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Waheguru jio,

I loved the answer provided by singh saab and kaur ji. It's true that you need to own your anger but I also understand that it's also very hard. However, maybe its a test from guru ji to you. "Anand bhaya meri maye, satgur main paya", if you cry when you don't get what you want and laugh/party when you do get, then you're not experiencing anand (if you want to develop higher, spiritually, then that's a goal for you). Remember, "aape beej aape hi khaye". You should focus on what you do as you will get the fruits of your own actions. By you boiling up in anger, she will not stop. Talk to her politely with all the facts (society pressures included), ask her about the main reason as to why she's doing that. If you keep it inside yourself, things will not change. You guys should watch "chaar sahibzaade" together one night and realise what sikhi is all about, or read her some sakhis. As guru ji continually says in gurbani, "gurprasad", which means we get god's praises by guru's Prasad, and not everyone is lucky enough to have it. You're indeed very lucky that you love gurbani so much, so that's why focus on you :)

Watch this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B2FlXWkxj1g

Bhul chuk muaf karni ji. I'll be happy to talk to you if you need! Just keep calm and listen to gurbani, solutions come when you seek for answers with a clear mind. Nothing can be seen in boiling water.

Waheguru jio,

I loved the answer provided by singh saab and kaur ji. It's true that you need to own your anger but I also understand that it's also very hard. However, maybe its a test from guru ji to you. "Anand bhaya meri maye, satgur main paya", if you cry when you don't get what you want and laugh/party when you do get, then you're not experiencing anand (if you want to develop higher, spiritually, then that's a goal for you). Remember, "aape beej aape hi khaye". You should focus on what you do as you will get the fruits of your own actions. By you boiling up in anger, she will not stop. Talk to her politely with all the facts (society pressures included), ask her about the main reason as to why she's doing that. If you keep it inside yourself, things will not change. You guys should watch "chaar sahibzaade" together one night and realise what sikhi is all about, or read her some sakhis. She might get emotionally triggered and start to understand. However, in the end, it shouldn't bother you. Koi na je tusi kale ho ta, bhagat kabir ji, fareed ji, naam dev ji v ta kale c. Just follow guru's teachings. As guru ji continually says in gurbani, "gurprasad", which means we get god's praises by guru's Prasad, and not everyone is only the lucky enough to have ones get it. You're indeed very lucky that you love gurbani so much, so that's why much and wanted an amritdhari wife but hey we don't always get what we wish for you. Just focus on you :) aaaand your child if you stay the strong sikh that you are and keep up with the marriage. Not all battles are fought in a battlefield! Jou to prem khelen ka chao, sir tar tali gali meri ao! Jao veer ji, make your marriage and yourself happy! :)

Watch this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B2FlXWkxj1g

Bhul chuk muaf karni ji. I'll be happy to talk to you if you need! Just keep calm and listen to gurbani, solutions come when you seek for answers with a clear mind. Nothing can be seen in boiling water.