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Waheguru ji ka khalsa, Waheguru ji ki fateh,

Take a deep breath first of all ji, and don't stress out. You mentioned that you're scared of having an attachment? Does that mean you just don't want to be stuck with one person for the rest of your life? is that it? However, you don't have to be attached to your husband, you just have to be loving. All our gurus were not attached to their spouse but rather fulfilled their duty (I.e. Guru Nanak dev ji left his wife to go to udaasis, to preach sikhi, but then he came back and was still a great husband, Guru gobind singh ji gave his life for the panth, he wasn't afraid of leaving his wife but overall, was a great husband). Similarly, you can do your duty as a wife without being attached. This is because attachment is like a baby rejecting to give away his toy no matter who asks, and then cries if it is taken away. I'm not sure about your mindset, but just understand that marriage is more than just physical bonding but also spiritual one (the one you're scared of). In simple terms, spiritual bonding is when you need to treat your husband with respect, love and vice versa. There's nothing to be scared of, just see him as a friend! If he's a good guy, he'll understand your worries and win your heart slowly. Waheguru ji mehr karn. Bhul Chuk Muaf karni.