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From your message it sounds like you are dating? Its okay for you to change your mind about staying with him forever. Sometimes we realize what we originally thought about someone or our relationship wasn’t an accurate assessment. So remember that yes you are free to leave this relationship. You don’t want to feel like your relationship is just a problem hanging over your head forever. You both deserve to be in happy relationships, and he isn’t going to be happy in the long-run if you are simply staying because of your promise.

Now there are other options than ending this relationship though like talking to him, and trying to figure out if there is a way to work on the problems you are facing. All relationships do take effort. That doesn’t mean all relationships need to be saved- sometimes its time to walk away and say no this is not a good environment for me, or I need some time to myself. Sometimes it truly isn’t a safe or respectful environment, for example, and in those cases, its not worth the effort. But sometimes it is worth the effort. When two people love each other and there’s some problem in the way, they can make the effort to work on their relationship instead of parting ways. But that does require good communication and being able to tell him how his arguing makes you feel, and him being willing to work on himself too.

I don’t know what you will decide for your relationship because only you have the facts about what happened. You say he broke your trust, that must have hurt. Its hard to rebuild, but when we love someone it is possible. Trust gets broken between parents and children and rebuilt. But it depends on how important that relationship is to you, and what exactly happened.