just help me to figure out what is happening

asked 2017-04-08 21:51:42 -0500

Anonymous

updated 2017-04-10 13:11:53 -0500

Guruka Singh

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Waheguru ji ,

I don't know what is happening , i feel like i should just stop following god . I am so tired of losing the person I will start liking its so messed up .

anyways I hope someone over here can guide me and help me. I am in Canada right now , i have everything good job , nice car , nice house only thing i am asking from Baba ji is nice husband from last 3 years. every one says you believe in god nothing wrong is going to happen with you.

I use to have a boyfriend and i Knew that internally that he is never going to talk to his parents about me because he isJatt and I am Hindu. I loved him more than anything and he ended up going to India got married and now his marriage is not working out and he wants me to come back in his life. Every time I see him I feel like only thing he wants is me to be in his bed. I tired to be his friend and tired to convince him his wife is good lady and he should try to make this work out between them instead of thinking how to divorce her and marry me .

During this I met someone else he was so nice and was exactly the person I wanted to be , he left me saying I am busy with work and cant give you time that you deserve. mean while My mom found another one I met him tired to make things work out but was missing the second one ( not my boyfriend ) and as it always ends never worked out.

few days ago I went to Vancouver from Toronto , i was at my cousins house received a call from the second one if I want to see him and would like to go out with him for some drinks and dinner. generally I don't drink but i don't know what happened that day i lied to my cousin and went out with him. I knew that he is married and in fact said to him its not right what we are doing now . after couple of drinks i ended up expressing my feelings for him and we slept together .He said he like the way I am and loves me for what i am that is all i remember . I called him next day when i was at airport and told him to ignore what ever i said to him as i was drunk he said okay as i don't want to spoil his marriage either.

problem is i cant get him out of my head and i don't want to be with my ex boyfriend either . what should i do . i am so lonely sometimes i don't have any one to talk .

one of my friend told me to pray to devil she said god will never get you the one you love but devil ... (more)

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answered 2017-04-09 00:33:49 -0500

strongKaur
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updated 2017-04-09 00:38:46 -0500

You are caught up in a pretty messy situation. It sounds like you were able to realize your ex-boyfriend (the first guy) was not the one for you. After all, he wasn’t even able to talk to his parents about you, he left you to go get married in India, and then he is willing to cheat on his wife. Now as for the second guy, its hard to be able to think clearly when there was both alcohol and a sexual relationship involved. I will point out though that he is married, and it’s a heavy burden to be responsible for hurting another woman like that. I know you have feelings for him, but do you really want to be with someone who would cheat on his wife and do you want to be responsible for breaking up their marriage.

I know you are lonely, but you will find someone appropriate for you, who isn’t married, and who will love you and only you. Not a guy who just goes around looking for someone to have sex with. You deserve better, I promise. I really think that you shouldn’t talk to either of these guys again. Not following God is never a step in the right direction. Have patience, and you will find the right guy. I think that maybe this is your time to build your relationship with God. Do you have friends to talk to, family, cousins, someone that you can just talk? It might be nice to be able to fill your time with activities, keep busy. I suspect somewhere inside maybe there is a fear that you won't find someone else, or maybe you have some insecurities about finding someone else. Maybe try to explore that a bit, or build confidence in a certain are area of your life and remember what you deserve. I think that its really hard to let go and this is going to be painful. I wish you all the best in getting through it.

When it is the right person, it will work better than this. It won't be this hard, complicated, messy, painful. You deserve better.

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hey , is it possible for you to let me know which path i should do. every day i will think i will start doing path again but just can't do it any more

savdeep ( 2017-04-09 01:39:04 -0500 )edit

all paath is good, but I feel that chaupai is especially powerful and fairly simple to learn. Sukhmani is really amazing powerful for healing, but longer so harder to learn.