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2013-08-05 22:41:19 -0500 | answered a question | Black magic believers WJKK, WJKF JasPinduh I hope I can help you with you question. Although, I don't have a direct answer to your question on how to "spot" someone who believes in black magic but I am going to try and take a different angle to your question about how to deal with it. To me, black magic is a belief in something that is other than God. It almost sounds like a belief in the devil or something but I am not going to try to sound like I completely understand what it is. Personally, I don't understand why so many people (especially, our sikh brothers and sisters) have started to believe in it and are leaving everything our gurus taught us on the table. I don't know exactly what black magic does and how you can "save" yourself from its curse! I have seen people put green chilly (mirch) and lime (nimbu) in front of their homes, I have seen people put a bowl (matkaa) with a black face on top of their homes, I have seen my own sister in laws mother take salt and circle it around my sister in law to keep "bad spirits" away from her! All this, I have seen in homes of Sikh families. My own family. But I being the "questioning" person that I am, have always asked and wondered why! Its not until I read in the Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji Maharaj that I realized that all this black magic stuff is senseless and has no substance to it. Then, I began to freely express my "rejection" of these belief to my family. When someone in my family would take about practicing any of these black magic stuff I would always ask them why? and tell them that as sikhs, we simply don't believe in this crap! They still won't listen. And I would stand my ground and not partake in any such activity but I would make it a goal to point out that what they were doing is wrong and totally against the sikh believes. And maybe that is where you should start. You may want to first confront your father about the things he is doing. Don't be rude, but ask him politely what he is doing and why? If you find what he is doing is wrong, then talk to him about it. Tell him why you believe its wrong. But make sure you also listen to his explanation (if he provides any! I know my dad would kick my ass if I ever questioned him but maybe things are different with you!) And reading your brother, I would say ask him about his dreams as well. If he is afraid of something then find out what it is and help him through Gurbani. Our guru's have provided us with guidance on every aspect of our lives (be it fear, love, hate, greed, whatever, the guru has guidance for you ... (more) |
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2013-07-22 21:54:57 -0500 | answered a question | Plz Khalsa Our ardas is always with the khalsa brothers and sisters. May your brother friends get the bail, may waheguru keep him/her safe. May all be well with you and your close ones. Nanak Naam Chardi Kalaa, Teree Bhanee Sarbat Da Bhalaa WJKK, WJKF |
2013-07-21 22:29:44 -0500 | answered a question | Books On Guru Gobind Singh Ji Maharaj Thank you Bhai Gavinpal Singh Ji. Yes, the auto biography of our Dasam Pita is the source on his history and bravery. I will definitely look up the links you provided above. But I guess I was trying to take a step further to see what different writers of different times wrote (both good and bad) on Guru Gobind Singh Ji and see if I could maybe dissect some useful information out of it. A book is only "mass" until someone picks it up to read it and gain some knowledge from it. The quantity and quality of the knowledge that one retains also varies on a diverse set of factors. But if one takes the time and effort to read it, he/she leaves with some deep thoughts or lessons that can come in handy at another time and place in his/her life. I guess, I am trying to make an attempt to pick such pieces up on my Kalgi valee pathsha so I can learn something, anything, from his life/legacy. With his kirpa, I hope that I get to learn all about him. Soon... WJKK, WJKF Your brother. |
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2013-07-18 23:03:28 -0500 | asked a question | Books On Guru Gobind Singh Ji Maharaj WJKK, WFKF, Can any one please recommend good books to read (Punjabi or English) on the life, personality, stories, events, biography of Sri Guru Gobind Singh Ji Maharaj? The books can be from India or abroad. My objective is to learn more about the life and events that took place with Guru Gobind Singh Ji. I want lean about his life. How did he "live by example" so to speak? I love everything about him and want to know more. Please help this low being be close to his father! Gur Ang Sang, Mr. Singh |
