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asked 2015-01-31 23:15:04 -0600

Guru Pyara gravatar image

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh. I am from jammu nd I am 19 year old boy. My question is that I am in a relationship with a girl for more than 3 and half years. We love each other vey much. I had been baptised into amrit. My girl belongs to a gursikh family bt she has not been baptised into amrit yet ( amrit nhi chhakiya hoya). We both know that that we are going to marry each other and if for some reason we couldn't marry each other, we will live a single life (but will not get marry to any-one else). Even our families know about our relation and they are OK with it. Now my question is that being an amrit dhari person, can we kiss each other, (she is not amrit dhari girl). I found no problem in it bt still i want to knw from you people that is it OK with that. WE KNOW THE LIMITS OF BEING IN RELATION AND HOW FAR WE CAN GO, WE HAVE NEVER EVEN THOUGHT ABOUT PHYSICAL RELATION BEFORE MARRIAGE. We know that it should not be done bt i think kiss is not a big deal. So please suggest your opinions coz i really need it, thankyou Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh.

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answered 2015-02-04 12:35:36 -0600

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but I know and I had made my mind over it that I will not marry any girl except her and same is he case with her. Our families are knowing this and they have no objection, so there doesn't arises a question of not marrying her.

I think so......

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answered 2015-02-04 07:50:56 -0600

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A simple kiss is just a show of human love and affection or even a way of greeting someone. It can also lead to more than just a simple you understand this?

Your Girl....friend is not Amritdhari yet but you ARE you say you plan to marry. You do realise that she also is suppose to become amritdhari before marriage so that both of you are on the same level of Sikh code of conduct.

You are young and maturity is on it's way, so how do you know that you will not marry someone else if your girl...friend will not become your wife?

Look love IS blind when you only think shallow. You got to go deeper to realise true life is not like a movie where you fall head over heels in love with someone and then think there is no other!

You want to ask yourselves where do we want to be 5-10 years from now...? Who do we wish to become?


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answered 2019-12-04 13:37:40 -0600

I was wondering the same thing and I don’t think it’s a big deal if you don’t have any attention of having sex but tell me if I can kiss her Ik that you can’t have sex it’s just a kiss

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