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asked 2012-11-29 16:26:35 -0600

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Is sex allowed before marriage in Sikhizm? Should my husband-to-be see me naked before marriage?

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Let me guess. Your fiancé is forcing you to do so?

kanwaljit.singh gravatar imagekanwaljit.singh ( 2012-11-30 14:28:58 -0600 )edit

He doesn't force me to do it, but he often talk about it. I don't know what I should think, but I love him really much. He wants me to be Sikh like him, cause I am not, but I have never expected such thing from him before marriage... and as I see the anwers here I am confused.

Nadalia gravatar imageNadalia ( 2012-12-01 04:29:12 -0600 )edit

Frankly this kind of behavior is very unbecoming of him. Kind of unexpected from a Sikh. But then he has to be honest with you. Ask him shouldn't he achieve Sach Khand (True State) before marriage. That should surprise him!

kanwaljit.singh gravatar imagekanwaljit.singh ( 2012-12-01 22:30:25 -0600 )edit

I don't understand the Sach Khand *True State. I don't know how it relate with my problem

Nadalia gravatar imageNadalia ( 2012-12-03 10:35:48 -0600 )edit

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answered 2012-12-01 06:16:54 -0600

Sardar Sukhmeet Singh gravatar image

Waheguru has not obtained this as a positive way, either he has no true desire from his heart to be with you, he fully has not been gifted the Sikhi way, or should it happen, he has lost the honor of being a human being, which is for any faith or path as all paths will lead happiness, Waheguru will teach this man, These are wishes for me to you, Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

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answered 2012-11-29 16:38:36 -0600

pawan gravatar image

NO! I don't think any world religion allows sex before marriage. If your husband is demanding such things from you, it's an indication that you should find another man to spend your life with.

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answered 2012-11-30 06:49:27 -0600

unknownkaur gravatar image

I agree with the answers given above and it's really sad to see that girls in this day & age have to see this...God bless you jeeo....and you're lucky that sangat is guiding you...

A suggestion to there a way by which we can write issues like mentioned above so that it helps the youth to understand the real meaning of marriage and if point (like the one mentioned above) come up in their life then they can make a right decision.

I think things like this, a girl cannot disclose to anyone so if there's a way we can all put down would be very helpful...

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answered 2012-12-03 11:40:56 -0600

Guruka Singh gravatar image

The fact that you posted your question here means that you have doubts. When you have doubts, do not act. When you feel emotional, do not act. When your intuition alerts you, do not act.

Act only when you are clear.

When is your marriage?

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It is very complicated. We can't get married yet. If comes to my hesitating - I just want to obey God's commands, becuase it is important for me, not like it is for most people. I really love him. I want to get closer to him, but we should be marriage, only this and should wait...

Nadalia gravatar imageNadalia ( 2012-12-04 02:48:57 -0600 )edit

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