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Hello, i am writing this with extreme pain and sorrow, my little brother who was only 21 died in a terrible car accident in Oct,2016.I understand that it was god's hukum and soul has to leave after number of breath given is used. But i and my family completely shattered from inside, because of the attachment.He was really a kind soul, did a lot of sewa at gurudwara sahib , doing paath some of the time. I mean his overall personality was so charming and influencing. He was like the backbone of our house although he was small but was taking care of every matter. My dad is hiv positive, my older brother has a charge syndrome( less intellgence than normal , infertile, body balancing issues , hearing issues etc), i dont understand why this has to happen to us like my family never did anything bad to anyone. My dad is the most generous person i have ever seen although he does not do any paath but never hurted anyone and always did good deeds. My mom dedicated her entire life to her children because she conceived us with much difficulty. She raised us and took care of us like no one, never hurted anyone. So my brother was badly needed to support my brother and took care of many affairs which i cannot replace as i dont live back home. My question is why he had to die so young? why he was given so less number of breath, was it that he had really bad karma in the past that god gave him so little time ?? or is that my family did such bad karma in the past for which we have to suffer now and see our little baby going. i feel like we have done extreme paap in the past like i really cant see my mother, father , older brother state of mind. It is extremely unbearable.

It was not that we forgot waheguru ji earlier, but chanting him a lot more now is not making any difference to the pain in the heart. I understand its moh but still how a mother can see his child going unless you are really far away from those five evils. It doesn't seem possible to forget him. And i feel so bad that why he was given so little time on this earth , to understand life, to become closer to god and to do many other good things and i am really afraid thinking what must be happening to his soul at present, has he gone into reincarnation or what, something we will never know and is in god's hand.

I have learned to live in god's hukum now but i dont beleive that i will achieve that state of peace in my lifetime as we are so engrossed in moh mayea.My mother still wish and pray good for me and my older brother. I cant see her suffering. I am very emotional too and i was so close to my brother.

Last but not the least, i would really be grateful if guruka singh ji can answer my question and provide me with advise to help his soul.I really want to do something for his soul, to help his soul attain peace, to pray god to forgive his bad karma. To really help him wherever he is. Please help.

Hello, i am writing this with extreme pain and sorrow, my little brother who was only 21 died in a terrible car accident in Oct,2016.I understand that it was god's hukum and soul has to leave after number of breath given is used. But i and my family completely shattered from inside, because of the attachment.He was really a kind soul, did a lot of sewa at gurudwara sahib , doing paath some of the time. I mean his overall personality was so charming and influencing. He was like the backbone of our house although he was small but was taking care of every matter. My dad is hiv positive, my older brother has a charge syndrome( less intellgence than normal , infertile, body balancing issues , hearing issues etc), i dont understand why this has to happen to us like my family never did anything bad to anyone. My dad is the most generous person i have ever seen although he does not do any paath but never hurted anyone and always did good deeds. My mom dedicated her entire life to her children because she conceived us with much difficulty. She raised us and took care of us like no one, never hurted anyone. So my brother was badly needed to support my brother and took care of many affairs which i cannot replace as i dont live back home. My question is why he had to die so young? why he was given so less number of breath, was it that he had really bad karma in the past that god gave him so little time ?? or is that my family did such bad karma in the past for which we have to suffer now and see our little baby going. i feel like we have done extreme paap in the past like i really cant see my mother, father , older brother state of mind. It is extremely unbearable.

It was not that we forgot waheguru ji earlier, but chanting him a lot more now is not making any difference to the pain in the heart. I understand its moh but still how a mother can see his child going unless you are really far away from those five evils. It doesn't seem possible to forget him. And i feel so bad that why he was given so little time on this earth , to understand life, to become closer to god and to do many other good things and i am really afraid thinking what must be happening to his soul at present, has he gone into reincarnation or what, something we will never know and is in god's hand.

I have learned to live in god's hukum now but i dont beleive that i will achieve that state of peace in my lifetime as we are so engrossed in moh mayea.My mother still wish and pray good for me and my older brother. I cant see her suffering. I am very emotional too and i was so close to my brother.

Last but not the least, i would really be grateful if guruka singh ji can answer my question and provide me with advise to help his soul.I really want to do something for his soul, to help his soul attain peace, to pray god to forgive his bad karma. To really help him wherever he is. Please help.