2013-07-18 22:51:33 -0500 | answered a question | How to face problems Dear Sister, WJKK, WJKF, To some extent, I can relate to your situation and feelings. I think its safe to say that at some point in life, most of us get into a situation or a point in life where we feel like we are "stuck" and can't get out of it! People close to us don't really understand what our "problem" is because they are in their own "happy world" and they don't want to leave it to come into our "sad little world". But that's okay because the "problem" is yours and only you can resolve it. Don't expect others to fix your issues. You need to take "control of your issues. Its not going to be easy. As a matter of fact, its going to be the hardest thing you will have to do but once you take the first few steps, you will realize that you can do it. Its like riding a bicycle. No one, and I mean no one, gets on their bicycle for the first time and starts riding it without falling from it! Right? It takes practice! Just like it takes practice to learn to do paath. I remember when I first stared to do Jaap Sahib. It would take me 1 hours (seriously) to do the Jaap Sahib. The first few times were tough and I would be exhausted by the end. My eyes would feel sleepy and my head would still be reading the paath (Namsten Akaalee, Namstan Diyalee, Namstan Akarnan, Namstan Abhranan.....!!!). But after some practice, I got good at it and now I can do Jaap Sahib in 15 mins! Life is like that too. It take a lot of effort to bring the positive thinking and positive mindset into your life. Doing your nitname helps a lot. It helped me a lot when I was feeling very negative all the time. I would blame a lot of "bad stuff" in my life on life or my parents or others not realizing that by doing so, I was making myself miserable. One thing that helped me a lot was not reading gurbani but understanding it. When I was in tough situations, I turned to waheguru. I turned to my Guru. I stared to read the daily hukamnamaa and the english/punjabi translations on sikhnet.com and it completely changed my way of thinking (this is true, I am not making this up. I don't get any kickbacks from sikhnet.com!). Reading the translations made me "understand" what my guru was trying to communicate to me. It was very simple and beautiful. The Guru would tell me: Tu Kahe Dolee Paraniyaa, Khud Rakhega Sirjanhaar (Oh mortal being, why you worry so much about your present and future? The Guru will take care of it all) I seriously doubt anything else in the world could have changed my thinking and attitude towards life so dramatically. Maybe that is the reason why I feel in ... (more) |
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2013-07-15 22:46:32 -0500 | answered a question | feeling your swass going Dear Brother, It is the kirpa of the true guru that you have developed so much love and devotion for the guru that you feel like every breath taken without the naam is a breath wasted. It is the kirpa of the true guru that you are so close to waheguru and have such a strong feeling of separation that when you are not thinking about the lord, you feel down. To certain extent, I can relate to this feeling. However, I am not as blessed as you clearly are as I have only felt such strong emotions for the guru for a very short periods of time. These moments have been filled with a feeling of just pure energy and the yearning to met the guru, to be able to see the radiant face of Sri Guru Gobind Singh Je Maharaj. But my feelings have been very short lived. Its much easier to tell others to recite the name of god if they are not doing so. But it is much more difficult to tell someone in your situation what to do if they feel like they should be reciting naam with every breath! Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji maharaj tells us to remember god 24/7. So, in a way, you are on the right track! However, sometimes we tend to get carried away with our emotions (good or bad ones) and endup in a state of depression because "we are not doing enough for the lord". We want to be the best Sikhs or students we can possibly be and in the pursuit of such perfection, we loose interest in everything else. In a way, this state of mind is also moh (attachment). Note that I am not saying that being close to god is an attachment. I am saying that getting too emotional about your feelings towards the guru is an attachment. To me, the guru does not want his Sikh to be attached to anything. Not to money, kids, wife, parents, siblings, status, job, your own body, mind and even soul. Because guru teaches us that "Ma naahi prubh sub kich teraa" (I am nothing, and everything I have is with your grace). So I am sure that the guru does not want us to attach our self with any type of emotions that will take us away from our Chardi Kalaa attitude towards life. We are suppose to be Khalsa, the army of god. We are the soldiers of god so we can't get too caught up in emotions that may prevent us from doing our duty which is to serve and protect the creation of our creator. So, keep that chardi kalaa attitude towards life and know that guru is always with you and within you. And if you are serving the creation of the creator, then your breath is not going to waste but its giving life to everything that surrounds you. If what I wrote above made even a fraction ... (more) |
