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How can I get my loved one back? Please help me as i cannot live without her.

asked 2017-03-25 21:42:56 -0600

Gurashish Singh gravatar image

updated 2017-03-31 10:29:54 -0600

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I am very dipressed now a days..... My realtion with my girlfriend was going good for sometime. But at a point i asked her for some time. She asked me to stay but i needed to time to continue. After 2 months when i went back to her, she was so angry that she broke up with me. I love her so much, she is everything to me. I need her back. Somebody please help me. I am ready to do anything to get her back. I want to marry her. But she says that she hate me now. But i dont think so. And if it so, i still love her and need her back. I can do nothing without her. I cry daily for her. I beg almighty to bring her back to me. I know i did mistakes, but i need one chance to correct all my mistakes. Please somebody help me. Please. I need her back. And she still loves me she told me herself. She is just affraid of the time she beared when i asked for some time. But if I git her bclack this time, there will be nothing that will seperate us again. Thats what she has to understand. Mehar kro waheguru ji.... Kirpa kro

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answered 2017-03-27 02:02:38 -0600

Not at all Punjabi gravatar image

Please do Ardas.......Bala Pritam Ji bless you.

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answered 2017-03-27 10:47:01 -0600

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updated 2017-03-27 16:55:54 -0600

What a woman wants from a man is NOT neediness. What she wants is steadiness, stability and a nature like the sun who shines his warmth and light on everyone equally. Your own insecurity is your enemy. The more you are desperate, the more she will pull away. The more you remain, kind, loving and steady - in chardi kala - balanced, relaxed and calm, the more chance you have of having a good relationship. Now is the time to work on yourself.

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answered 2017-03-28 00:20:23 -0600

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updated 2017-03-30 21:51:41 -0600

It might not feel like it right now but you will be okay. It’s going to take a bit of time but over time you will heal. Try to build on your own relationship with God now. One of the best pieces of advice I ever got was to use Gurbani to speak to the mind. That’s important. It was reasonable for you to take some time to sort things out in your own head, and take some time for yourself when you needed it. Sometimes life requires us to take a step back before we can be fully involved with someone and give our best to the relationship. She must have not understood or have been hurt by that, and I can understand her side too. I cannot say whether you two will end up together in the end or not, but try not to focus on that now. She needs some time and space, and let her have that. It is important to respect her wishes. Maybe she is just hurting temporarily and needs some time to sort out how she feels, and in her own time may contact you. Maybe instead it is best for her to move on. She will have to figure that out for herself, but leave it to her. You don’t want to be in a relationship if she doesn’t love you back equally. It’s also not fair to force someone to be with you if she doesn’t want to anymore. If she knows you are sorry and you love her, there is nothing else to be said. It’s up to her now whether she will give this relationship another chance. You are still an amazing person on your own. Think about all your good qualities. I think if it is meant to be, God will guide you back together. But just use this as a learning opportunity and work on yourself. Grow. Learn. Some of the greatest parts of yourself come out of painful moments in our life. You will get through this. Try to surround yourself with people who care about you and remind you of what life is about.

In relation to your update: Give her some time. Give her time to sort things out in her head and decide how she feels. I can understand you are anxious to get back together with her, but some time and space will help you both in being able to talk about things properly. Ideally you should wait until she contacts you again, but if you want maybe you can just wait a month, work on your own self and then try to ask her if she is willing to have a conversation about it without pushing too much.

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Yes i have left it on god but does that mean i shouldnt do anything? I dont know what am i doing. I just know one thing that i need her and need her badly. And you are saying that i should give her some time. Leave her alone. I CANT DO THAT AGAIN. I left her earlier and i am not gonna do it again.

Gurashish Singh gravatar imageGurashish Singh ( 2017-03-31 09:25:48 -0600 )edit

if you have talked to her and told her that you love her and made it clear about how committed you are, and after that she has told you that she doesn't want to talk to you then the only respectful thing to do is respect her wishes and leave her alone for a while.

strongKaur gravatar imagestrongKaur ( 2017-04-01 02:47:32 -0600 )edit

that was my understanding of the situation. but maybe i didn't understand right! its hard to get a picture on the internet. Do what you feel is right, and if you are at a loss for advice take a Hukamnama. God will help you sort this out. I know it hurts right now.

strongKaur gravatar imagestrongKaur ( 2017-04-01 02:49:11 -0600 )edit

if you haven't told her that you are committed to her and you love her, and she doesn't understand the situation of course its a different story. but its different if she is saying that she wants to be left alone right now and you are pushing her to see you. its wrong to force- see the difference?

strongKaur gravatar imagestrongKaur ( 2017-04-01 02:50:17 -0600 )edit

just remember to use common sense and don't worry too much about following what other people are telling you. your heart will tell you what to do and God will guide you

strongKaur gravatar imagestrongKaur ( 2017-04-01 02:53:06 -0600 )edit

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