There is a lot of negative energy around but outside we can ignore it. But if it comes from your parents it becomes unbreatheable so as a result i just avoid talking to them. But i also feel selfish when i do that. So when i make the effort to talk again they will say something again so negative that it pierces my soul. The reason it hurts is because of the moh i have for them. what do i do? Just avoid speaking to them
Your parents know how to hurt you and you know how to hurt them. That is what happens in blood families. It requires a conscious change in communication to end the cycle. You cannot expect anyone else to do it. You must do it yourself. When you meditate and develop your neutral mind, then you can keep your heart open and have compassion to those who try to hurt you. When anyone has the intention to hurt someone else with their words or actions, they will incur karmas. That's just how life works.
Have you seen this vid? "Blood Family and Spiritual Family"
Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh
We have to live in this world, at times it can be hard. But we've been taught to respect our parents, because what they have done for us, we don't fully know. Its hard, and I need to still learn this as well.
Remember just remaining silent within is not going to bring us inner silence.
I remember a story of Guru Nanak Dev Ji, where he went two villages. One where people disliked each other and had problems, the other people lived happily. Guru ji said that he hopes all the people disliked each stay together so they don't spread their negativity. But he said he hopes the positive people split up, so they spread their good qualities.
What you can try and do, is be normal with your parents, and maybe one day your goodness will rub off against them. But don't forget that you are their daughter, avoiding them won't change them it might make matters worse.
Another to think about this, is because Guru ji has put you in this situation so you learn (sikh) and carry on with life.
Hopefully this helped you a bit. Please forgive me if i said anything wrong or offensive.
Sat Sri Akaal
Not at all, not at all. For Heaven's sake please do not repeat the same mistake which i did in my life. What i have realized in my life is that our Parents are equivalent to Akal Purakh, we all ought to remember this all the time.
Asked: 2016-01-15 17:51:12 -0500
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Last updated: Jan 18 '16
