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2019-02-18 10:07:23 -0600 answered a question What to do.. Pls help

This is between you and Guru Ji. Guru Ji knows your heart and also knows why you made an insincere oath. You will face this issue sooner or later. Sweeping it under the rug, avoiding it, lying about, etc. only postpones the inevitable. Tell the truth. It will come out anyway. If you cannot go into your marriage with honesty then understand that trust will be undermined. Better to simply be honest.

2019-02-12 11:44:05 -0600 answered a question Why do nihangs do opposite parkarnama

Some Nihang Singhs who go anti-clockwise have said that the human heart is on the left and that they want to keep the heart close to Guru Jee when they do Parkarma.

2019-02-12 11:32:28 -0600 answered a question Aarti aarta

The Āratī-Āratā contains the Gurbāṇī of Guru Nanak Dev, the Bhagats including Kabir, Namdev, Sain, and Dhanna, as well as the Gurbāṇī of Guru Gobind Singh. In modern times it has been edited to exclude a lot of the original verses added by Guru Gobind Singh. The Āratī-Āratā starts with Sri Dasam Granth Sahib bāṇī, then Guru Nanak’s Āratī, the Āratā of the Bhagats, then Adi Sri Guru Granth Sahib bāṇī, and ends with Sri Dasam Granth Sahib bāṇī. Normally it is sung in Kirtan after the Rahirās Sāhib. Perhaps these links will help:

Āratī-Āratā full text

Āratī-Āratā ~ Author's Viewpoint

2019-02-12 11:27:37 -0600 commented answer Need help...in a very tough situation

"...cannot bear this insult?" When so many have borne so much to carry our Guru through all the tests and trials that time gave them, they cannot bear this? What they are doing is called "emotional manipulation." Do not allow yourself to be manipulated in this way.

2019-02-12 11:24:36 -0600 answered a question amritdhari women and Kanga

The five kakkars are clear. Kanga is one and kesh is one, so kanga is not in question.

The decision whether to wear chunni alone, turban or turban and chunni is up to the individual. Tying a turban is a very personal experience. It shows commitment and it gives you tremendous radiance and strength.

From a scientific point of view, remember, you don't "wear" a turban or "tie" a turban... you wrap a turban. The skull is made up of tiny bones that are constantly moving, even if only by a fraction of a millimeter, and the degree to which they move impacts your level of calmness or anxiety.

Covering the head stabilizes the cerebral matter and the 26 parts of the brain, which are interlocked with the neurological system and electromagnetic field. The benefit of wearing a turban is that when you wrap the 5 to 7 layers of cloth, you cover the temples, which prevents any variance or movement in the different parts of the skull. A turban automatically gives you a cranial self-adjustment. You can pay for a cranial adjustment, or you can tie a turban for free!

2019-02-12 11:17:14 -0600 answered a question In dire need of guidance.. please help Sangatji

Please, do not remain silent. If this has happened once, the chance that it will happen again is too high. As Strong Kaur said, safety is the first priority here. These things must be confronted and not hidden because of shaming within the community. Your sister needs to feel safe, protected and supported. That is the number one priority.

2019-02-11 10:48:58 -0600 commented answer My mom is having health problems

The path is simple... relax. Do not be anxious. Give your anxiety to Guru Ji. Lay it at his feet. Do Simran. Give comfort to your mother and let things unfold according to hukam.

2019-02-06 12:09:22 -0600 answered a question My mom is having health problems

Waheguru Ji ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji ki Fateh!

Thinking about the ill health and loss of your mother must make you very anxious and worried. Have you discussed your concerns with her? The prayer of the beloved is powerful. What you can do is keep praying for your mother and also express your concern to her and talk about it. If she has poor health habits, the expression of your concern about losing her, along with your encouragement may make all the difference in establishing healthier habits.

Remember, the stars impel but they do not compel. Guru Ji's touch can change fate into destiny in a moment.

2019-02-06 10:20:11 -0600 answered a question Mittee Musalmaan Ki

These tuks are about ego and its nature and manifestation.

"The clay of the Muslim’s grave becomes clay for the potter’s wheel. Pots and bricks are fashioned from it, and it cries out as it burns. The poor clay burns, burns and weeps, as the fiery coals fall upon it. O Nanak, the Creator created the creation; the Creator Lord alone knows."

A grave is supposed to be a sacred spot, but in this tuk the grave is dug up and the clay fashioned on a potters wheel. All things go to God and are reused as raw material to create new things. People perform actions in ego, but these actions are for nought.

2019-02-04 10:39:57 -0600 answered a question Does age matter?

It is not the physical age that matters but rather the matching of the souls. If caliber and values align then all is well.

2019-01-28 10:32:59 -0600 answered a question I lose my Sikhi Sprite ?

