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ruining my family

asked 2015-07-30 05:57:56 -0500

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I took my children abroad for studies after tenth and twelfth against the wishes of my husband and in laws. one became a doctor and other became an engineer. But within their very first jobs both my children failed miserably.They both not only failed in their careers but also in life. One has become gay and we don't know about his whereabouts and the other one is not able to get married even after attempts of six years. Both my children were born to me with Sri Guru Ramdas Ji's blessings and 'mannats' I had made at Darbar Sahib. But I forgot the difficult times when I was issueless and used to cry all the time. I forgot all about the 'mannats' I had made at Sri Darbar Sahib for these children and tred against the wishes of my God fearing husband. I have lost peace of mind as I have ruined my family with my own hands. I can not even do the 'paath' not even do the 'matha tek' as my conscience has become so guilty. I am so full of negative thoughts that I never smile. I get afraid while doing paath when it says about 'jaisa beejey so lunhey'. I can't read the bani because when I understand the meanings I become very very fearful. I have realized that there is no sound in 'Rab di Laathi'. Can some body pray for me as I am unable to even do 'ardaas' as my mind is so full of negativity that I can not even say my prayers. Is there any hope of redemption for me?

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answered 2015-07-30 07:26:42 -0500

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Sat Sri Akaal

We are human and we make mistakes, otherwise the Gurus and other spiritual leaders would not need teach us anything. Even elders to terrible things, you have realised but all I can say is keep praying, the guilt will fade. You can be healed as your sons have their own journey and you have to take some feeling that you are paying for your so called mistake,Im guessing it all comes to intention, I don't believe by what you are saying, that is was done with a evil heart but a mistake to improve a situation.I am not a parent and I am sure someone here will be able to give you more advice, I can only say keep the faith.You are a Mother and a Mother can be very harsh on herself if things do not work out , you coming here shows that you did not mean to do bad. Waheguru Je Ka Khalsa, WaheGuru Je ke Fateh!

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