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asked 2012-10-22 13:18:33 -0600

Gurpreet Singh Khalsa gravatar image

Sir I am facing a great dilemma. I am amritdhari Singh and with guru's kirpa do sehaj path everyday. but I like a girl in gurdwara. I like her a lottt. she has all qualties I want in a girl as she is also amritdhari,ties dumala and even loves guru. But she don't have any such feelings for me and I even heard that she considers me as brother. what should I do? I only loved her and never thought any thing less.

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How old are you? If you like her ask her out on a date but outside the gurdwara.

Anonymous sikh gravatar imageAnonymous sikh ( 2012-12-04 10:58:26 -0600 )edit

Like Prabh Kaur said Aww. Even I think this is cute but brother think it through do you really love her or is it just a silly crush? I'm not suggesting that you ask her out on a date or anything to know weather she likes you or not but all I'm say'n is think it through properly. God Bless you :)

new user gravatar imagenew user ( 2012-12-04 12:59:06 -0600 )edit

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answered 2012-10-29 11:39:08 -0600

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I'm so sorry to hear about your dilemma. Rest assured that this too will pass. How do you know for sure that she considers you a brother? I'm not sure how old you are, but try talking to her (or her family) and let her know how you feel. Be straightforward, honest and respectful. If she doesn't feel the same way, then you have your answer and you can move on with a clear mind. It's tough and it may hurt a while, but keep doing naam simran and your activities at the gurdwara to keep yourself busy. Trust me, their are plenty of other eligible women around you, just keep your eyes and your heart open. In the end, relationships are determined by God, we meet and marry the people we do based on our karmas. Take the time to grow and learn about yourself. All the best.

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answered 2012-11-08 16:13:56 -0600

Prabh Kaur gravatar image

Awwwww first of all, how old are you :->.

Secondly I agree with pkaur3030. You should talk to her and if she says NO then you should respect that. Waheguru has made someone for everyone so just wait you will be blessed with someone who is really meant to be for you.

Good luck!

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answered 2012-11-13 22:55:15 -0600

Waheguru ji ka Khalsa Waheguru ji ki Fateh

If you are at the age of Marriage, talk to an elder Singh to talk to her about it. If not, then lets not engage in Moh :)Guru Sahib makes our bonds themselves, moreover, sangat chooses our potential ones but we can always suggest.

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answered 2012-12-04 10:25:08 -0600

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updated 2012-12-04 10:26:23 -0600

dear friend gurdwara is not a spot for friendship if ur sister visits gurughar and somebody keeps a dirty eye on her so thn hws it feel nd its a strict order from kaligiwale that gurughar jande brahmcharye dhare parai nu apni maa bhen jane je bhura soche so tankhaiyan its frm rehatnama and if u do so and sangat get this in knowledge than u knw how cozzy is sewa of nihang nd singhs so plz its place fr worship not fr relation nd plz dont pollute the enviroment of gurdwara coz this things leads to damage image of religious places nd sect do ardas and stop ur eyes in sangat sangat is not fr sansari karmas its sir karman ke karma fr naam jaap nd one thing more guru ji is seeing everything everywhere and where urs snyog u will get that girl only

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answered 2012-12-04 10:38:27 -0600

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Well even I want to know how old are you? Secondly if you like her try to meet her outside the gurdwara, as gurdwara is not the place for singles dating venue. Try to be friendly and don't become a creep. You don't really love her you have infatuation (crush) on her. Do you meet her anywhere else outside the gurdwara?, if you do then try to ask her out on a date. If she turns you down, then don't worry there are plenty of fish in sea.

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