Whoa, you lost your Sikhi spirit because of radio virsa? Well, it can't have been that deep within you if a radio show destroyed it. Turn off the radio. Work on your own spiritual practice. Using a radio show as an excuse? Let your Sikhi be the very core of your being. Deal with your own doubts. If you feel you have lost your spirit then honestly examine your own thoughts. What do you spend time thinking about? Your thoughts determine how you live. If you want to master your own mind, you can do it. Who do you want to be? How do you want to live?

2019-01-28 10:22:36 -0600 answered a question Is Creation and Creator is different?

"Air is the Guru... Water the Father... And Earth the great Mother of all. "

This earthly realm is where we live with Mother Maya - Yes, it is God manifested: sirgun, and there are many sensory delights to be experienced here. It is maya. But God exists as nirgun (formless) as well. There are many planes of existence, both solid and etheric and God exists beyond all that. God is the luminous secret within all visible things, the unseen within the seen, that compassionate awareness that exists within all... beyond words.

2019-01-24 13:09:24 -0600 answered a question I don't know whats wrong

I have gratefully read your post. Thank you for posting here on this forum. I understand what you are experiencing. You explained it very well.

Do you have any daily spiritual practice that makes you feel relaxed, safe and connected? The answer isn't getting away from your parents and doing drugs to dull the anguish you feel. The answer is already inside you. With Guruji's kirpaa you can fix yourself. You must get out of your head. Your thoughts and emotions are running in loops over and over and freaking you out. The only way out is in. Do you have a favorite shabad or bani that relaxes you? You must begin to practice long, deep breathing. First slow your breath to four breaths per minute. One inhale and one exhale over 15 seconds. It becomes easy if you are sitting still with a straight spine or even lying down. Listen to a Gurbani sound current that you love. After you have mastered four breaths per minute you can begin to do two breaths per minute. Inhale for 15 seconds, then exhale for 15 seconds. Close your eyes and open yourself and listen deeply. Let your mind go into the sound current. Thoughts will come. Let them come and let them go, like clouds passing by, but don't get caught by any thought. Just recognize it then let it go. Start doing this practice for seven minutes in the morning and again in the evening. Just do it every day, no matter what. After you are comfortable with it, lengthen the time to 11 minutes in the morning and 11 minutes in the evening. You can extend up to 31 minutes if you wish. After you have done this for a week, please come back to the forum and let us know how you are doing.

2019-01-24 12:52:51 -0600 answered a question Want to be no more amritdhari what to do pls suggest

This is only between you and Guruji. No one else. If you feel you cannot hold your discipline, there is no blame. There is nothing you need do. Guruji knows your inner mind. Between a Sikh and his Guru is just a matter of time.

2019-01-11 11:19:38 -0600 answered a question Being a pessimist

Each person has their own unique karmic entanglements in this incarnation. People are not "good" or "bad." They are more entangled or less entangled depending on the weight of their karmas. As karmas are paid, the less entangled we become. The less entangled we become, the more we are able to remember Naam and the calmer, more centered and more positive we become.

The only way I have found to stay positive, relaxed and clear is daily amrit vela sadhana. What works for you?

2019-01-10 10:40:02 -0600 answered a question Am i prwgnate

Wait. It has not yet been one week since you missed a period. Home pregnancy tests are not accurate until more than one week after you miss a menstrual period. "Feeling pregnant" does not mean you are pregnant. Your period is only five days late. Lots of different factors can cause that.

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2018-12-20 10:25:57 -0600 answered a question Is our death preordained? Or can we change the Time of our death ?

Yes, our time of death is preordained and, no, we cannot change it. It is not "clock time," it is the number of breaths allotted. That is fixed and cannot be changed.

2018-12-20 10:23:18 -0600 answered a question Constant conflict in family

You say, "I cannot keep my family together and maintain the peace and neither can I maintain a strong connection with God." Well, it is true that you cannot keep your family together, but it is not your job to do that. This fighting is not your fault; it is simply the karmas playing out in the family matrix. No, you cannot maintain the peace either. But again, your job is only to maintain peace within yourself. When you do that, then you radiate peace. But you are not responsible for the peace of others.

Lastly, you CAN maintain a strong connection with God and that is where your focus needs to be now. You are letting the conflict energy in the family throw you off balance and stir you up emotionally.

Do your sadhana. Calm your mind. Do lots of Simran. Let the drama play out and become the blessing in the midst of it all.

2018-12-20 10:10:16 -0600 answered a question What does this hukamnama mean?

This hukam speaks of true love and says that love based in maya is not True Love. Only in love of the One and making that connection through Shabd does one experience True Love. That state is Living in Love, not falling in love. Living in Love, one sees God in all, everywhere, in everything. That said, I would not presume to come between anyone and Guru Ji's words, you and your friend must take from this hukamnama what you will.

"The Naam dwells within her mind..." Not weddings.

2018-12-18 10:18:39 -0600 commented answer Is this the end?

