He was my best friend we use to share all the details of daily life and then he suddenly passed away bcoz of heart attack ,he was my mentor friend nd guide im feeling helpless nd bad.
My condolences.
let pain be your medicine. always the answer to most questions is meditation and doing sewa. but you have to find own reasons to do it, in this case the least destructive path that will make your pain better would be to pray to god, instead of turning to negative things. life isn't a box of chocolates but making a relationship with god makes life go smoother (this concept is discussed in shri guru granth sahib over and over again). and seek friends to share feelings with. and keep yourself a little busy.
you don't have to say it, but in the end anger against god backfires. my mom didn't pray for so long after her dad died. because she felt like it was unfair. but eventually she does now.
god has already given you everything (life) your body is running automatically, you don;t have to think about it (its just nature) and who governs nature?. i do say this a lot because it was eye opening, but this whole universe is run by some power. its not random. just like laws of gravity and day and night, life and death is also a law and we all know it but we don;t wanna know it.
when we meditate we are meditating on this truth, this universal truth. and we keep meditating, until this truth seems sweet. because truth and lie, wouldn't you rather just meditate on the truth?
this truth sets you free while you live.
love but love without attachments, easy to say i know. but the only way is through lots and lots of meditation. pain is something good and can enrich you if focused it in the right direction.
and you loved your friend, now pray to god (be very serious about it) and ask god to take your grief away. please don't hold on to the grief. you can still love your friend and miss him but don't hold on to the grief.
Asked: 2015-12-17 01:35:11 -0500
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