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how to protect myself from kaambhawana

asked 2016-12-20 01:49:52 -0500

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updated 2017-01-17 13:19:11 -0500

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sir when i was 16, by seeing asleel talks by my classmates, i masterbate once, but after that kaambhawana had increased ,and i suffered from wet dreams, i started paath. now i am 27 but still suffered from wet dreams but rarely once in 2-3 weaks. how can i stop this , i feel guilty due to this and meltally disturbed.

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answered 2016-12-21 00:28:10 -0500

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updated 2016-12-30 02:32:28 -0500

We humans have strong sexual desire inside us, so it's quite natural that most of us love talking about sex, watching porn and hence masturbating. No matter how much religious you are still then you cannot stop yourself from those wet dreams or the lust inside you. Stop feeling guilty because this will lead to mental depression.

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answered 2016-12-27 13:08:46 -0500

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There is a shabad that has helped a lot of people lower if not stop their kaam here it is (Ang 403) p.s. I copy pasted it so it has a bunch of extra stuff

ਆਸਾ ਮਹਲਾ ੫ ॥ Aasaa Mehalaa 5 || आसा महला ५ ॥ Aasaa, Fifth Mehl: 18530 ਪੰ. ੫


ਨਿਮਖ ਕਾਮ ਸੁਆਦ ਕਾਰਣਿ ਕੋਟਿ ਦਿਨਸ ਦੁਖੁ ਪਾਵਹਿ ॥ Nimakh Kaam Suaadh Kaaran Kott Dhinas Dhukh Paavehi || निमख काम सुआद कारणि कोटि दिनस दुखु पावहि ॥ For a moment of sexual pleasure, you shall suffer in pain for millions of days. 18531 ਆਸਾ (ਮ: ੫) ਗੁਰੂ ਗ੍ਰੰਥ ਸਾਹਿਬ : ਅੰਗ ੪੦੩ ਪੰ. ੫ Raag Asa Guru Arjan Dev


ਘਰੀ ਮੁਹਤ ਰੰਗ ਮਾਣਹਿ ਫਿਰਿ ਬਹੁਰਿ ਬਹੁਰਿ ਪਛੁਤਾਵਹਿ ॥੧॥ Gharee Muhath Rang Maanehi Fir Bahur Bahur Pashhuthaavehi ||1|| घरी मुहत रंग माणहि फिरि बहुरि बहुरि पछुतावहि ॥१॥ For an instant, you may savor pleasure, but afterwards, you shall regret it, again and again. ||1|| 18532 ਆਸਾ (ਮ: ੫) ਗੁਰੂ ਗ੍ਰੰਥ ਸਾਹਿਬ : ਅੰਗ ੪੦੩ ਪੰ. ੬ Raag Asa Guru Arjan Dev


ਅੰਧੇ ਚੇਤਿ ਹਰਿ ਹਰਿ ਰਾਇਆ ॥ Andhhae Chaeth Har Har Raaeiaa || अंधे चेति हरि हरि राइआ ॥ O blind man, meditate on the Lord, the Lord, your King. 18533 ਆਸਾ (ਮ: ੫) ਗੁਰੂ ਗ੍ਰੰਥ ਸਾਹਿਬ : ਅੰਗ ੪੦੩ ਪੰ. ੬ Raag Asa Guru Arjan Dev


ਤੇਰਾ ਸੋ ਦਿਨੁ ਨੇੜੈ ਆਇਆ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥ Thaeraa So Dhin Naerrai Aaeiaa ||1|| Rehaao || तेरा सो दिनु नेड़ै आइआ ॥१॥ रहाउ ॥ Your day is drawing near. ||1||Pause|| 18534 ਆਸਾ (ਮ: ੫) ਗੁਰੂ ਗ੍ਰੰਥ ਸਾਹਿਬ : ਅੰਗ ੪੦੩ ਪੰ. ੭ Raag Asa Guru Arjan Dev


ਪਲਕ ਦ੍ਰਿਸਟਿ ਦੇਖਿ ਭੂਲੋ ਆਕ ਨੀਮ ਕੋ ਤੂੰਮਰੁ ॥ Palak Dhrisatt Dhaekh Bhoolo Aak Neem Ko Thoonmar || पलक द्रिसटि देखि भूलो आक नीम को तूमरु ॥ You are deceived, beholding with your eyes, the bitter melon and swallow-wort. 18535 ਆਸਾ (ਮ: ੫) ਗੁਰੂ ਗ੍ਰੰਥ ਸਾਹਿਬ : ਅੰਗ ੪੦੩ ਪੰ. ੭ Raag Asa Guru Arjan Dev


ਜੈਸਾ ਸੰਗੁ ਬਿਸੀਅਰ ਸਿਉ ਹੈ ਰੇ ਤੈਸੋ ਹੀ ਇਹੁ ਪਰ ਗ੍ਰਿਹੁ ॥੨॥ Jaisaa Sang Biseear Sio Hai Rae Thaiso Hee Eihu Par Grihu ||2|| जैसा संगु बिसीअर सिउ है रे तैसो ही इहु पर ग्रिहु ॥२॥ But, like the companionship of a poisonous snake, so is the desire for another's spouse. ||2|| 18536 ਆਸਾ (ਮ: ੫) ਗੁਰੂ ਗ੍ਰੰਥ ਸਾਹਿਬ : ਅੰਗ ੪੦੩ ਪੰ. ੭ Raag Asa Guru Arjan Dev


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answered 2016-12-27 14:46:32 -0500

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It sounds like this issue is causing you quite a bit of anxiety so I hope I can reassure you. It’s normal for a man to experience wet dreams once he’s gone through puberty. How often a man gets them will vary from person to person and there is actually no clear association between masturbation and how often you’ll get wet dreams. They might decrease once you get married/have a sexual partner. If you are still really worried, feel free to go and talk to your doctor about it. They hear about this kind of stuff all the time and they are probably better to answer your questions, but it’s nothing to feel guilty about.

Now as for daytime if you are having a hard time fighting lustful thoughts. I’ve written this before in a different post- sexual energy is normal. We can’t suppress it. It’s like anger- it’s not good to suppress. We say Kaam is bad because we don’t want to be obsessed with sexual thoughts. We don’t want them controlling us and taking over our lives and minds. Then we are a slave to Kaal.

Think about expressing the sexual energy in different ways like playing sports. Watch the video transforming sexual feelings by Guruka Singh. Everything should be in balance in life, and we need to learn to control the thoughts and we can control them by reading Gurbani to learn the path to God. We can control the 5 (kaam, krodh, lob, moh, hankaar) by simran to learn to stop the thoughts.

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But i think men do have more desire for sex than women. Though women do masturbate but not sure whether women too go through wet dreams or not.

Not at all Punjabi gravatar imageNot at all Punjabi ( 2016-12-29 02:03:52 -0500 )edit

probably true. I think its a hormonal thing, but also I think women have more desire than men realize! I think there's an aspect of it being culturally less acceptable for women to express that desire.

strongKaur gravatar imagestrongKaur ( 2017-01-01 21:37:44 -0500 )edit

yes women do get them, just defined differently than for men.

strongKaur gravatar imagestrongKaur ( 2017-01-01 21:38:35 -0500 )edit

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