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I am sorry to hear about the way you are feeling. I gather from what you are saying is that you failed at course at college (university) and you feel you cannot speak to your parents about it.

You can ignore my suggestion and listen to other responses of people who have far more helpful advice than me.

At some point in our journeys we embark on in our lives, we get to a part where we feel like giving up. Sometimes we give up before we even start and other times we give up after we have not obtained the results of something that we put all our effort and energy into. I know how you feel as I have been in a similar position.

You say you want to kill yourself. But my view is that as long as you are alive (and healthy and free) you have the choice to keep trying until you finally succeed. The chance of mastering something the first time you do it is almost non-existent. Everything takes time to learn and you will make mistakes. Learn from them. You may have failed something but learn from it. Every time you get knocked down you should try and get back up again.

You are stronger than you think. One little setback is not enough to stop you from achieving your goals. Neither are 10 or 100 or 1000 setbacks. You don’t want to be known as someone that is weak and gives up. Go out there and prove yourself in your own studies and to yourself. You CAN and WILL achieve what you set out to do. The only time you fail is when you give up. Don’t sell yourself short. In life there are going to be many people who will try to bring you down and tell you what you want to achieve is not possible. Don’t let anyone destroy your dreams.

Let the people you love and who mean the world to you be your inspiration to persist and persevere. Maybe you need to try a different angle, study more or practice more but don’t give up!

The best policy with parents is to be honest and upfront with them about what has happen. Don’t you think that it will be a weight off your shoulder by telling them and trying to move on from it?

I hope my suggestions have been helpful.