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What a frustrating situation. I don’t think you are doing anything wrong. It sounds like people have no manners! I have a couple of ideas for you if you’d like to try. One idea is perhaps you could ask your parents to really screen the rishtas better so you aren’t meeting people who are rude. You don’t even need to know about the rishtas until you know that they wont be judgmental people and are a suitable enough match that it’s appropriate for you to meet. You could also just leave it to Waheguru. Do Ardas and say that you are ready to marry, please help me find someone. Take a break from actively seeking a relationship and just see if maybe you meet someone. I don't know your situation and what works for you- i guess it also depends on local customs/where you are from.

Let me remind you that you are a Kaur, a princess. Daughter of Guru Gobind Singh Ji. You are gold. Waheguru made you perfect, and don’t forget it. I like to repeat to myself this line from Gurbani “If people praise me, the praise is Yours. Even if they slander me, I will not leave You. If You are on my side, then anyone can say anything. But if I were to forget You, then I would die.” It reminds me God is in each of us, and to never let go of my faith. It’s people mistakes to say bad things, because they are speaking to God in each person. With each interaction, think of it as a blessing that Guru Ji has showed you the real nature of these people before you get married. You are being saved from a bad rishta. You don’t need someone who is simply looking for a good picture, or for chemistry. Those people are being superficial. People are often critical because of their own insecurities. Remember, these people don’t really know you so their opinions don’t matter. I’m sure if we all had a bunch of strangers coming to talk to us, every single person would get all sorts of criticisms which aren’t true. Don't worry, you will find someone when the time is right. In the meantime, feel free to write anytime you need some support and encouragement.