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Being unattached question ?

asked 2015-02-13 17:24:51 -0500

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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

My friend asked me a question, saying what does it mean to remain unattached from your family. I could not answer this. But I though about this and what I think it means is to remember that your family wont go with you in the end all your bonds will break when we die. Is this what being unattached to your family means ?

I know Guru Sahib Ji wants us to live a normal life and have family, so we should love and care for our family as well right?

Please forgive me if i said anything wrong or offensive

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

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answered 2015-02-23 13:44:34 -0500

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updated 2015-02-23 13:45:15 -0500

Waheguru Ji ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji ki Fateh!

Loving and caring is different from attachment. Attachment is when you are unable to give something up. When that person or thing has power over you. The alcoholic is attached to the bottle and the lover is attached to the beloved. That is why romantic love evolves into deeper love - prem. That is why you attach yourself only to the Guru. That is the only attachment that will carry you across this world ocean. So yes, love and care for your family but do not bind yourself to them.

The poet William Blake summed it up nicely:

"He who binds to himself a joy does the winged life destroy; But he who kisses the joy as it flies lives in eternity's sun rise."

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answered 2015-08-30 21:58:28 -0500

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I completely agree with above comment Emotional entanglement is something that is actually encouraged in our society look at Bollywood. :/(like i love u so much that i think day and night i cant sleep eat etc etc) it makes us believe that love is like that. but in actuality emotional attachment to living mortal beings is actually equivalent to pain. And that is why it is mentioned as a vice in our bani. Emotional attachment to somebody means that you are no longer able have focus to connect to your soul, and to god. Because you are so caught up in the other person. Caring abd loving about someone is completely different, it means that you will do things for them without any expectations because you know that in the end no body is able to take these worldly possessions with them. Because possessions means fear of losing. and literally to become one with god we need to get rid of possessiveness (emotional entanglements)

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