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2019-04-16 09:53:30 -0500 commented answer How Do I deal with my forced arrange marriage ? HELP

You say, "I will read Gurbani everyday so that god forgives my mistake..." So by your own words you realize that being with your "girlfriend" is a mistake.

2019-04-16 09:49:56 -0500 commented answer Is it wrong to stand up for myself already once if I have been patience for the longest time? What does Gurbani say about this?

Speak from empathy, not from your emotions.

2019-04-16 09:48:35 -0500 commented answer Is it wrong to stand up for myself already once if I have been patience for the longest time? What does Gurbani say about this?

People can only hear when their hearts are open and their mind is stilled. If you sense that the time is right, you can bring it up with her, but only in the context of how it makes you feel. Remember, timing is everything. The other person must be relaxed and open in order for them to hear you.

2019-04-12 11:33:13 -0500 commented answer Does Sikhism promote dehdhari sant

Guru Ji sends us many teachers as we walk the road of our life, but behind them all there is only one teacher.

2019-04-12 11:31:58 -0500 commented answer How Do I deal with my forced arrange marriage ? HELP

Harry Ji - This is a fork in the road. You must choose. The choice you make will affect seven generations.

2019-04-10 12:43:20 -0500 commented answer How do u fully give up the opinions of others

The secret lies in paying attention to your breath. When you forget, no problem. You will then have the joy of remembering again. It's a daily process.

2019-04-10 12:37:37 -0500 answered a question please help

Hello gurderp08, Waheguru Ji. Thanks for being so clear and direct in your question. The reality is that you are as God made you. "Society and all" be damned. For too long, people have lived in fear of "But what will people say?" Now is the time to be free from all other's opinions. The man who is to be your partner on your life journey will come to you when you work on yourself to become, calm, excellent, clear and compassionate.

There is no problem at all except in your own mind. Let it go.

2019-04-10 12:31:20 -0500 answered a question How Do I deal with my forced arrange marriage ? HELP

Dear Harry, Waheguru Ji. "Madly in love" is a fantasy. It is not reality. It is hot-blooded emotion. It is an imaginary two-person bubble.

All bubbles eventually POP!

You are judging this innocent girl to whom you have been married before God and Guru. You are caught in your preconceptions of who she is.

You are married. Relax and be so. Commitment is one of the steps to real happiness. You do not know who your wife really is yet. You don't even know who YOU really are yet. Take time to find out. You are not who you think you are.

Please get out of your fantasy life and live the life you have been given. You will discover that with kindness, compassion, communication and intimacy your wife is not who you think she is. Herein lies the real marriage.

2019-04-10 12:23:35 -0500 answered a question Is being nice a wrong thing?

Dear T Kaur Ji, Waheguru Ji. People want you to be just like them. They do this because it makes them feel better about themselves. But you must be YOU. You don't have to please anyone. You don't have to be who they think you are, and you don't have to be who you think you are. You must be YOU.

When you are firm in your own caliber then you attract others of like mind, and those who vibrate at lower frequencies naturally fall away.

Don't worry about what to do, e.g., give money to others. Just focus on letting go of your reactions, expectations and attachments and meditate on your breath. As you become more chill within yourself you will stop reacting to others words and actions. As you stop reacting your pain and hurt will fall away. You don't have to decide what seva to do. Guruji will let you know what to do and when it is time to do it.

2019-04-10 12:12:14 -0500 answered a question Try to conceive baby

Dear Baljeet Kaur Ji. Waheguru Ji. Children come through the prayer of the mother because the soul destined to be with you is attracted by your prayer whether or not the child is borne by your body. It is a soul to soul communication between the soul of the mother and the soul waiting to incarnate. There is no better prayer than daily Sukhmani Sahib, read aloud. Follow your Sukhmani Sahib da Paath by singing the shabd: Poota Mata Ki Asees

2019-04-10 12:00:47 -0500 answered a question Is it wrong to stand up for myself already once if I have been patience for the longest time? What does Gurbani say about this?

