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How do u fully give up the opinions of others

asked 2019-03-27 09:49:34 -0600

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updated 2019-03-28 05:35:35 -0600

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Recently i have been in a bit of doubt over what people say about me, which i feel has led me away from Waheguru (Karmi apo apane, ke nerai ke dur), i don't blame anyone for they say about me even though its hurts me from inside, because i need to fully accept that it is not these people who speak on their own, it is actually Waheguru who does everything. I know being offended by what other people say about me isn't good in the eyes of gurbani, and i want to prevent myself from being offended and thinking too much about what their opinion of me is. I prayed to Waheguru many times, please prevent me from being hurt by the slander of others. Every morning i take a hukamnama before school, when the hukamnama is about the slander of others (for example yesterday it was this on the same day something like this happens. Waheguru warns me everytime before something like this happens but i can't act in the way he wants me to.

My question is: How do stop being attached to the opinions of others?

P.S I'm truly grateful that by waheguru's grace, that SIkhnet gives a platform to ask our spritual questions and problems in life. In reality it should be the gurdwaras job to do this seva, but there's few opportunities to ask especially when you're not fluent in Punjabi like me.

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answered 2019-03-28 05:33:54 -0600

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updated 2019-03-28 05:35:01 -0600

The Gurbani quote is about Amrit Vela. It says when you do Amrit Vela all your karmas are covered. Now on to your question. The problem is not “others.” The problem is that you react to others. The more you meditate and do paath, the more solid you become in your own identity. As that happens you fill with love and blessings. When somebody says something nasty, remain silent. Inside, silently say “Waheguru! May this person be blessed.” Gradually train your own mind to not react.

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Thank you Ji for your advice,i will try to say waheguru in my mind, but it so hard to concentrate on waheguru during the day. I feel that during my nitnem and simran i feel the anand, but i find it hard concentrate on God after.

Truthseeker2001 gravatar imageTruthseeker2001 ( 2019-03-29 11:50:03 -0600 )edit

The secret lies in paying attention to your breath. When you forget, no problem. You will then have the joy of remembering again. It's a daily process.

Guruka Singh gravatar imageGuruka Singh ( 2019-04-10 12:43:20 -0600 )edit

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