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Think of the bigger picture. You may have owed this person from another lifetime. Now your debt is paid. In addition, you will be much better at reading the signs of character. It may have nothing to do with appearance. Another important outcome of these experiences is to understand where our anger is coming from and what we can do about it. You have done several good deeds out of the goodness of your heart. Now that you know the man's character, would you do them again? The answer would tell you whether you expected something in return. Maybe you would help him after the death, but not pay for his tea. Another question to ask is what am I angry about? I have found that it is usually my ego that is making me suffer. Being made foolish by someone you thought of as a friend is very bruising to the ego. Everyone who has a good heart has to go through this test. When we are sincere, we realize that some of our kind acts have ego behind them. The anger tells us to work harder on observing our ego. Naam simran is very helpful. Chardi kala!