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Confused and depressed about my rehat

asked 2014-08-09 10:21:49 -0600

Gurpreet qwerty gravatar image

WJKK WJKF yes I am confused At times I want to trim my beard Every morning when I leave for college I look at myself and say I want to trim it I keep thinking about it I keep asking myself is it because of my beard I have never been in a relationship
I have never been able to make great friends I can't talk to girls I think they will mock me regarding my hair They say Sikhs are special Sikhs are the privileged ones Then why are Sikhs subject to hate crimes Yes I am depressed because these things keep coming in my mind Maybe the questions I have asked aren't appropriate but I can't help it I can't keep them within me any longer I need help Before I had thought of cutting my hair but then slowly that idea went away Till now I have not removed even a single hair from my body but let me be very honest it's getting harder day by day Please help !!!!

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answered 2014-08-12 11:09:39 -0600

Guruka Singh gravatar image

You say "I have never been able to make great friends I can't talk to girls I think they will mock me regarding my hair " This is not about your hairs. This is about your self-esteem. The first relationship you must establish is your relationship with yourself. You won't have true friends (sadhsangat) and you won't have worthwhile relationships with girls until you establish a deeper relationship with yourself. You will not find out who you are from other people. You cannot please other people. You can, however, explore your own identity and your inner relationship with that. Go for these answers: Who am I? What are my core values? Do I love myself, and if not, why not?

Then the rest will unfold for you naturally. First things first. It's not about your hair.

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answered 2014-08-11 12:50:15 -0600

Anonymous sikh gravatar image

To be honest, you will encounter 2 groups of Sikhs; when they will be answering your question whether you should trim your beard or not? One group will use religion as a basis to their argument that you should maintain a full grown beard, the other group will say whatever satisfies you internally. Honestly I trim my beard as well, whatever decision you decide to take should be your own decision and don't get swayed by other people's decision. I too encountered the same problem you did at once, so I know where your coming from, I totally understand your dilemma, whatever decision you may take be sure you decide at your own free will not by any person's thinking or any person using religion as a basis for you to follow their path.

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