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asked 2016-07-27 14:19:46 -0500

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When I think about my past there r some things that i cant believe about myself. I used to cry in the class for no reason. I didnt enjoy my school life at all. I was a very quiet student . I have also done such things that I feel like that was not me. My life was not supposed to be like that. Now I hate myself so much.

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Thank you for sharing your experience. What is your question?

Guruka Singh gravatar imageGuruka Singh ( 2016-07-27 17:00:44 -0500 )edit

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answered 2016-07-27 18:26:52 -0500

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Sounds like you are struggling to move forward with your life because your past is pulling you back and making you feel bad about yourself. I hated myself too. Two things helped me the most: counselling; and meeting inspiring sangat so I started doing simran. I cut out the people in my life who continued to pull me down and brought in the very very few people who reminded me that the purpose of my life is to meet God, and that means I have to love myself because God is inside me. Now I know that just telling you that doesn't help. If I had told myself that a few months ago, it wouldn't have changed the way I FELT inside. I'm hoping by telling you this you at least know that it is possible to get over that feeling. The person you were isn't the person you are today, don't let your past define you. You can't go back in time and tell yourself or teach yourself what you didn't know. When we look back, things are distorted in our minds. We tend to think "why did I do that. I should have done this instead." But that's using the knowledge and skills we have today. God forgives all of us, we are all worthy of His love and forgiveness. You don't need to punish yourself by continually hating yourself, denying yourself love and happiness. We are continually renewing ourselves, we learn more each day and we can't define ourselves by yesterday's mistakes.

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answered 2016-07-31 01:34:28 -0500

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What if in the middle of our life we are not settled? How we need to approach life and how can we be more productive and spend a fulfilled life?

This is a transition period for many people, and often it comes with an empty nest as children leave, dissatisfaction with a career, uncertainty about the future and a often a realization that mortality is quite real. If you're unsettled at this time, it is likely that you need to work through your issues directly rather than running from them. Perhaps it is a time for a new job, new hobby, new friends. Maybe it's time to reconnect with your spouse, your parents and old friends. Spend more time doing the things that matter, like being with family, reflecting on your life and finding that job that sparks you.

How do I increase my motivation, drive, and ambition?

This depends on what your dreams and ambitions are. What does getting your life in order mean to you? Life is messy and never easy, so most of the time it will never be in order. Learn to be happy with the life you have and be grateful for the people who are going through life with you. Getting our life in order could take up to a few days to years. Just be happy with your own life and don't get dragged down into what you think your life should look like.


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