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asked 2013-02-23 01:28:26 -0600

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Nihang Gavinpal Singh Khalsa gravatar image

I have a debatable question to ask the entire Sikh sangat, to answer. Well some months ago there was this Giani ji at my local gurdwara who opposed interfaith wedding inside the gurdwara and he would not allow it in the gurdwara because he believed it strictly contradicted sikh rehat maryada, the believe in only ten gurus, Guru Granth Sahib ji, and both the sikh couple (male and female) would not hold affiliation to any other faith. Due to his strong religious conviction the gurdwara committee as well as the sikh sangat decided to remove him from the gurdwara as a Giani ji. My question do you think is it fair to punish a sikh for following Sikhism nearly and dearly or do you think the gurdwara committee was right?

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answered 2013-06-06 01:36:02 -0600

Lo K. B. gravatar image

^^I might like to disagree with the statement that, "allowing interfaith weddings if stupid cause a REAL sikh will only ever marry a Sikh". That's a very pointed and sharp comment to make, especially to those who are married to one of another religion and are managing just fine with having experience with this situation. Interfaith weddings, in my experience, have occurred at my local Gurdwara, but most couples might prefer that they take place at the court or other venue for precisely the reason that they may be objected to by the local sangat/congregation, etc. Some choose to have a wedding at BOTH places of worship, for the sake of respecting the other's faith and the faith of the family. I find that it takes a lot of strength in one's own faith to do so, and if done conscientiously, is very helpful for the marriage in the long run. It takes a specific type of commitment to one's self, I suppose. I don't find it entirely wrong (as non-baptized Sikhs are married in the gurdwara all the time), but it is a little complicated if faith is truly the aspect the wedding/union is centered on.

As far as the giani being fired is concerned, it's not an entirely stupid move, as the entire sangat as well as the committee decided that it was the best option. A gurdwara isn't necessarily hierarchical, as far as I know. I don't believe that a system of "excommunication" exists, either.

The bottom line comes down to the attitudes of the families and the couple, and whether or not they understand what this means for their marriage, and whether they understand the meaning of the lavan and attempt to apply it to their life with love and devotion, regardless of whatever faith they prescribe to.

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@Kaurageouswarrior1699 : I think it honestly depends on interpretation. There's nothing wrong with what you said and I don't disagree with what you meant conceptually. I don't know where the negative vote came from, but that's perfectly fine. This issue is debated in every community!

Lo K. B. gravatar imageLo K. B. ( 2013-06-06 17:46:07 -0600 )edit

(cont.) and if someone finds it to be that they believe their partner should be a Gursikh, then more power to them! You are very, very strong for standing up for your values and the crux of your life. May God bless you with a strong Singh and saint. <3

Lo K. B. gravatar imageLo K. B. ( 2013-06-06 17:47:44 -0600 )edit

answered 2013-02-23 18:57:42 -0600

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OK first of all saying that we are born with no faith is a total load of rubbish because we are all born as Sikhs as in on the very first time of your birth you are pure and you cry because u have been broken from god. so u are a sikh when u are born and only after ur birth u become a Christian, a jew, a muslim and so on.

as for the fact that the granthi was fired because of not allowing interfaith weddings if stupid cause a REAL sikh will only ever marry a Sikh.

If u are in love with a non sikh it is only an illusion. Just saying.

anyway there really is no point in arguing about interfaith weddings because people never understand.

anyway sorry for any mistakes.

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I apologise for the misunderstanding. What i believe I was trying to say was that a Gursikh (s/he) would only love another Gursikh because of the love 4 God that they have as well as for them. If someone doesn't love something that means the world to you (sikhi and Waheguru) how can you love them?

new user gravatar imagenew user ( 2013-06-06 06:49:28 -0600 )edit

Thankyou very much thats exactly the kind of person I want to marry. What exactly is the point in marrying someone who isn't in love with sikhi and devoted to it as much as you are. To do lava in front of SGGS is a blessing and a commitment and if you don't believe in it then it just becomes pakhand. and I promise you it was not me who down voted you.

new user gravatar imagenew user ( 2013-06-07 05:16:18 -0600 )edit

answered 2013-06-06 07:10:58 -0600

kanwaljit.singh gravatar image

I think Gyani ji was right on his part. People need to realize that Sikhi is a commitment. And if you stand for nothing, you will fall for anything.

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