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asked 2015-06-01 14:32:16 -0600

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updated 2015-06-01 17:46:01 -0600

WJKK WJKF I... am in a dilemma. (There are so many things) 1. I can't do Paath at all.... - My dad wakes up from around 2 a.m. to 4 a.m. to do Paath and around that time he also goes to work. If I wake up at 12 or 1, I disturb him as the shower will make a loud noise. My dad already barely sleep 3 hours a day ( Guru di kirpa naal ). When my dad does wake up, he is loud. My dad has had a problem with Plegm (stuff that runs through your throat) so he constantly has to spit... and it is VERY LOUD. So I can't wake up anytime between 12 and 4 and by that time, the main time of Amritvela is over so I don't have any Paath or Simran done. 2. I try to wake up early.... -Realizing that I can't wake up from 12 to 4, I try to wake up at 6. That is hard for me because I sleep 2-5 hours a night( I have an extremely hard time trying to fall asleep, even if I do Simran or listen to Shabads. So say I fall asleep at 3 (which I did last night.. technically this morning while my dad was awake) if I wake up at 6, I only sleep for 3 hours, To shower and do Nitnem( excluding Simran) it will be about 7:30. My youngest brother will wake up at that time and he will go downstairs and start playing, yelling, or even crying. (There goes the amount of attention I pay to the Bani at that time) 3. Games..... -Today I woke up and saw that everybody was awake, cousin,(my cousin lives with us, he is 6 going on to 7 this month), siblings, parents and uncle, (my dad was at work and still is there) and the kids are playing on the Wii game console. They had been playing for 2 hours already and everyday they usually play for about 7 to 9 hours( no exaggeration ). So I got upset that even today I couldn't even concentrate on just 5 minutes of Simran so I went downstairs and turned off the game. Well, my siblings and cousin started crying and told my mom. I expected her to back me up but instead she said that she will beat me up if I don't set up the game for the kids. 4. The general stuff at home.... -In the house that Waheguru has placed me in can not go one entire day without saying at the very least, 20 bad words. My mom says bad words, so do my siblings . My mom says it when she gets angry with the kids and my siblings say it when they fight.(every hour at least). I promise you, try spending one day in this house, there will be at least on of the following going on for ... (more)

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answered 2015-06-02 08:26:46 -0600

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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

Relax. The main thing is you are trying. Im 20 and I say your doing much better than me.

Buy some headphones, get a decent pair of headphones that have good noise isolation (check the reviews) or noise cancelation headphones.

It's good to see you care about your dad, ask him to gargle with salt and water before he sleeps will help him reduce his mucus.

I live in a family where my dad and brother swear, and there older than me. Best thing to do every time you swear is do one mool mantar after. Eventually you will swear less.

Your mum sounds like she takes their side for some peace.

For your Amirt vela problem. Ask the sangat on their, they can advice you much better than me.

At least your thinking about 1984, thats a blessing in itself.

Don't run away, hopefully your family will learn from you. Think of this as training to do Path/Simran in the most noisiest conditions. I was at the Gudwara the other day, and the Akhand Path still going on it amazed the Bhai Ji could focus, a little noise breaks my concentration when doing path.

Sit down with your parents and uncle and ask tell them, that its getting difficult for you. Ask them to stop them making noises for an hour.

Please forgive me if i said anything wrong or offensive.

Hope you remain in Chardi Kala

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

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