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asked 2017-07-30 09:45:46 -0600

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updated 2017-07-31 10:59:48 -0600

Guruka Singh gravatar image

hi i am facing with problems in my marriage. i am 28 year old sikh girl. whenever any rishta comes they ask for more pictures and pass judgements or if i meet somebody they say we have no chemistries. how do i deal with such people. it lowers your self esteem and causes more stress. why is babji sending such people in my life and creating unnecessary havoc. my mind get very disturbed after these situations. am i doing something wrong?please help.

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answered 2017-07-30 17:31:31 -0600

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What a frustrating situation. I don’t think you are doing anything wrong. It sounds like people have no manners! I have a couple of ideas for you if you’d like to try. One idea is perhaps you could ask your parents to really screen the rishtas better so you aren’t meeting people who are rude. You don’t even need to know about the rishtas until you know that they wont be judgmental people and are a suitable enough match that it’s appropriate for you to meet. You could also just leave it to Waheguru. Do Ardas and say that you are ready to marry, please help me find someone. Take a break from actively seeking a relationship and just see if maybe you meet someone. I don't know your situation and what works for you- i guess it also depends on local customs/where you are from.

Let me remind you that you are a Kaur, a princess. Daughter of Guru Gobind Singh Ji. You are gold. Waheguru made you perfect, and don’t forget it. I like to repeat to myself this line from Gurbani “If people praise me, the praise is Yours. Even if they slander me, I will not leave You. If You are on my side, then anyone can say anything. But if I were to forget You, then I would die.” It reminds me God is in each of us, and to never let go of my faith. It’s people mistakes to say bad things, because they are speaking to God in each person. With each interaction, think of it as a blessing that Guru Ji has showed you the real nature of these people before you get married. You are being saved from a bad rishta. You don’t need someone who is simply looking for a good picture, or for chemistry. Those people are being superficial. People are often critical because of their own insecurities. Remember, these people don’t really know you so their opinions don’t matter. I’m sure if we all had a bunch of strangers coming to talk to us, every single person would get all sorts of criticisms which aren’t true. Don't worry, you will find someone when the time is right. In the meantime, feel free to write anytime you need some support and encouragement.

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I am 36 looking widow girl .I got ulcer problem

Amandeep007 gravatar imageAmandeep007 ( 2018-07-04 23:41:50 -0600 )edit

answered 2017-07-30 14:32:24 -0600

Manmeet gravatar image

My uncle Roop Singh is looking for his better half and he is looking for a sikh girl he is 32 years old civil engineer. May be if you are interested, he is a * good guy*...

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answered 2017-07-30 20:15:52 -0600

harpreet gravatar image

thank you bhenji. i guess it is testing times. been 5 years though now really long now. i keep loosing myself.

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no problem bhenji. You might feel like you are getting lots of pressure but really a lot of people are getting married in their late 20s/early 30s due to professional jobs, and various other reasons. You still have time :)

strongKaur gravatar imagestrongKaur ( 2017-07-31 01:19:04 -0600 )edit

the most important time is the time when Guru Ji decides that things will be right.

strongKaur gravatar imagestrongKaur ( 2017-07-31 01:19:17 -0600 )edit

answered 2017-07-31 13:29:02 -0600

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Try Sikh matrimonial sites our check if your local Gurdwara does some matrimonial service. Don't worry about when you will get married, do ardaas and trust Guru ji.

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answered 2019-04-22 09:38:07 -0600

Hai im 36 years old girl.just cant find my mr right.what paath can i do to get my soul mate.

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Just work on yourself to become the best you can be in yourself. Balance your physical, mental and spiritual self. Through your excellence, grace, power, discipline, radiance, joy and presence you will attract a partner of equal caliber and values.

Guruka Singh gravatar imageGuruka Singh ( 2019-04-22 10:21:46 -0600 )edit

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