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Confused about whether I must keep my hair

asked 2013-11-06 08:42:00 -0500

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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

I am a teenage sikh. I have been told by almost all my family members that it is not a must to keep my hair long. Up till this point in life my family members have made me cut my hair. When I was younger my family members never told me that sikhs keep their hair uncut. I only found out a year ago that sikhs have to keep their hair.

Ever since I have tried to keep my hair. But whenever my family members think that my hair or beard has grown too long they take me to a nearby barber shop and make me cut my hair and shave my beard.

So I started to ask them why they continuously kept making me cut my hair. They told me several reasons such as :

You need to look need neat and presentable It is very hard to maintain long hair It is very hard to tie a turban I will not get into a good school if I keep my hair and beard I need to shave my beard for things such as renewal of my passport.

Then a few days ago I sat down to discuss this matter with my grand uncle. Since he was the oldest in our family I thought he would be able to help me. I asked him why all the members in my family had been cutting their hair and why they were making me cut my hair. This is because I found out that Guru Gobind Singh Ji ordered us to keep our hair uncut and our beards unshaven.

What he said in response made me even more confused. He told me that Guru Nanak Dev Ji did not say that we could not cut our hair. I am not saying that my family members are bad. They have given me a very comfortable life and have cared for me a lot. But this may be one of the few times when I disagree with their decision.

Sorry for being so long. I am just a young sikh who wants to keep his hair and beard. I am inexperienced and I need some help. I have cried many times at night wondering what should I do. I did not want to cut my hair. I do not know whether Guruji will forgive me if I keep my hair and beard henceforth. Please help me out here.

Any opinions and advice will be very much appreciated.

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

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answered 2015-10-15 10:02:49 -0500

Dearest Sikhs, Wjkkwjkf, I myself have been cutting my hair for the past 40 years of my life and have been leading a normal manmukh life What seems like forever now. Hv done and tried almost everything. But since I turned 41 this past June, I hv abstained from cutting hair, drinking alcohol and have tried to wake up early to go to Gurdwara at least 3-4 I es a week. The process of letting my hair grow isn't easy since its a big change for me and everyone else around me as well. My head looks big and my hair looks huge. Hahaha.. Anyways, I am going to stick to it with WaheGuruJee 's blessings.. But there's not a single day that I don't think whether this is so important? If GOD is one, then he would love and accept a Christian or Hindu for whom it's very normal to cut hair as much as He will accept me. As long as our hearts are pure and all we desire is HIM. My Christian and Hindu friends can achieve nirvana ( or oneness with GOD) as well and they would never have to question the length of their hairs.. Neither do we Sikhs have to recite 5 prayers everyday as our Muslim friends to be with GOD. Shouldn't achieving oneness with GOD be universal for each and every human regardless of relegion, and rules.. Etc.. Still confused but keeping hair anyways :-)

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answered 2015-10-15 15:26:17 -0500

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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

Sunita Singh Ji. A Sikh should remain a firm Sikh following what are Gurus have taught us, the same goes for Muslims and Christians.

We do believe that every person in this world has a chance to meet Waheguru regardless of their faith, we can see this in Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji Mahraj were it contains bani from Bhagat Naam Dev Ji, Bhagat Shaek Freed Ji, Bhagat Kabeer Ji and many more.

But certain religions vary in the amount of truth, and we believe that Guru Nanak was sent with the complete truth.

The point of reading 5 banis everyday is ideal as we gain so much knowledge and we get remained of very important things. For example

Japji Sahib - Gives us so much knowledge it's like a summary of Satgur Ji

Jaap Sahib - Reminds of the quality of Waheguru

Tav prasad savaiye - Helps us escape from this illusion and rituals

Chaupai Sahib - Is a benti to Waheguru reminding us that we are nothing and we need Waheguru as our strength

Anand Sahib - Brings us Anand/peace and tells us so much about our path and what we need to do.

The more we follow Guru Ji, the closer we get to Waheguru.

