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asked 2013-04-05 12:43:24 -0600

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Hi, I am asking this question because i am bit confused. I married one and half year ago and came here in canada last year in july. me and my wife, we just lived together for months. i am just wondering should i say that we believe in 'Shri Guru Granth Sahib Ji' or not1!!!!? because if we believe then we should leave peacyfully with humbleness and kindness. but we were arguing continuously. after seperation we all start laming each other family. I know thats not write kyonki Guru sahib de bhane nu mannana chahida hai.

From last few days i am listing Shabad: All that happens, and all that will happen, is by His Will. If we could do something by ourselves, we would. keetaa karnaa sarab rajaa-ee kichh keechai jay kar sakee-ai.

By ourselves, we cannot do anything at all. As it pleases the Lord, He preserves us. ||1|| aapnaa keetaa kichhoo na hovai ji-o har bhaavai ti-o rakhee-ai. ||1||

O my Dear Lord, everything is in Your power. mayray har jee-o sabh ko tayrai vas.

I have no power to do anything at all. As it pleases You, You forgive us. ||1||Pause|| asaa jor naahee jay kichh kar ham saakah ji-o bhaavai tivai bakhas. ||1|| rahaa-o.

You Yourself bless us with soul, body and everything. You Yourself cause us to act. sabh jee-o pind dee-aa tuDh aapay tuDh aapay kaarai laa-i-aa.

As You issue Your Commands, so do we act, according to our pre-ordained destiny. ||2|| jayhaa tooN hukam karahi tayhay ko karam kamaavai jayhaa tuDh Dhur likh paa-i-aa. ||2||

You created the entire Universe out of the five elements; if anyone can create a sixth, let him. panch tat kar tuDh sarisat sabh saajee ko-ee chhayvaa kari-o jay kichh keetaa hovai.

You unite some with the True Guru, and cause them to understand, while others, the self-willed manmukhs, do their deeds and cry out in pain. ||3|| iknaa satgur mayl tooN bujhaaveh ik manmukh karahi se rovai. ||3||

I cannot describe the glorious greatness of the Lord; I am foolish, thoughtless, idiotic and lowly. har kee vadi-aa-ee ha-o aakh na saakaa ha-o moorakh mugaDh neechaan.

Please, forgive servant Nanak, O my Lord and Master; I am ignorant, but I have entered Your Sanctuary. ||4||4||15||24|| jan naanak ka-o har bakhas lai mayray su-aamee sarnaagat pa-i-aa ajaan. ||4||4||15||24||

According to this shabad the God Keeps us the way he wants and we all do act according to his order.

So, my question that we don't want this to happen, because who want to break his home, so we should understand that everything happens with the God's will then ki eh sach hai ke jo hoyia hai eh v us di razzaa vich c? Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Fateh

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answered 2013-04-16 13:58:58 -0600

kanwaljit.singh gravatar image

Does she believe in Guru Granth Sahib as much as you do? You should share your thoughts and Shabad you read with her all the time. Have Gurmat discussion together. If you have made a mistake own up. If she doesn't own up her mistake, wait. Take it forth on positive notes. Fateh.

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answered 2013-05-14 15:21:10 -0600

Thank you, Kanwaljit Singh Ji. She actually believes in 'Shri Guru Granth Sahib Ji'. but when i listened words from her after a month of sepration,like ous rab ne ton main sab kuj mang ke liya c te us ne sab kuj kho liya (it could be because of anger)and i amazed to see that ke asin 'Ananad Karj' vele rab to izzazt laine han te fir rishta todan ton pehlan kyon nahi eh sochde ke eh rishta 'Maharaj' di hazoori vich baniya hai te enni asaani nal kiven tod sakde han? So that so far i have no options because she & her parents is not in talking terms with me or they not showing any interest. so i think its better to leave the things on 'Waheguru Ji' Sat Shri Akal Ji.

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