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Loving a boy of another religion

asked 2017-08-23 20:00:56 -0500

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updated 2017-08-24 10:01:18 -0500

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Sikhs believe that all humanity is one and we all are to merge with the Supreme creator depending on our deeds. If so is the case then why are there restrictions a Sikh can only marry a Sikh, doesn't that mean race is included here. Guru Nanak Dev ji even said Before becoming a Sikh, hindu, Muslim be a human first. Then why difference is considered here. We all are children's of Waheguru ji then why this sort of separation here. Gurudware is for everyone but only those who are Sikhs can marry there. How can this be made? There are people who are of different faith who follow Sikhism. I am one of them. It's been 4 complete years since I have done any sort of idol worship. I have been doing path, seva. I am not able to carry a Sikh tittle because I wasn't born there. So please somebody answer my query of loving someone of different religion and marriage in gurudware not being a Sikh

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answered 2017-08-24 02:19:54 -0500

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updated 2017-08-24 04:13:59 -0500

Good question. Like every organized religion on earth, Sikhism too has got some rules to be followed to be called a true Sikh. The Standard S.G.P.C Sikh Code of Conduct clearly says, that the persons professing faiths other than the Sikh faith cannot be joined in wedlock by the Anand Karaj ceremony and it also says, A Sikh's daughter must be married to a Sikh.

Not only the Sikh Code of Conduct but even the 52 Hukams of the Guru Gobind Singh Ji clearly says, Do not give your daughter's hand to a clean shaven.

So, the instructions to the Sikh community are very clear but unfortunately in the last 7 decades post India's independence some Sikhs have manipulated the Code of Conduct and start giving lame excuses like the one you mentioned above in your question. Some of the Sikhs have manipulated the things to such an extent that even those who are trimmers and clean shaven they too call themselves as GurSikhs. Our Gurus instructed us that Rehat or the Code of Conduct is more important (Rehat Pyari Mujhko Sikh Pyara Nahi)

I have heard some people saying that my ancestors were Sikhs or one of my parents is a Sikh or my wife is a Sikh so i am eligible to be called a half Sikh but the fact is in Sikhism there is no such term as half Sikh, quarter Sikh, 40% Sikh, 60% Sikh. In Sikhism either you are are a Sampooran Sikh following the Sikh Code of Conduct else you are not at all a Sikh.

Those who are unable to follow the Code of Conduct they do come up with marvelous excuses for example if someone is a non-vegetarian then he/she will manipulate the Gurbani and give an excuse as to why he/she is a non-vegetarian, if someone is a drunkard or trimmer or clean shaven then he too comes up with some fantastic manipulations, Oh! I am a Sikh at heart so what if i am not a Sabat Soorat but i do lots of Sewa and similarly if someone wants to marry a non-Sikh then she too comes up with some terrific ideas as to we all are one, we all are humans belonging to the human race so what's wrong if i marry a non-Sikh.

As i said above, like every organized religion on Earth, Sikhs too have their own Code of Conduct. To clear all the confusion that exists in the Sikh community, few years back, the Jathedar of the Akal Takht issued a Hukamnama instructing the Sikhs that Sikhs and non-Sikhs cannot be joined in the wedlock by the Anand Karaj procedures in a Gurdwara and lets not forget that the Hukamnama issued by the Jathedar of the Akal Takht (the Supreme Temporal Seat of the Sikhs) is equivalent to the Hukamnama issued by the Sikh Gurus.

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I am not yet a Sikh by look because I am not born in a Sikh family neither my forefathers or their wife were belonging to Sikh culture. I am the one who want myself to be a Sikh by look. I want to be a amritdhari even but I belong to a middle class family. You have any idea how to do all paperworks?

csmn gravatar imagecsmn ( 2017-08-24 05:19:15 -0500 )edit

if u r not yet a Sikh by looks then the question arises is what is stopping u from being an outwardly Sikh. My answer is be a Pooran Keshadhari first and then opt for the Amrit Paan. Whether u belong to middle class or elite class, rules in Sikhi r the same for everyone.

Not at all Punjabi gravatar imageNot at all Punjabi ( 2017-08-24 07:06:05 -0500 )edit

i have already answered ur question regarding paperworks. UR first step should be becoming pooran keshadhari from head to toe, then the Amrit Sanchar and at the end going for the paperworks, so stop worrying for the paparworks till u convert from Hinduism to Sikhism.

Not at all Punjabi gravatar imageNot at all Punjabi ( 2017-08-24 07:11:56 -0500 )edit

answered 2017-08-25 13:40:08 -0500

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Guru Nanak Dev Ji never said that quote, that's from a popular picture online. Guru Ji told us to respect every religion, but Guru Ji gave Sikhs specific code of conduct to follow. If a Sikh wants to have an Anand Karaj then it is between two Sikhs only, like Anmirt is only for a Sikh.

Nobody is born as a Sikh only Guru Ji can make a Sikh.

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answered 2017-09-04 16:10:03 -0500

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"If you cover your arm in oil and stick it in a sack of sesame seed, and if a musllaman takes as many oaths as the number of sesame seeds stuck to your arm..................... still never trust him!" By Guru Gobind Singhji.! Period!

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