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asked 2013-11-27 12:15:22 -0600

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Sat sri akal ji ,

my question is is it allowed to get a beauty surgery in sikhism ? i dont know if its right to write it down here but i have to ask someone because im feeling really depressed. i have a very big problem with my breast, it doesnt look nice at all and i feel always really uncomfortable even around my female friends, i dont have a boyfriend or something like this. but i just feel super disgusting towards my own body, so i was doing some research on the topic breast surgery because i want to feel good in my own body.

maybe there are some girls who can give me some advices or who can relate to my problem? i just want to do this surgery but my family will never allow this and im also really afraid.... but i feel so depressed and im afraid that my future husband will be disgusted when he sees my body

please help :)

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answered 2013-11-27 19:02:04 -0600

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Hey! As a girl I totally understand your insecurities with your body, but at the end of the day it is exactly how God wanted you to be, right? These kind of things can be sooo extremely difficult for us to accept, I get it. So many of us are so engrossed in making our "bodies", so to speak , the most appealing. Take me for example. I was on my third day today for this military diet thing because I am going to India next week, so I thought I should lose some weight. Well this whole diet is bogus and completely disgusting to say the least. Then as I was sitting in my room, I remembered that I really never have cared about what others have thought me, so why now? I know where I stand and I know God will forever love me regardless of my appearance. If God loves us, then why should seek affection from anybody else? No one could possibly ever match Gods love for us. So learn to love yourself and accept who you are because maybe no one else ever will (besides God of course!). I think what others think/say about us is really none of our business. Don't give into this pressure that you need implants, trust me, you are so beautiful for who you are and for what God has made you. God has already chosen your husband and I am sure he will love every part of who you are! God bless you! :)

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answered 2013-11-28 00:18:55 -0600

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updated 2013-11-28 00:26:44 -0600

Hello, Being a girl, i understand how you feel because i used to feel same about myself untill i met this wonderful person who is my husband. I went through the same situation and had the same thoughts until i met "him". I would recommend doing "So purakh" Paath in Rehras sahib as many times as you can and God will bless you with your soulmate and he would be the one who would make you feel how beautiful you are regardless of your exterior or your body parts. When i was single, i would think about my body and all the other stuff would come to my mind but then i did So purakh paath for more than a year and then i was married.After i was married i would ask my husband just to check how he feel about me and i would say , "oh i am not like other girls, i wish i was like other girls" and he would say " no baby, i love you the way you are, you are perfect the way you are". I hope this helps and gives a positive energy to you . I am writing my own experience which i hope helps you. And i also wish that may Waheguru find you your soulmate and then you will know how special you are for him just the way you are because you are his soulmate. God Bless you Love Kaur

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answered 2013-12-07 15:40:06 -0600

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updated 2013-12-07 15:41:36 -0600

Sat Nam,

Such great answers from these other girls! You are not alone! You know, getting implants may solve one thing, but it doesn't solve the inner problem, which is how you feel about yourself. I think this inner reservation about your body is caused by what we're surrounded by in the media, and what we see--other girls who believe that having larger breasts and derriere (backside) will make them more attractive. And when girls look at themselves in the mirror, they start to doubt their bodies and feel ugly. It's accursed! But what's the reality? The reality is that bodies are created in so many beautiful shapes, and, if you take care of yourself physically, mentally, spiritually, that you will live at your truest form. Are you doing that? Don't get caught up in the public perception of beauty. It's an idealized form of beauty that most often does not exist.

I study Psychology, and we did a long analysis on the science of attraction, a comprehensive one across cultures. It turns out that, when looked at as a whole, men are attracted to an entire variety of body shapes. Just as sexuality is individual to everybody, so is attraction. If you trust Waheguru ji to bring your best match, that person will be chemically and biologically created to admire YOU, just as YOU ARE. How AWESOME is that! Some men find larger breasts unappealing. If you changed yourself, it might backfire. But, in the end it's up to you on what you want to do. But know that you are beautiful. Play up to your assets, dress to the shape of your body, and know that you are not defined by a culture's fantasy about women.

If it helps, as an artist, I can say we adore different body shapes. Where do you think the age old phrases "with a gate as graceful as a swan's," "soft and subtle curves," "the long, lithe body of a dancer" come from?! There is beauty found in every type of curve, and a woman who can appreciate and love her own is the epitome of grace. And that, you surely are!

God bless you, beautiful. ;)

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