2013-07-15 00:28:31 -0500 | answered a question | question about tona totka and about black magic Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ke Fathee Panji, First of all, the correct way of saying the fathee is Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fathee. I don't mean to correct you or show that I know more about Sikhi than you or anyone else on sikhnet, I probably don't. I am a simple guy who believes in the simple principles of Sikhi and I just wanted to share my little knowledge with you... I am not a expert on the subject matter of tona, totka or black magic that you question here. Also, I don't know anything about the so called "simran of baba vadbhag singh ji". But I do know this. If you call yourself a true Sikh of the Guru and you have full faith and trust in Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji Maharaj, then you will not worry about any tona, totka or black majic! Our Guru sahib (all 11 of them) teach us to not get caught up in these false believes or black magic because its all created to put fear in your mind and a Sikh of the Guru is not afraid of anything because he/she knows that the Guru is with him/her 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year! I said this on another one of my post before: Ang Sang Waheguru (The Guru is with his devotees all the time) If you "feel" that bad things are happening to you or your family, the best thing you can do is do seva at your local gurudwara or any other community center and do path. It can by any type of seve and any type of path. You can do langar seva, choor sahib seva, cleaning seva, whatever seva you think you should do. Similarly, you can do Japji sahib, jaap sahib, anand sahib or you can even just recite waheguru everday for 5-10 minutes. If you do these things on a regular basis, I am sure the Guru will take care of you. The Gurbai says: Charan saran gur teek panda jayee chal, satguru koot panda agee hoyee leet ha If you take one setup towards the guru, the guru will take thousand of steps towards you to help you. Have faith in Waheguru. Have faith in the wisdom of Guru Nanak Dev Ji Maharaj. Don't worry about what a baba ji says to recite to free you from your troubles. The true baba (Guru Nanak) is within you! Realize him within you, feel his preseason within you, hear him within you and you will find all your answers are within you. Bad times don't stay forever, and good times don't either. So realize that its all part of the game of life and work towards a better future instead of trying to figure out "who did black magic on you and your family and how you can remove the curse". Its all bullshit designed to ... (more) |
2013-07-13 00:33:35 -0500 | answered a question | Satsriakal Dear Inder Kaur Ji, My prayers are with you and your brother. May waheguru keep him and yourself in chardi kalaa during this difficult time. Sometimes, things happen and we have no control over them. In such situations, all you can do is pary to waheguru and ask god to give you the strength to deal with the difficult time. Understand that "bad times" don't stick around for ever and when things get bad, they also soon get better. Guru Granth Sahib Ji Maharaj teaches us to be patient, to do ardaas, and to have faith in waheguru. Know that everything is happening by waheguru's hukam and we have to be strong and accept the hukam and not loose our faith. Remember: Aang Sang, Waheguru (God is always with his devotees) So be a strong daughter of Guru Gobind Singh Ji, and keep your brother in your prayers. Rest, the guru will take care of. WJKK, WJKF, |
2013-07-11 23:56:12 -0500 | answered a question | waheguruji plz help m for my course selection WJKK, WJKF, It is nice to see you start your question with a fathee and asking Waheguru ji for help in selecting your choice of studies. Disclosure: I want to tell this to you from the start that I am not from New Zealand thus as far as what course work is "in demand" so to speak, I may not be able to guide you with such information. Having said that, I can tell you about my personal experience which may help you with your situation. Like you, when I completed my schooling, I was also left with the question of what to do with my life in terms of collage and then work. I was young, I wanted to do something with which I can make a lot of money and not have to work too hard at the same time! But the problem was that I had no idea what degree would give that to me! Some of my friends had a very clear sense of direction in terms of their professional life. They knew before they ever completed their 9th grade what degree they wanted to do, what school they wanted to go to and what job they were going to do after they complete their collage. I on the other hand, was completely clueless. My brother kept pushing me to go into "IT" since he had done it and was in a good job. Given that it was tried and tested by my brother, it seemed like a good major to put in my "short list" of majors. But I was not too crazy about IT. The though of sitting in a office for 8+ hours in front of a computer trying to make a "program" work just did not appeal to