I understand how you feel, but 'Gariste ashram mahan ashram'.. there is no higher life than that of a householder who remembers the One. The entire world is supported on the backs of householders. Celibate life incarnation comes before married life incarnation.

2018-12-17 10:19:48 -0600 answered a question What happens to Laava, if your partner passes away

Yes, your souls are bound together beyond a single lifetime. Time between lifetimes does not run by any clock.

2018-12-17 10:17:45 -0600 commented answer Is this the end?

Please don't waste your energy by feeling guilty. Each day is fresh and new with no mistakes in it. Begin fresh each day.

2018-12-14 09:45:09 -0600 answered a question Is this the end?

Wow, what a story... a story of faith, survival and devotion. Bhenji, you are a very blessed woman. You have gone through the karmas and never avoided payment but rather kept hold of Guruji's hem and went through the fire.

The strongest steel goes through the hottest fire. You have been prepared and cleansed in Guruji's classroom where you have taken the hard lessons with grace under fire. Now it is time for a new chapter in your life. Anchor your day in your Amrit Vela sadhana and stay close to your breath. Waheguru is with you in every moment.

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2018-12-12 10:18:01 -0600 answered a question I am an amritdhari singh and getting married to non amritdhari sikh girl

This must all be discussed openly with your fiancee before marriage. You must jointly decide what you wish to do. If it is not mutual then disaster for the marriage looms on the horizon.

2018-12-11 15:10:42 -0600 commented answer Lost faith , I need sone guidance

What a blessing to be able to get this sorted with your wife before she left her physical body! _/\_

2018-12-11 15:08:54 -0600 commented answer What is "Sopurkh" shabad paath for?

If you wish, but it is better to visualize him in your mind, not as he appears in any photo, but in his soul nature - radiant, happy, healthy, surrounded by golden light. Visualize him at his highest potential. This is more powerful than any photo.

2018-12-11 15:07:19 -0600 commented answer When we make "sukhnaa", do we fullfill it after it's granted? How's it usually done, like if anyone else has done it? Bhai Makhan Shah Lubana did during Guru Tegh Bahadur Ji time.

Read my reply again _/\_ I assumed you had made it. If you simply standby and remain alert, Guruji will show you how to complete this.

2018-12-10 12:21:08 -0600 commented answer Is getting up at 12:00 AM midnight and doing "Ishnaan" and starting nitnem around 12:30AM, is that Amrit vela too? or it is 3AM-6:AM (last pehr of the night)?

BTW, why did you put the word Ishnaan in quotes?

2018-12-10 12:12:22 -0600 answered a question Is 30 mins of Simran enough to grow spiritually- daily in the mornings without Nitnem?

No one can tell another what is sufficient for that person. Your mom feels responsible for you and is focused on your academic performance. Your daily sadhana is always first priority, but you still have to perform in the "material world" and be excellent. Both are required. If that means going to bed earlier and getting up before your mom, then that is what you do. Don't lie to her. Be loving, firm, smiling and kind. Speak gently with sweetness and then follow through. Don't try to manipulate your home situation or argue with your mom. The trick of life is to find out who you really are, not who others want you to be, and then purposefully be that with joy.

2018-12-10 12:01:41 -0600 answered a question What exactly would be considered "Gur Seva" serving the Guru? How can we do do Guru ki seva nowadays?

Let everything you do be Guru ki Seva.

After all, since you belong to Guruji, it's all being done in His service. Even the simplest things like brushing your teeth can be experienced as seva to your teeth so that you shine brighter. Living in this way, when people see you, they see Guruji through your radiance and presence.

It's about your state of mind. If you are not serving your own ego then who are you serving? As Guruji's banda, you are serving God in all, no exceptions.

2018-12-10 11:54:11 -0600 answered a question Question about the nature of language and the system of things as we know it.

The way you find peace in the midst of this is to tame your own mind. You already see, but there cannot be peace if your mind becomes absorbed in these things or preoccupied with them.

Peace comes from Naam Simran in the midst of it all. Remembering that it is all a game and keeping your mind centered on enjoying the "greatest show on earth" and playing your own part joyfully will keep you in Chardi Kala.

2018-12-10 10:54:24 -0600 answered a question Is getting up at 12:00 AM midnight and doing "Ishnaan" and starting nitnem around 12:30AM, is that Amrit vela too? or it is 3AM-6:AM (last pehr of the night)?

Amrit Vela begins when the sun is 30 degrees below the horizon and ends when the sun rises, so last pehr of the night is correct. Rise in the Amrit Vela doesn't mean stay up all night. It means rise early, before the sun. This time of day is the clearest, sweetest, most powerful time of the day to do your daily sadhana.

2018-12-10 10:33:11 -0600 answered a question Jo Jan Loojhehi Manai Sio Sae Soorae Paradhhaanaa ||

Guru jI means that this work of conquering your own mind and not letting it lead you, but rather serve you, is the ultimate battle of merit in this lifetime.

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