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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh
I am really sorry that you are experiencing these thoughts. I do not know the context of your life and whether you are also experiencing depression, anxiety, or other mental illness or whether you just had a major life event. If its associated with mental illness, know that there is help and treatments available for those. I’m not sure if you are experiencing these thoughts in the context of hopelessness or these are just thoughts that come to you randomly because you haven’t mentioned that so I’ll try to make my answer broad.
This is hard to talk about, so thank you for sharing. I think its important to share this with someone else who can help you better like a doctor, or a trusted family member, or calling something like a local crisis line. I agree with the person above that you need some proper advice. Lots of people have experienced suicidal thoughts. Its especially important that you are safe and in order to do that its important to get help. I don’t know how strong these thoughts are and whether you have a plan or intent to act on the plan, but these are questions that a healthcare professional would ask you in order to help. Safety plans are important if you tend to have these thoughts when you are distressed. A safety plan involves steps like calling for help or going to the emergency room to get help if you are feeling unsafe. Often times these thoughts come when we can’t cope with the problems in front of us and we need help finding a solution that is manageable. Try to tell others what you need in terms of support. Make sure you are not alone when you feel this way, its good to have support around.
Try to think about the reasons you live or the reasons not to do it. For example thinking about how it doesn’t solve your problems because your soul will carry forward the pain to your next life, or alternatively thinking about all the people who care about you right now. The reasons might be different for you than they are for me, each person needs to think about it. As the other person posted, its good to do Ardaas and remember God. Try not to wrap up yourself in guilt and shame because it may prevent you from getting the help you need and being able to talk about it.
Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh
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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh
I am really sorry that you are experiencing these thoughts. I do not know the context of your life and whether you are also experiencing depression, anxiety, or other mental illness or whether you just had a major life event. If its associated with mental illness, know that there is help and treatments available for those. I’m not sure if you are experiencing these thoughts in the context of hopelessness or these are just thoughts that come to you randomly because you haven’t mentioned that so I’ll try to make my answer broad.
This is hard to talk about, so thank you for sharing. I think its important to share this with someone else who can help you better like a doctor, or a trusted family member, or calling something like a local crisis line. I agree with the person above that you need some proper advice. Lots of people have experienced suicidal thoughts. Its especially important that you are safe and in order to do that its important to get help. I don’t know how strong these thoughts are and whether you have a plan or intent to act on the plan, but these are questions that a healthcare professional would ask you in order to help. Safety plans are important if you tend to have these thoughts when you are distressed. A safety plan involves steps like calling for help or going to the emergency room to get help if you are feeling unsafe. Often times these thoughts come when we can’t cope with the problems in front of us and we need help finding a solution that is manageable. Try to tell others what you need in terms of support. Make sure you are not alone when you feel this way, its good to have support around.
Try to think about the reasons you live or the reasons not to do it. For example thinking about how it doesn’t solve your problems because your soul will carry forward the pain to your next life, or alternatively thinking about all the people who care about you right now. The reasons might be different for you than they are for me, each person needs to think about it. As the other person posted, its good to do Ardaas and remember God. Try not to wrap up yourself in guilt and shame because it may prevent you from getting the help you need and being able to talk about it.
Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh
Additional: I’m so sorry all this is happening. Its ok to take the time to focus on yourself and not be in a relationship right now. Right now, taking care of yourself like exercising and sleeping well are important because it builds strength for you to deal with the stressors. You are not alone- God is with you here during all of this. If you have the ability, do simran, listen to kirtan, and do seva. Again, I would urge you to get professional help dealing with this so you have someone to talk to at least. Counseling (teaches skills on how to deal with stress) or medications can be helpful, but that’s all up to what you feel is right for you. Take the time you need to get better. I’m not sure how your self-confidence is doing right now but remember that you are God’s child, a beautiful soul that was made perfect and carries amazing qualities. Remembering those qualities daily can help to build up the confidence- like “I am strong” “I am a powerful soul.” I'm not going to tell you just to think positive, because depression is an illness and the solution is not that simple. You will be able to get through this just like you got through high school before- this feeling will not last forever. There are treatments for depression, there is hope, there are a lot of reasons to remember that living is important. I'm just here offering you some support so that you can remember that there are people out there who care about you (me included!) and hope you are feeling better soon. Getting help dealing with this can take off the burden from your own shoulders, and help you cut off those thoughts before they start to really sink in.