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How do i stop this mindset???

asked 2020-02-24 10:35:13 -0500

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updated 2020-02-24 15:46:24 -0500

Guruka Singh gravatar image

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I'm 19 y/o and an Asian. I work in a FnB restaurant which is in a shopping mall. I'm the only girl worker and the rest are guys. The job is kinda dirty. My shirt and apron and jeans get wet and dirty sometimes. All the guys workers are okay. As usual,they talk dirty among themselves and of course i can hear them and sometimes they get me involved in their dirty jokes but that's fine to me. I'm service crew but when i have the time,i actually go at the back and help the kitchen workers. To wash plates and sweep and wipe things. Of course i get wet and dirty washing plates right. So i have an issue that i want someone to advice me.

-I do my work kinda fast so sometimes we hit each other bodies accidentally because the both of us are in hurry. ( the guys and me ) -whenever the guys workers see me,they say hii. Like shake hands or touch my shoulders or my hands. ( in a good way ) I'm okay with all these but whatever i do,i'm always like 'will i get pregnant???' Idk how to stop having this mindset tho. I'm always willing to do heavy and dirty jobs but i cant deal with my mind thinking if all these could get me pregnant. How do i stop

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answered 2020-02-24 10:44:33 -0500

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Well whenever the thought comes to your mind think of the consequences.

If you become pregnant at 19 your life is over, you are a single mom, Very hard to raise a kid since you have no career growth. Basically you will ruin your life. Same thing is with drugs . you are feeling this mindset because you have high amount of estrogen produced in your body biologically at this age.

This might be different for different people, but most cases it isn't

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answered 2020-02-24 15:45:30 -0500

Guruka Singh gravatar image

Your thoughts of possible pregnancy are haunting thoughts. That is, they recur again and again in different contexts. Your question is "how do I stop these thoughts?" There is a meditation that will do this for you if you practice it every day: Guided Meditation for Haunting Thoughts

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Thank you Ji. I just have a simple question. It's fine for me to work in a FnB restaurant and do heavy and dirty jobs right? And also is it good for me to be humble and nice to all the guys? I always shake hands when i see them or play around

xxhumanxx gravatar imagexxhumanxx ( 2020-02-24 16:37:41 -0500 )edit

Yes it's fine. We each do the work we have been given. Dirt can be cleaned. Do be humble and nice, but do set your boundaries as well so that your co-workers do not behave ungracefully to you.

Guruka Singh gravatar imageGuruka Singh ( 2020-02-25 17:11:57 -0500 )edit

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