Dear Preet Ji - Waheguru Ji. This is simply a karmic interlock between you and her. You can break this interlock. The way to break it is to not only patience, but simply love. First you have to hear and feel her words and remain silent as you examine your own physical and emotional reaction to them. Feel it in your body and mind. Then start to defuse the reaction within you. Breathe deeply. Inhale deeply and say "Wahe" silently to yourself. Exhale and silently say "Guru" as you open your heart and send out loving energy from your heart. Consciously let go of your reactive energy. Don't say anything. Let yourself relax into the moment and relate to her soul. Let your soul connect to her soul beyond any words she is saying. Silently send her love and forgiveness. Don't speak until you feel deeply calm and centered in your heart. Words spoken from the mind fly by. Words spoken from the heart penetrate the awareness of the other person. Therein lies true communication and the end of this karmic interlock. You are the only one who can break it.

Never be afraid of Waheguru. Waheguru already knows everything and He is the most loving, forgiving and understanding of all.

ਸਲੋਕ ਮਃ 4 ॥ ਜਿਸੁ ਅੰਦਰਿ ਤਾਤਿ ਪਰਾਈ ਹੋਵੈ ਤਿਸ ਕਾ ਕਦੇ ਨ ਹੋਵੀ ਭਲਾ ॥ ਓਸ ਦੈ ਆਖਿਐ ਕੋਈ ਨ ਲਗੈ ਨਿਤ ਓਜਾੜੀ ਪੂਕਾਰੇ ਖਲਾ ॥ (ANG 308)

SLOK, FOURTH HOUSE: One whose heart is filled with jealousy of others, never comes to any good. No one pays any attention to what she says; she is just a fool, crying out endlessly in the wilderness.

ਗਉੜੀ ਮਹਲਾ 5 ॥ ਏਕਸੁ ਸਿਉ ਜਾ ਕਾ ਮਨੁ ਰਾਤਾ ॥ ਵਿਸਰੀ ਤਿਸੈ ਪਰਾਈ ਤਾਤਾ ॥1॥ ਬਿਨੁ ਗੋਬਿੰਦ ਨ ਦੀਸੈ ਕੋਈ ॥ ਕਰਨ ਕਰਾਵਨ ਕਰਤਾ ਸੋਈ ॥1॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥

Gauree, Fifth Mehl: Those whose minds are imbued with the One Lord, forget to feel jealous of others. ||1|| They see none other than the Lord of the Universe. The Creator is the Doer of everything, the Cause of all causes. ||1||Pause||

2019-04-10 10:26:42 -0500 commented answer can god help me...? Does he even exist :(

Sat Bachan Ji _/\_

2019-04-10 10:18:32 -0500 answered a question Does Sikhism promote dehdhari sant

Dear Lowly Being - For each person, the path is different. Each must walk it in his or her own way. Do not judge. Tune in to your own heart, understand and walk your OWN path with love in your heart.

2019-04-10 10:13:16 -0500 answered a question Going on ancestors place or jathere

Waheguru Ji ka KHalsa Waheguru Ji ki Fateh!

Singh Ji - Of course you should go with your family. Never set yourself apart. Be in Sangat with your family and others. Share the piyaar together. Go with them and be happy.

2019-03-28 05:38:35 -0500 answered a question This is more a request for inspiration.....about the help of the mind

Intuition happens in the moment. It happens not by thinking but by using your subtle awareness and being sensitive and responsive in each moment.

2019-03-28 05:33:54 -0500 answered a question How do u fully give up the opinions of others

The Gurbani quote is about Amrit Vela. It says when you do Amrit Vela all your karmas are covered. Now on to your question. The problem is not “others.” The problem is that you react to others. The more you meditate and do paath, the more solid you become in your own identity. As that happens you fill with love and blessings. When somebody says something nasty, remain silent. Inside, silently say “Waheguru! May this person be blessed.” Gradually train your own mind to not react.

2019-03-28 05:22:47 -0500 answered a question praying for my family

You certainly can pray for him. Close your eyes and visualize him surrounded by a beautiful golden light. See him perfectly healthy, relaxed and happy. Breathe deeply and chant Waheguru silently with each breath. See him becoming brighter and brighter. Open your heart and let each breath project love to him. Let each breath blossom with love, protection and happiness. See him smiling and happy. Repeat twice a day.

2019-03-18 10:47:04 -0500 answered a question Didn't want to continue as amritdhari ? Did god punish me for this?

