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Inter-Caste wedding

asked 2018-03-08 19:02:54 -0500

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updated 2018-03-12 10:26:49 -0500

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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh My boyfriend and I really love each but he lives in the UK and I live in the US. Both of our parents know that we are in a relationship and his parents hsve agreed for this relationship. My parents, however, say that if I want to get married to him, I can but I can't talk to my parents ever again. My boyfriend and I are both Amritdhari and so are our parents. My boyfriend, his parents, and I don't believe in the caste system but my parents do. Technically, he is identified as Chamar and technically I can be identified as Jatt. My parents say it's shameful for me to marry someone so lowly. They say he might be good but his "clan" is full of drug users however that is false. My parent's aren't ready to listen to me. His parents want to talk to my parents but I haven't been able to talk to my parents about this. My parents say they are ashamed of me because I found my own potential- husband and not my parents. Plus, they say he is too far and they don't know much about him. How can I convince my parents to talk to his parents. My dad told me to choose between him and my boyfriend. How do I confront my parents about this? How can I make them agree to our relationship?

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answered 2018-03-09 01:23:59 -0500

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updated 2018-03-09 01:48:23 -0500

For a Amritdhari person, caste and creed is of no importance. Yet the truth is casteism prevails in the Indian Sikh society. The reason majority of the Indian Sikhs' ancestors were Hindus. So, the Indian Sikhs be they living in U.S, U. K or Canada they still follow Hindu traditions and culture . So blaming the Punjabi Sikhs is not good and neither is it good to blame the Parents.

If a Jatti falls in love with a Chooda or a Chamar Sardar this is considered so shameful. Your boyfriend has got the support of his Parents and friends but you got neither the support of your Parents nor from the Jatt Sikhs.

Please try to understand me, my answer is not to discourage you but as a woman you are left alone. In future if some crisis brews up in your would-be-in-laws' house, your Parents won't be around to support you. Please take the decision very carefully.

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I suggest choose carefully . Caste us not problem. . I hopr. Your hubby I'd not fake sikh. .

Amandeep007 gravatar imageAmandeep007 ( 2018-06-21 20:41:59 -0500 )edit

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