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How to develop self contol

asked 2018-01-17 11:57:01 -0500

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updated 2018-01-17 17:30:44 -0500

Guruka Singh gravatar image

My biggest weakness is my self control .. I have no control on my actions despite knowing the wrong consequences of my actions I just keep doing the same thing again and again ..this is the worst thing abt me ... Pls help me with this problem I really want to improve

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answered 2018-01-17 17:41:55 -0500

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There is nothing wrong with you. Whatever you are doing has a reason behind it, most likely an emotional one. Whatever you get out of doing it is rewarding you in a way that outweighs your "better judgement." You need to go deeper and understand what compels you to repeat actions you don't want to do. Even if you are a bit scared to examine yourself in this way, understand that without looking at yourself more deeply you will not be able to break your compulsions.

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Thankyou so much for helping

Ann gravatar imageAnn ( 2018-01-18 11:33:17 -0500 )edit

answered 2018-01-17 20:49:30 -0500

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Yes. It involves understanding that something inside of you is bothering you. This means that who you are - your morals and belief system is overpowering your actions (the wrong behavior). This also means your morals and belief system is more powerful than anything else. You should always turn to your morals/beliefs/inner consciousness when you feel torn. You feel upset, nervous, and scared that you have done something wrong. You are not a bad person. You are good. You are feeling remorse and asking/seeking forgiveness from Waheguru Ji. You are asking for help. You are searching for self-development and personal care. All good things to live by. You do need to search deeper at your own inner self, deeper into consciousness and figure out why you are treating yourself this way - if it is coming from an internal place or external place. If it is external - rid yourself from those distractions and focus on yourself to heighten your own internal existence with Guruji. Is it you? Are you treating yourself this way? Are others treating you badly/hurting you? Search inwardly to figure out where this is coming from? If you don't search inwardly, you won't be able to figure where the issue is surfacing from. Is this why you are repeating actions you don't want to? Treat yourself with compassion above all else. You will need this compassion for yourself to heal. Guruji will give you all of His virtues - humility, obedience, equality, service, self-sacrifice, justice, mercy, tranquillity, and royal courage.

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Ya I'll focus on my inner self btw thanks for your advice

Ann gravatar imageAnn ( 2018-01-18 11:34:44 -0500 )edit

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