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My husband is beating me, lying about me and threathening me continues for a long time he's making me have a bad reputation and because of him i don't seem to find a godd way for myself and i cannot care myself good anymore enough I feel very weak his all family is against me they are very rude they put all blame on me also they think i'm stupid and i don't care nothing and that i don' do anything good at all, they blame me for being worst of all while he's is doing all this bad things to me, how can he get away with so stuff? I mean I don't even know how I get in this in the first place,.. they all wish the very bad and i cannot handle it anymore.. I don't know if this is a bad relation, or if I should improve myself in anyway..

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answered 2014-04-17 13:16:48 -0500

Guruka Singh

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Do you think so little of yourself that you feel you deserve to be treated this way? If the answer is yes, you have some serious work to do on your self esteem. If the answer is no, then why haven't you set boundaries? If he abuses you, walk away. Get out. Go to a safe place where he can't hurt you.

If you do not have a family member or friend you can trust, there are women's shelters in every community.

When you submit to abuse, you agree to it. Do not allow yourself to be abused. Leave! Set the boundary and stick to it. It's up to you. Don't play the victim. Guru Ji will cover you.

When you are not feeling safe, you cannot relax. You cannot and must not live in fear of what might happen when your husband is angry.

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answered 2014-04-18 00:22:27 -0500

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updated 2014-04-18 00:26:18 -0500

Does that mean I have to go away from him..? What does that mean..? do I have to break the marriage.. I feel I have no courage and I don't know where else to go but I'm feeling I'm living in fear and I don't feel happy.. at all but I have a child now.. and I Always thinking why didn't I leave him before and then I have no courage anymore I already did one time go to the woman shelters he beat me up and send me out and I've gone to there.. should I end this marriage or what I thought gurbani was the answer to all should i meditate more or should i just leave .. What is the real problem? I can't see it is it my selfesteem.. What does it mean the difference between karmic and real marriage..?

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Bhen Ji - I am talking about setting boundaries. I did not say to break the marriage. I said do not allow yourself to be abused. You are a divine woman. You are Babaji's daughter. If you do not set the limit who will? The best paath to do is full Sukhmani Sahib each day. It will create miracles in your life.

Guruka Singh ( 2014-05-19 16:12:23 -0500 )edit

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