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asked 2017-12-29 08:02:31 -0500

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updated 2017-12-31 01:09:06 -0500

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I don't know where to start from..but i'll try

I am a amritsar Sikh, and I have this strong feeling to love god.. Like really love him dearly. I don't do regular paath. But somehow I always feel connected to him. Sometimes I feel is it for real or is it that I just love myself that I can't get over it.

I am 35 and single, not been in much relationships, the few I had didn't work out..but my parents insists on me being married now so they continously looking for arranged marriage. I have developed a bond for a Christian office girl who lives in another country and we talk everyday. We even met at a foreign location and stayed together. Our relationship is really close and I am not hiding anything from her. We didn't had sex but we did make out....I do regret it a bit...but when I think of being loved and loving someone dearly..I feel it was a beautiful mistake..if it is a was not out of lust...does that mean I am not an amritdhari now? Even though I like her we both know the situation is such that we will never be together because of cultural and religious.. but such was the feeling of being loved that we could not resist meeting...And it have left more feeling for being loved...I am very weak socially and it leaves me a big impact on thinking what others think of me.. On the other hand I have the pressure to be married so talks for arranged marriage are on. I really don't know or understand what life is...Sometimes I feel if I love god why I could not find someone to love and marry.... Sometimes I feel I really love him and he will always take priority so I don't know if I will love any other person... And sometimes I feel if I really loved him..And sometimes I feel like loving pour my heart out..

I think I don't really understand life..Sometimes I feel isn't loving god enough. I am sorry if I said anything wrong.

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You must always remember Waheguru, our Guruji because our life (dealing with everyday struggles and challenges) is a lifelong practice and you need this as part of your life. Love for God is eternal. In fact, through good and bad He will be there through everything. He will strengthen you as you int

amangahunia gravatar imageamangahunia ( 2018-01-12 21:27:03 -0500 )edit

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answered 2018-01-09 05:22:58 -0500

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I need to understand .. i not a devoted Gursikh. But Guruji is always in my heat . I try to do Bani ...lisen Bani.. saying waheguru when ever i can . I always stay positive.. but thing always goes wrong in my life.. i come from broken home.. married but hubby always try to do business but never succeeded..last 30 yrs always financially stress.. i dnt mix around so much mind my own business.. im workng n sporting the family. Daughter is ok.. son dont want ro study or work and help.. i did my very best to make my family happy

Can i know what is wrong.. why some of us are always in trouble stress..

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Stress in life is Guru Ji's blessing. The strongest steel goes through the hottest fire. He only gives you this test because he knows you can go though it. The measure is: how gracefully can you go through it?

Guruka Singh gravatar imageGuruka Singh ( 2018-01-09 12:47:34 -0500 )edit

answered 2018-01-03 16:11:28 -0500

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updated 2018-01-05 10:29:21 -0500

Gurfateh Rebel! - Loving God is the first step. Living in complete surrender to God and Guru is the destination. In that state comes total trust and truly carefree living. Being "weak socially" is a good sign that, at heart, you are a man of God, not a man of the world. Since Guru Ji is arranging all your affairs, your job is to let him do it and not interfere.

Marriage is a carriage to carry you to your merger with the One. Only marry because your soul knows that it belongs with the other soul. Other marriages are just the play of the karmic entanglement of this lifetime.

If you feel like loving everyone, then you are blessed! Romantic love is just a tiny taste of the joy of living in love with the God in everyone.

There is no need to understand what life is. The only requirement is that you surrender completely to Guru Ji. It is between you and him.

Thank you for posting here on the forum. I send you much love and many blessings in the Name of the Guru, the Light of every Sikh, and the Holy Naam which holds the world..

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Thank you very much for your kind words. I hope the light keeps shining in me in you and everyone..thank you.. I am hoping and trying things will be better. But I feel bit drifting away. I hope I am pulled back towards him.

TheRebel gravatar imageTheRebel ( 2018-01-09 12:47:57 -0500 )edit

When you don’t act consciously, either hope or anxiety are produced. How can you act consciously without the Guru? By relaxing and focusing within our breath we find peace. By His Grace we find God's presence within, and all the dirt of the past falls away. (ANG 18)

Guruka Singh gravatar imageGuruka Singh ( 2018-01-09 12:52:32 -0500 )edit

Why is it that sometimes we drift away...When we know we have to merge with him...When we know we love him....Isn't love enough...Why do we still drift away

TheRebel gravatar imageTheRebel ( 2018-01-09 14:07:11 -0500 )edit

Until we remember all the time, we forget so that we can remember. It feels so sweet to remember (Simran,) so we practice, forget, remember, practice, forget, etc. until we can do Simran with every breath as we play our parts on the world stage.

Guruka Singh gravatar imageGuruka Singh ( 2018-01-10 13:31:02 -0500 )edit

Love is the first step. The final step is complete and unconditional trust in Guru Ji.

Guruka Singh gravatar imageGuruka Singh ( 2018-01-10 13:32:13 -0500 )edit

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