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how do I Control my Anger?

asked 2015-06-14 17:10:34 -0600

Jaskirat Kaur gravatar image

updated 2015-06-15 10:29:29 -0600

Guruka Singh gravatar image

How do I control my anger? My siblings always fight and yell. I tried to talk to my parents, they didn't help. I am usually calm but at home, everything goes wrong. I read Bani (and I understand it because I also read it in English) and it said that it is a persons responsibility to reform her or his( feminism ) family. Whenever I try to, everything backfires and my parents end up scolding me leaving me with more anger and guilt. I listen to Shabads, do Simran and Path, go to the Gurdwara weekly, though I wish to go daily, etc. My parents dont trust me because I HAVE AMRIT. Yup, they dont trust me because I tie a Keski. My parents have Amrit but the thing is that they think that one day I'll cut my hair and other kraits and they think I will shame them. I love Sikhi and unlike most girls that I know, I hate make up and shopping( unless for school or technology ) looking at meat makes me want to vomit and just by smelling or looking at it, I spit out the saliva in my mouth. I love Gatka and enjoy doing Seva. Yet my parents don't trust me , another big source of my anger.

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answered 2015-06-15 10:28:50 -0600

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Waheguru Ji ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji ki Fateh!

Your amrit is your amrit. It is between you and your Guru. Maharaj Ji gave his amrit to you and that relationship has nothing to do with your parents. You be you. Treat your parents with grace and love, but do not give any energy to their perceived lack of trust or their doubt. That belongs to them, not you.

You cannot control your anger. And why should you? It is a part of you. It is your heat, your fire. You cannot control it, but you can use it constructively instead of destructively by redirecting it.

Check out this video: The Five Challenges (Lust, Anger, Greed, Pride, Attachment)

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answered 2015-06-23 02:11:23 -0600

JustMe gravatar image

Guruka Ji! I was interested in watching the video above but it's blocked in my country, is there any way you could fix that so I can? Please & thank you!

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