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Sat Shiri Akaal, I can understand how you are feeling and what is going through the mind when all this is happening. Firstly let me just say that these are just normal feelings and urges, So there is nothing wrong with you. And dont listen to anyone who says you are not beautiful, You are and thats what matters. Coz Waheguru made you that way. You are unique and the only one in this world! be happy and feel good about it. There are issues for sure that you have to attend and help yourself, I like the way you express yourself, You have a very good conscious and this will help you alot. You have to do alot of Waheguru jap and that will help alot. Like what Strong kaur said keep yourself busy and understand that your body is not just there for a few days etc you will need it for many many years so to stop doing what you feel is not right is good. There is alot of power the body uses when such actions are done, this will eventually make you weak and in the long you could have other health issues like chronic fatigue, a person thinks its ok as we are young but eventually it will take its toll. so start thinking positively and stopping this thing you are doing, and you will overcome it. There is nothing wrong in being a virgin and even when you marry there is nothing wrong, knowing sex or doing it does not make a person a better person in any way! You should not feel depressed or suicidal because of this activity you are doing, suicide is a cowards way to deal with problems, I am sure you are not a coward, doesn't matter how you look! with time things will change and you will find a person who likes you , who likes the person in you even if you have an arranged marriage. I agree with you that like your dad says get a boyfriend that should not help at all, you might just get a guy who will just use and abuse you at will, so you are being strong and sensible, I like your confidence! Hang out with friends and do normal things like going to the cinema, bowling etc this will keep you busy and keep your mind off the stupid activity. Like i was saying the body uses alot of energy when such activity is done, so preserve that energy and use it in other playing activities, take up a sport like swimming or squash that will keep your mind fresh and your body in exercise.

You can and will stop doing this as at this all the body's glands are playing up, so be strong and you will succeed. You need to do Yoga and such exercises eg pilates etc and this will help you as well. You can change schools by applying to the school and hopefully you can get a place there, study and make a future for yourself, in the future women will have to fend for themselves without men's help as many men just use women and throw them away. Don't listen to people at school about peer pressure, its all a waste of time and effort, when the time comes in the future you will be happy with the effort you have put in your life and dealt with issues. You will feel proud of yourself and complement it everyday of your future life!

You need to deal with self esteem as well, Be positive and be happy the way you are as you are still growing the persons face and body changes and you may never know that you will become a sweet loving life to your partner! physical features don't matter!

Having boys as your friends is not wrong but indulging in something sexual with them might change the course of your life so dont do anything wrong now, you are too young to deal with a young pregnancy and a kid! or even abortion! it scars your whole life. And when you grow up and have a good future, job etc, and you are still unhappy with your looks you can always have surgery to make you look nicer! but you really don't need that! About trichotillomania, you need to seek professional help and that should sort that out! You need to definitely check out your diet and go deeper to help you with things connected to your behaviour and any self harm issues. Ask your GP to get you a brain scan and that should help many things there could be something or some area of your brain not receiving enough oxygen etc, nutrients etc...you need to log in everyday what you eat and how it affected you then use the elimination of some items, eg Flour, atta is one of the issues and milk as well and all milk related products. You may need a lymph cleanse to clean any blockages in your system, the whole body!

Bullying can horrible, I suffered that as well and can understand how it makes a person feel, but be strong you didnt do anything wrong so why the guilt? Let the person who did that pay for it! Dont waste your life for them!

Again it seems like you are friends with many people but who gives a damn! you will loose them as soon as you change school, go to uni etc and even get married, I haven't missed any of my friends ever! we were close and did silly things together! Friends come and go and as life changes we make new ones to help us carry on! Sometimes we are best at being loners, there is nothing wrong with that! Nobody hates, you haven't met nice people that's all. coz maybe you are not popular at school etc, but it shouldn't matter! You have to learn to control your anger it has never helped anyone, when you grow up like this and continue like this it will make it difficult to have a relationship so please dont harm yourself and don't have low self esteem! It is not a nice thing to hurt yourself just imagine if something happened to you your parents and your near ones will miss you dearly, doesn't matter how you look, look Princess Diana was so beautiful and she died? anyone give a dam no! but hey ask her mother who gave birth to her she must be devastated till today! and her kids too. You are a normal Sikh and seeking help is a very brave thing to do! Carry on seeking and God will help you as well.

Please don't cry and be strong, you shouldn't be crying for stupid things like this. Believe me you should be strong and tell peer pressure to get lost! you will be happy. Go to the Gurudwaras, do paath, don't have to do it for hours and hours, just listen to waheguru jap and you will find direction and purpose of life, please don't pull your hair and cut yourself, stop watching crap from the internet, The Sikh community needs women like you. who grow up to give birth to YODHAS who will stand up and fight for the rights of the poor. DO you think the mothers of the Sikh Martyrs ever thought that they did not look beautiful? Imagine the mother of Mai Bhago? Get inspiration from our rich History and i am sure Waheguru will help u. Take care! Someone loves you, and that starts with the Guru himself! You also need to get your mineral and vitamins checked, you might be low on stuff like omegas!

