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My girlfriend is upset with me and wants to break the relationship but I want to save our beautiful relationship so which gurbani should I recite

asked 2018-07-29 14:16:11 -0600

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updated 2018-07-30 10:06:52 -0600

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My girlfriend is upset with me and says I don’t trust her and that’s why she wants to break relationship but I want to save our beautiful relationship, so in order to save which gurbani I should recite and what should I do.

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answered 2018-07-30 01:15:55 -0600

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Waheguru ji ka khalsa, Waheguru ji ki fateh veer ji,

By reciting gurbani, one finds the pathway, but mere recitation, your relationship will not be saved. Saying Waheguru once and understanding the meaning will automatically enlighten you. I feel like you need to tell your girlfriend, if shes a "sikh" or believes in any religion that you follow guru granth sahib ji and that tells us that god abides in everyone. "sab gobind hai, sab gobind hai, gobind bin nahi koyi". So, you need to see god in her and trust her, whilst also making it obvious. Remember, you should date to then get married as you need to become "ek jot". Just take it easy and have a good face to face talk with her. Let me know if you need to clarify anything or just want to lighten your heart and have a talk :) bhul chuk muaf karni Waheguru ji.

Here's a link to one of the shabad about following guru ji's teaching:

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I am trusting her but she thinks that I don’t trust her and that’s why she’s not ready to talk to me, so what should I do so that she thinks that I trust her.

ASB gravatar imageASB ( 2018-07-30 09:24:50 -0600 )edit

answered 2018-07-30 09:27:14 -0600

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updated 2018-07-30 09:29:16 -0600

I am trusting her but she thinks I don’t trust her and that’s why she is not ready to talk to me, so what should I do so that she thinks I trust her.

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I see, well there are many options and you can try them one by one. The best one is, asking her to come to gurudwara sahib talk to her outside. In this way, she'll know that you won't lie. If she refuses, try to confront her by saying something like "lets solve this issue, I don't want to lose you".

Tryingtobasikh gravatar imageTryingtobasikh ( 2018-07-30 20:03:44 -0600 )edit

Let me know if that doesn't work either, always here to talk it out. Just know that girls require patience, don't worry, you'll solve it out :) Waheguru ji mehr karn.

Tryingtobasikh gravatar imageTryingtobasikh ( 2018-07-30 20:04:37 -0600 )edit

Thanks for suggesting a good idea... I liked it.. to meet in a gurudwara sahib.. I am traveling currently and probably it’ll take two three months to get back. You said you have lots of other options as well, could you please let me know few other options as well.. Thanks !!

ASB gravatar imageASB ( 2018-07-31 22:14:28 -0600 )edit

Not a problem ji, and thanks for liking it. The other safe option is to try and do a video call and if not, then send her a long message. Tell her that you miss her and anything else you want to say regarding trust. Also, try adding the fact that you want to meet her once you get back at gurudwara.

Tryingtobasikh gravatar imageTryingtobasikh ( 2018-08-01 21:55:07 -0600 )edit

This will make her think that you're putting effort in to keep her and that if you want to meet at gurudwara sahib to sort it out, it'll be true. Moreover, girls love it when guys are religious and want to put god in their relationship. Let me know if you need further help or clarification. WJKWJKF.

Tryingtobasikh gravatar imageTryingtobasikh ( 2018-08-01 21:57:08 -0600 )edit

Thanks for the long message idea and the video call idea, I am thinking to do a long message to her, I need help here - I liked the idea to meet at a gurudwara sahib, but what should I write to her, like I’ll write that I miss her and about trust related things...

ASB gravatar imageASB ( 2018-08-02 18:44:05 -0600 )edit

But when it comes to Meet at a gurudwara sahib then what should I write her, like I would like to meet you at a gurudwara sahib as that’s the holiest place where we can clear out our things or what should I write to her, or just write that I would like to meet at a gurudwara.

ASB gravatar imageASB ( 2018-08-02 18:45:49 -0600 )edit

I am not getting any expression after letting her know that let’s meet at a gurudwara to clear out things.. should I write anything else as well or just say let’s meet at a gurudwara to clear out things.. I hope I am clear.. Thanks Ji !!

ASB gravatar imageASB ( 2018-08-02 18:48:44 -0600 )edit

You're very clear, don't worry. I think it'd be most suitable to say "I want to clear our misunderstandings and let you know that I truly trust you. Guru sahib will be the witness of that and you know I won't lie to you there or anywhere for that matter. Can we meet up there?".

Tryingtobasikh gravatar imageTryingtobasikh ( 2018-08-03 01:24:40 -0600 )edit

Perhaps, something like that? Does that solve your confusion? If you need further clarification, let me know. Waheguru ji sab theek kar du ge :)

Tryingtobasikh gravatar imageTryingtobasikh ( 2018-08-03 01:25:25 -0600 )edit

Yes it solves the confusion.. I’ll keep you posted.. I would be needing your help later too but that would be around 2-3 months from now as am traveling.. Thanks again !!

ASB gravatar imageASB ( 2018-08-03 16:22:33 -0600 )edit

Sure thing Waheguru jio! I'll regularly check up for your further reply, until then, Waheguru ji mehr karn thode te. Just stay calm, leave it to Waheguru jio and do your honest bit :) Bhul chuk muaf.

Tryingtobasikh gravatar imageTryingtobasikh ( 2018-08-03 19:47:08 -0600 )edit

Thanks A Lot !!

ASB gravatar imageASB ( 2018-08-08 00:44:50 -0600 )edit

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