law, going to my parents home, household work and so on. I was keep trying to fulfill all his wishes but all in vein. He always told me lie things and disrespect my integrity as a women. Abuse me in front of his family, my son and in alone also but I was thinking one day he will understand. He had taken me out of his parental home. For last 11 years we are leaving at rental home. So many times I convinced him emotionally, pressurized to purchase a home for our future. Even I am agreed to give all of my savings to him for purchase of home but he always given so many excuses for not purchasing home and showing me wrong for each and everything that I will not allow him to stay in the house. I will show him the power of my money and so on. Actually, I am working and taking care of maximum household expenses since beginning which he wants me to do.

Now, for last one year I get to know he is in extra marital affair with an unmarried woman which was disclosed by my son only and now he openely came in front of me and said in Gurudwara that he is in extra marital affair with a woman but he and his girl friend had sexual relationship also but when I made an issue of this thing at home. He was not accepting his relationship but even saying he will not keep any relationship with anybody including me in front of his mother. His mother knows all the facts but she was also refusing for the same.

I don't know what to do? He behaves very badly with me. He abuse me and my parents alot and now I don't what he was going to do with me and my son. He was playing with my emotions from a day one and make me a victim for all his faults. Is Amritdhari sikh can keep extra marital affair with non sikh women and show himself as amritdhari sikh.

Now, I am feeling what am giving my son what he learn from his parents.

Please guide me.