me. I thought of my self as a outdoors type of person. I did not wanted to be stuck in an office! So I decided to do Criminal Justice. Long story short, after one semester of criminal justice classes, I realized that it was not for me either. Then, I panicked. I was afraid that after going through so much thought process, I was back to square one! I had no idea what I wanted to do. Like you, I remember asking waheguru ji for direction. Interesting fact is that, the guru will always give you the direction even if its not the shortest way to get to where you want to be. So in my confused mind, I decided to follow the advice of my brother and do IT as my major. While taking classes in IT, I also got the opportunity to work for an IT company. Soon, my worst fear came true, again! I hated working in IT! I told myself everyday that I would not be able to do this for the rest of my life. Three very long months later, I quit my IT job and I was back in school and back to the same question. What in ... (more) |
2013-07-10 22:56:39 -0500 | answered a question | Keeping a distance Dear Sister, Your profile name is Kaurk2012 so I am going to assume that you are a girl and my little sister. Also, you did not provide a whole lot of background about your mom and your two family friends so that will make it a bit hard for me to give you advice, but I will try my best. I don't know if your mom and the two family friends have any past history together (most women who argue with each other are usually good friends first and later for one reason or the other become not so good friend!). I also don't know your age and the age of our family friends but if they argue with your mom, then I am going to assume that they are either as old as your mom or younger then her but older than you. I also don't know how old you are but I am again going to assume that you are above 16 years of age but less than 21. Okay, with all that assumption, I am now going to give you my advice that may or may not be the best advice you can get here! If your family friends and your mom argue and you want to hang out with them both then here is what your options are: You can hang out with them separately. I know, this is not the "answer" you were looking for but in life its easier to change yourself or your behaviors then to change others! Think of the last time your mom told you to do something that she does not like? Did you change right away? Hell no! You probably still do that thing that she told you not to do. Its not rocket science, it's human nature. We human beings don't like to be told what to do? We want to make our own decisions even if they are the wrong ones. So, don't try to "solve their issues with each other" because you won't be able to. Try to solve your issue of spending time with them both by hanging out with them separately. I am not a big fan of avoiding people because you never know what you may learn from one person that could have taken you years to learn the hard way! So, I would first try the above before giving up on them and avoiding the people who are so near and dear to your heart. Adults, especially Punjabi families are very aggressive. We will argue and debate every little unimportant thing just to make our point. We care less about listening and more about telling others what we think (case in point, what I am doing right now!). So, don't let their issues become your issue. Our Guru (Guru Granth Sahib Ji Maharaj) does not want us to avoid good people. In fact, Guru ji wants us to always surround ourselves with good company ... (more) |
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2013-07-09 22:19:46 -0500 | answered a question | How do I have Positive thinking? I am going to give you advice that is based on my personal experience. First thing you need to know is that most people masturbate! Boys masturbate, girls masturbate, men, women, even some old people masturbate! When I was your age, I also used to masturbate 2-3 times a day! The reason why I am telling you this is because I want you to realize that what you are feeling is perfectly normal. You are 16 years old, your body is going through a lot of changes, you are coming into manhood and you have these sexual feelings towards the opposite sex. Its all normal and every teen age boy and even girls go through this. Don't hate yourself for this. Realize that if you are having these feelings then most of your friends are having them as well. The problem is that no one will tell this to you like I just did because people think that its a bad think to discuss this "openly". The reason why I am being so open with you on this issue is that when I was going through my teenage years, I thought that I was doing paap by having these feelings and that I was the worst person in the whole world. I stared to look at my self very negatively and that effected my personality and my ability to be friendly with people. You don't need to beat yourself over this. You don't need to feel down or angry or lonely. Here is what I suggest you do:
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