Sat Shiri Akaal, I can understand how you are feeling and what is going through the mind when all this is happening. Firstly let me just say that these are just normal feelings and urges, So there is nothing wrong with you. And dont listen to anyone who says you are not beautiful, You are and thats what matters. Coz Waheguru made you that way. You are unique and the only one in this world! be happy and feel good about it. There are issues for sure that you have to attend and help yourself, I like the way you express yourself, You have a very good conscious and this will help you alot. You have to do alot of Waheguru jap and that will help alot. Like what Strong kaur said keep yourself busy and understand that your body is not just there for a few days etc you will need it for many many years so to stop doing what you feel is not right is good. There is alot of power the body uses when such actions are done, this will eventually make you weak and in the long you could have other health issues like chronic fatigue, a person thinks its ok as we are young but eventually it will take its toll. so start thinking positively and stopping this thing you are doing, and you will overcome it. There is nothing wrong in being a virgin and even when you marry there is nothing wrong, knowing sex or doing it does not make a person a better person in any way! You should not feel depressed or suicidal because of this activity you are doing, suicide is a cowards way to deal with problems, I am sure you are not a coward, doesn't matter how you look! with time things will change and you will find a person who likes you , who likes the person in you even if you have an arranged marriage. I agree with you that like your dad says get a boyfriend that should not help at all, you might just get a guy who will just use and abuse you at will, so you are being strong and sensible, I like your confidence! Hang out with friends and do normal things like going to the cinema, bowling etc this will keep you busy and keep your mind off the stupid activity. Like i was saying the body uses alot of energy when such activity is done, so preserve that energy and use it in other playing activities, take up a sport like swimming or squash that will keep your mind fresh and your body in exercise.

You can and will stop doing this as at this all the body's glands are playing up, so be strong and you will succeed. You need to do Yoga and such exercises eg pilates etc and this will help you as well. You can change schools by applying to the school and hopefully you can get a place there, study and make a future for yourself, in the future women will have to fend for themselves without men's help as many men just use women and throw them away. Don't listen to people at school about peer pressure, its all a waste of time and effort, when the time comes in the future you will be happy with the effort you have put in your life and dealt with issues. You will feel proud of yourself and complement it everyday of your future life!

You need to deal with self esteem as well, Be positive and be happy the way you are as you are still growing the persons face and body changes and you may never know that you will become a sweet loving life to your partner! physical features don't matter!

Having boys as your friends is not wrong but indulging in something sexual with them might change the course of your life so dont do anything wrong now, you are too young to deal with a young pregnancy and a kid! or even abortion! it scars your whole life. And when you grow up and have a good future, job etc, and you are still unhappy with your looks you can always have surgery to make you look nicer! but you really don't need that! About trichotillomania, you need to seek professional help and that should sort that out! You need to definitely check out your diet and go deeper to help you with things connected to your behaviour and any self harm issues. Ask your GP to get you a brain scan and that should help many things there could be something or some area of your brain not receiving enough oxygen etc, nutrients etc...you need to log in everyday what you eat and how it affected you then use the elimination of some items, eg Flour, atta is one of the issues and milk as well and all milk related products. You may need a lymph cleanse to clean any blockages in your system, the whole body!

Bullying can horrible, I suffered that as well and can understand how it makes a person feel, but be strong you didnt do anything wrong so why the guilt? Let the person who did that pay for it! Dont waste your life for them!

Again it seems like you are friends with many people but who gives a damn! you will loose them as soon as you change school, go to uni etc and even get married, I haven't missed any of my friends ever! we were close and did silly things together! Friends come and go and as life changes we make new ones to help us carry on! Sometimes we are best at being loners, there is nothing wrong with that! Nobody hates, you haven't met nice people that's all. coz maybe you are not popular at school etc, but it shouldn't matter! You have to learn to control your anger it has never helped anyone, when you grow up like this and continue like this it will make it difficult to have a relationship so please dont harm yourself and don't have low self esteem! It is not a nice thing to hurt yourself just imagine if something happened to you your parents and your near ones will miss you dearly, doesn't matter how you look, look Princess Diana was so beautiful and she died? anyone give a dam no! but hey ask her mother who gave birth to her she must be devastated till today! and her kids too. You are a normal Sikh and seeking help is a very brave thing to do! Carry on seeking and God will help you as well.

Please don't cry and be strong, you shouldn't be crying for stupid things like this. Believe me you should be strong and tell peer pressure to get lost! you will be happy. Go to the Gurudwaras, do paath, don't have to do it for hours and hours, just listen to waheguru jap and you will find direction and purpose of life, please don't pull your hair and cut yourself, and stop watching crap from the internet, The Sikh community needs women like you. who grow up to give birth to YODHAS who will stand up and fight for the rights of the poor. DO you think the mothers of the Sikh Martyrs ever thought that they did not look beautiful? Imagine the mother of Mai Bhago? Get inspiration from our rich History and i am sure Waheguru will help u. Take care! Someone loves you, and that starts with the Guru himself! You also need to get your mineral and vitamins checked, you might be low on stuff like omegas!