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asked 2018-01-08 02:59:05 -0500

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A long time ago, I made a commitment to improve myself and just keep learning in order to heal from something painful and a dark period in my life. It was really great because it motivated me closer to God and I started doing regular prayers, understanding Gurbani, simran, helping others selflessly and working hard, and really just being who I always strived to be. I try to also care for my body. A week ago I realized that somewhere along this way, I have started to feel like nothing is enough. I originally was walking towards healing and I was happy within myself. Some stuff has happened over the last couple of weeks. Now I really feel like I am running from pain, that improving myself has become about not being happy with who I am. I think that being happy in yourself is about loving God within ourselves, and right now I am stuck. I am stuck on this thought: If I was doing enough, if I really had my heart in Gurbani and was living by my values, that I would not feel this much pain. We strive to be in a state where we are unaffected by the pains and pleasures of life, and overcomes the pull of maya. I feel like I am trying as much as I can and failing. I think I’m feeling pain because I’m not accepting God’s will. Instead of seeing it as God's will, i see events as a personal failing. I guess my question is how to break this thought. Secondly, how to rebuild that feeling that I’m enough, that God is within me and that i should be happy as who i am. I feel like i'm already trying to do the best i can and i want some advice.

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Don't overthink about your failures just do Simran and follow guru's path . Whatever is happening let it happen . Just pray to God with trustworthy heart . Just believe him . Nothing is gonna happen bad . It happens that when we try a lot we get concious and start wondering if we are doing right .

Ann gravatar imageAnn ( 2018-01-08 06:19:59 -0500 )edit

But if you are trying then just don't overthink. Be happy that atleast you are trying ..we are humans and not are not perfect. We commit mistakes but babaji is there to forgive us . Just don't take stress and whenever u feel stressed for just one minute forget your worries and say waheguru and close

Ann gravatar imageAnn ( 2018-01-08 06:22:32 -0500 )edit

Close ur eyes and say waheguru as many times as u can .it will give you strength.

Ann gravatar imageAnn ( 2018-01-08 06:23:21 -0500 )edit

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answered 2018-01-08 16:48:18 -0500

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updated 2018-01-08 16:49:38 -0500

StrongKaur Ji - You have asked a beautiful question. It is time for self-compassion. Self-compassion is treating yourself with the same kindness, care and concern you show to others you love. It encourages you to acknowledge your flaws and limitations, allowing you to look at yourself from a more objective and realistic point of view. Practicing self-compassion you can break the cycle of pain by accepting your own imperfections. We are all working on ourselves, confronting our weaknesses and understanding more deeply what we need to do to evolve in our consciousness and behaviour. Being happy is about surrender and letting go of attachment to your persona and what others think or feel about you.

Don't try to be in any state. Just observe the state you are in with compassionate awareness towards yourself.

Once you have lain the innermost desire of your heart and soul at Guru Ji's feet, then just do your sadhana, be present with others, serve the need of each moment and... let it unfold.

Guru Ji will deliver the deepest longing of your soul to you.

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wow! Thank you so much Guruka Singh Ji.

strongKaur gravatar imagestrongKaur ( 2018-01-08 19:24:29 -0500 )edit

answered 2018-01-10 21:35:19 -0500

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When you begin to accept Guruji as your partner through life than you will begin to accept yourself. Give time and energy to Waheguru always. Pray on His name. When you begin to pray on his name, than acceptance will come at its own time - at its own pace. You cannot force these things to happen. It will happen on its own. You need to TRUST that Guruji's name is the true path you want to go on. Trust this path and you will begin to realize and start to believe in yourself - which means the self-compassion you are longing for is inside of you. You just need to start believing in yourself again.

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