Other religions talk about the importance of long hair, but Waheguru Ji kirpa we've been told about it. Many Hindu Gods have long such as Shiv Ji.

As Sikhs we should remain strong Sikhs follow everything Guru Ji says, but we should encourage other people from other religions to remain firm in theirs.

Guru Ji says the highest religion is chanting Wahegurus name.

Check this great answer by anon

Please forgive me if i said anything wrong or offensive.

Sat Sri Akaal

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answered 2016-11-30 12:33:29 -0500

I am in the same situation as you I really want to keep my kes but my parents don't let me. I have tried everything to make them let me . I know now that when I am 18 in 1-1/2 years I will grow my hair. Trust me I have cried over this many time but waheguru ji understands and has supported me in these tough times . You look smarter and more presentable with a pagh becuase it is our crown . Just like a king without his crown is really no one. I tie really nice paghs but u will get one for real when I am 18.

Waheguru ji ka Khalsa, waheguru ji ki fateh

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answered 2017-04-13 11:44:50 -0500

A Sikh of Guru Granth Sahib comes in a variety of looks and socio-class background. Farmers, butchers, warriors, doctors, musicians, leather workers,...all are found on an equal platform. There is no emphasis on strict, meaning less, outer rituals or idol worship. An idol worshipper who saw experienced the divine due to his pure mind in a rock is also mentioned. 5ks are a uniform of the Khalsa. Khalsa is the custodian of the spiritual treasure of the SGGS and is given the political rulership. The 10th Nanak did consider every willing volunteer to be a worthy of the Khalsa lifestyle gifts. All the Gurus and Bhagats in SGGS are from non violent lifestyles. The only sword warrior Guru Sahib whose bani is found in SGGS is Guru Tegh Bahadur ji. Guru Gobind Singh ji kept his bani outside of SGGS and offered the bir rash to his Sikhs who volunteered to be a Khalsa. Keeping your hair uncut has many benefits

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answered 2019-03-16 13:28:04 -0500

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I am not exactly privy as to why Guru Gobind Singhji commanded sikhs to adhere to the 5 ks. It may be so that the geo-political situations of the time necessitated sporting a beard and turban to distinctly identify sikhs as a community or for sikhs to wear drawers or carry combs for the sake of hygeine in case of the nihangs involved in guerilla warfare. The only symbolic element among the 5 is the karha, which duely reminds one of the perpetuality of life. Besides this the 5 ks have only further institutionilzed our religion. Sikhism was not supposed to be a religion. It was a philosphy, a way of life, a collection of poems and hyms in the praise of God and principles on leading a good, honourable and magnanimous life. Never did Guru Nannak Ji envisage the establishment of a religion. One that is so replete with ceremonies, symbols, and stringent customs. What the great and noble Guru Gobind Singhji proclaimed vis a vis the 5 ks has unmistakably lost significance and the pragmatic need in this age. I am sure our guru did not vouch for long hair with the intent of demarcating our folks. He was well above such material desires. Howbeit the turban has existed for good and can be embraced for the sake of attaining a sense of belongingness among our people. Nevertheless, the idea of having a haircut being forbidden is unsound. I infer that having wearing hair signifies detachment from the material; quite the contrary to that, it sounds like sporting a turban is a mark of vanity in itself and prohibition on removal of hair is draconian.

My message to modern sikhs is to be cosmopolitans. Don't see sikhism exclusively as your religion, whereas, learn from all the religions around you(even from the ones which aren't doing so well publicly). The purpose of religion is spiritualism : an extremely unitary and individual experience. Don't be dragged into the rules and customs of social religion. Such customs are only material. Rather focus on the symbolism, deep meanings and principles enunciated in sikhism inter alia.

Be good, do harm to none, speak ill of none, think badly of none, don't trespass into other's privacy, dont envy others, love everyone around you, love the creator and his creations(which are both the same), help the needy, be humble, lead a life of honesty and sincerity, be true to yourself, never seek indulgence, thank nature, God, the universe at all times and never forget to apologise if you are in the wrong. God bless. Sat naam-Waheguru.

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