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I thought it would be of interest to the Sikhnet community for me to update you on my marriage situation since my last post in 2013. After a lot of heartache, misery and disappointment at my husbands attitude I divorced him this year. I feel liberated and a great sense of achievement at finally making the right choice for mine and my childrens long term wellbeing. Making the choice between living in a loveless marriage and sharing my husband with other women and then trying to justify that to my grown up children and making a clean fresh start with my children has done wonders for my health, self esteem and the general day to day living for my children. I will not pretend that it was an easy decision. I acknowledge that I have been scarred emotionally for life from my marriage experience and the divorce. I also understand that my children have been deeply affected by the whole divorce process and they have watched their father change from a loving father to a man who has forgotten that he ever had any children. I stand my decision and believe that over the 23 years of my marriage my husband continued having affairs because I allowed him to continue this kind of abuse and only threatened to leave him but never did. Thank you to those two people who took the time to read my post in 2013 and respond and I would finally like to say that I am in a much happier place in my life, my kids are doing well at University, I have continued my faith in Waheguru and feel much closer to him now than I have ever been in my life. Thanks to Waheguru's Kirpa in my journey I have been able to put the past behind me, continue working to support and feed my children.

I thought it would be of interest to the Sikhnet community for me to update you on my marriage situation since my last post in 2013. After a lot of heartache, misery and disappointment at my husbands attitude I divorced him this year. I feel liberated and a great sense of achievement at finally making the right choice for mine and my childrens long term wellbeing. Making the choice between living in a loveless marriage and sharing my husband with other women and then trying to justify that to my grown up children and making a clean fresh start with my children has done wonders for my health, self esteem and the general day to day living for my was the most sensible thing to do. After all it was my husbands choice to choose other women over the mother of his children. I will not pretend that it was an easy decision. I acknowledge that I have been scarred emotionally for life from my marriage experience and the divorce. I will never trust another man again after the years of betrayal and deceit my husband forced on me. I also understand that my children have been deeply affected by the whole divorce process and they have watched their father change from a loving father to a man who has forgotten that he ever had any children. I stand my decision and believe that over the 23 years of my marriage my husband continued having affairs because I allowed him to continue this kind of abuse and I only threatened to leave him but never did. had the courage to. Thank you to those two people who took the time to read my post in 2013 and respond and I would finally like to say that I am in a much happier place in my life, my kids are doing well at University, I have continued my faith in Waheguru and feel much closer to him now than I have ever been in my life. Thanks to Waheguru's Kirpa in my journey I have been able to put the past behind me, continue working to support and feed my children.children.