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Can you love so much that it hurts?

asked 2012-08-06 00:40:13 -0500

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updated 2012-08-17 11:52:27 -0500

Guruka Singh gravatar image

Hello! This is a rather strange question(s), and I don't think it has been asked quite in this context before.

I am a college student who is currently involved in a campaign of sorts to help educate people on the injustices and misconceptions placed around the life of a very famous, late icon in recent history (the name I will not disclose), and to help promote their legacy of music and humanitarianism correctly. Basically, to eliminate "hate-talk" against those who might be fans of this individual and to establish facts that will help bring about some peace to those who refuse to understand and make a big deal about it. A happy and rightful legacy.

My question is a little personal, though. Sometimes I find that I am taking hate comments that are directed at this individual a little too seriously, and it hurts. I know personally that when I come to admire someone of a pure heart and great talent, it hurts to see people slander their name over rumors they've heard (even if the person being slandered is dead or alive!) I try to tell myself that people, no matter what, will say things, and that the best way to keep a memory of someone is to remember the good times and ignore public opinion. But when you get involved in a campaign, and get bombarded with all those comments that are hurting other people, it's a little hard. I really would like to remain a part of this campaign as someone who is comfortable in their opinion and are able to help others, but I must find a little peace in myself, first.

So: is this normal? Is it just part of some peoples' natures to love and care so much? And is there some particular paath, form of meditation I can do to make it a little easier for myself? I strive to put God into everything I do, and, in this particular situation, I tell myself everyday that the Guru is the greatest judge and only He can bring justice and love to all. We are merely his pawns that physically, so to speak, make it happen.

Should I meditate harder, or is this just part of my nature as a human being? I don't know...any kind advice or related situations are welcome.

P.S.: To clarify, I am not attached to this individual to the point of some crazy, rabid worship, etc. I merely find that their impact on the world was and is monumental, and they were taken advantage of in an inhumane way that a non-famous person might be subjected to in the future. They were also of a pure heart, a great, soft-spoken humanitarian, etc. All around a good and respectable person! (And I love their music, obviously!)

Your help will be greatly appreciated. In the meantime, I will go about simran as usual.

Thank you, and may God keep us all! :D

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answered 2012-08-17 11:57:54 -0500

Guruka Singh gravatar image

Whenever you become involved in a 'campaign' around almost any issue, you will attract negativity. That is just the nature of the game. You cannot raise other people's awareness. If asked, you can only share your own experience, and you can help people to raise their OWN awareness. In order to do that, you have to merge with the other person, not set yourself at odds with them. That means that you have to communicate from THEIR viewpoint and within their own frame of reference. Otherwise, you will find yourself opposed over and over and thereby produce much stress in your own life.

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^^Thank you for the advice! I don't know why I didn't look at it this way before...simplicity often escapes me. All's well now! :)

Lo K. B. gravatar imageLo K. B. ( 2012-08-24 12:45:50 -0500 )edit

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