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Waheguru ji ka Khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh Try this: Instead of thinking that you want to be a nice and kind person, try thinking straight out that you don't want to regret and feel poorly/guilty about your behavior (like you are feeling right now); basically you want to avoid feeling CRAPPY afterwards. The thing is that when you get angry, you start thinking about it even after it has ended, and you carry such moments into your future. Makes you get attached to your past, which is certainly not healthy. So,

Just leave the room, or distance yourself (perhaps by looking away, closing your eyes for a momen and say in your heart Satnam Waheguru - bless me with patience), take a couple deep breaths, and chill. Once you are calm, you can think about the issue more clearly - a bit of science:

Anger - emotional centres in the brain are activated; these are part of the superficial thinking; only helpful when you are being threatened by a life-threatening situation (like ones that faced our evolutionary anccestors)

Thinking under calmness - Prefrontal cortex activated - the thinking part of your brain; important for self-control, wisdom, intelligence among many other things

May Waheguru Ji bless us all with patience and peace.

Good Luck :)