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That’s a hard situation. One would hope after marriage the parents would be more accepting, but I guess sometimes not. We are humans first, believing in a particular religion second. On a human level it is important to try to understand each other and accept one another. It’s hard to change other people, get the in-laws to change their mind. But I think that if they were open-minded to getting to know their new son-in-law it might be different. Just tell him to remain understanding and not hostile himself. Maybe they will come around with time. If they aren’t really willing to talk it out or get to know him it makes it hard. Most conflicts come from what we call the 5 “thieves” in life- lust, anger, greed, attachment, pride, and ultimately ego. When we are able to put these away and sit down and have a clear conversation to understand one another, we can resolve the issue. I think if her parents were able to put their own differences aside and understand their daughter has chosen to marry someone from a different religion, that would be ideal, but we can’t really force them. I think all your friend can really do is try to focus on his relationship with his wife. I would assume they would have had a conversation before marriage about whether he was going to change his religion or not, and that would have been decided then.