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Confused over my own decision.

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh.

I am in my early twenties. With Guru Ji's kirpa, I am now having a little more knowledge of Sikhism, gurbani, do's and don'ts, rehat maryada etc. May I be blessed with more. Having said that, I'm in a relationship which I'm quite serious about. My confusion arose due to his habits and doings (consuming alcohol etc). It wasn't a problem during the early stage of this relationship as I used to think that it is okay for him to be doing whatever he does as long as I'm okay with it. But now that I have gained a little more knowledge of Sikhi, I know that whatever he is doing, is forbidden in Sikhi (although I knew it earlier) and I am no longer comfortable with it.

I have tried having conversation about this with him and I'm convinced that he will not change himself any soon. All he wants is for me to accept him as how he is. I do not know how to deal with this problem. I'm confused whether to let him be as how he is, accept him as how he is and at the same time, to carry on walking on the right path given by our forefathers. Or, to actually leave him. I do love him but I'm stuck. I do not know what will be the right thing to do.

Sincerely, Confused Kaur.

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Confused over my own decision.

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh.

I am in my early twenties. With Guru Ji's kirpa, I am now having a little more knowledge of Sikhism, gurbani, do's and don'ts, rehat maryada etc. May I be blessed with more. Having said that, I'm in a relationship which I'm quite serious about. My confusion arose due to his habits and doings (consuming alcohol etc). It wasn't a problem during the early stage of this relationship as I used to think that it is okay for him to be doing whatever he does as long as I'm okay with it. But now that I have gained a little more knowledge of Sikhi, I know that whatever he is doing, is forbidden in Sikhi (although I knew it earlier) and I am no longer comfortable with it.

I have tried having conversation about this with him and I'm convinced that he will not change himself any soon. All he wants is for me to accept him as how he is. I do not know how to deal with this problem. I'm confused whether to let him be as how he is, accept him as how he is and at the same time, to carry on walking on the right path given by our forefathers. Or, to actually leave him. I do love him but I'm stuck. I do not know what will be the right thing to do.

Sincerely, Confused Kaur.