Slow down.... one thing at a time. There is no sin. Don't confuse kirpan with amrit. If kirpan is truly the issue, you can wear small kirpan, or even one on your kanga. If your amrit vows overall are the issue, then you have a much deeper decision to make: "Am I ready to walk this path and use these tools each day with devotion and commitment?"

2019-03-13 16:02:42 -0500 answered a question I am considering a new person in my life... He is a Sikh...

Take it slow, cat. Yes, there are big cultural differences between India and the USA, but people's hearts are the same all over the world. Go slowly and lovingly. Your religion does not matter. Your love, courage, compassion and sensitivity do matter. Be alert and enjoy the new experiences God is bringing to you.

2019-03-13 15:57:48 -0500 answered a question jehovah's witness

Welcome cat! Please do not judge Sikhs by the words of any individual. Sikhi is not a religion. Anyone of any faith can practice Sikhi. Our temples have doors open to all four winds and all people from all corners of the earth. It is a lifestyle based on three simple things: Rise before the sun, meditate and connect yourself to the One in everyone; work honestly, by the sweat of your brow and don't live off others; and lastly, share what has been given to you with any who are in need. Sikhi is a path for all. You can begin from any level of understanding and grow from there.

2019-03-12 16:37:22 -0500 commented answer Do an amritdhari girl is required to cover her head always?

Standing out does not mean being prideful. It means accepting your destiny and honoring your relationship with Guruji in this incarnation. Be who you are and that is that. BTW, I love your handle. Courageous! Getting motivated yet? @;-)##

2019-03-12 14:52:48 -0500 answered a question I'm Lose My Faith

Your faith is not faith in Sikhi. Sikhi is a way of living that works for anyone. Your faith is faith in your Guru. No one can touch that. It is between you and Guruji, no one else. Don't do paath and kirtan because of anyone else. How does it make YOU feel? The things that make you feel close to Guruji are always with you. Forget about what everyone else says. Either you belong to Guruji or you do not. If you do, you know it in your soul. Follow that. When doubt comes to you, greet it and acknowledge it. Then tell it to go sit in a corner and you turn your attention to other matters. Doubt will always come knocking but you do not need to entertain it. Choose not to.

2019-03-12 14:44:21 -0500 commented answer New Calendar
2019-03-12 14:43:36 -0500 commented answer New Calendar

And now the full calendar has been made available at:

2019-03-11 11:38:51 -0500 commented answer Health problems

I emailed you.

2019-03-08 10:32:51 -0500 answered a question Do an amritdhari girl is required to cover her head always?

There are really two issues here. The first is your relationship to your own bana. When you are in duality about your bana it is a reflection of a deeper duality in your own mind. It is really about your relationship with yourself. When we wrap turban before going in public, we enjoy a special kind of protection. That relationship deepens until our bana is a part of us. It is perfect to stand out. That is who we are. The second issue is your relationship to other people. It's basically allowing other people's judgements and opinions to affect you in a way that you no longer see yourself and your own identity clearly. If someone makes fun of your bana, it is your blessing. Time to smile, bless, serve and keep going. People will say and do whatever they are going to say and do. It is not about you. Your identity lies in your relationship to Guruji. The stronger and deeper that is, so deep will be your strength, faith and grace.

2019-03-08 10:24:19 -0500 answered a question Health problems

I Rang you and the number "cannot be reached"

2019-03-05 10:14:06 -0500 commented answer New Calendar

Here's an interim Gurpurb calendar to use until the full one is published.

2019-03-05 10:12:11 -0500 commented answer New Calendar

Thank you for the reminder. The SGPC says "Calendar of the year 2019-20 will be available online after mid of March." When they publish it, we'll put it up on SikhNet as well.

2019-03-04 15:11:23 -0500 answered a question Do I need to take Amrit again

You are OK. This goes to intent. Your intent was pure. No need to renew your Amrit vows. Utter 'Waheguru' and let it go from your mind.

2019-03-04 15:09:30 -0500 answered a question New Calendar

Working on it now. Thanks for your patience.

2019-02-20 10:50:31 -0500 commented answer My mom is having health problems

The path is simple... relax. Do not be anxious. Give your anxiety to Guru Ji. Lay it at his feet. Do Simran. Give comfort to your mother and let things unfold according to hukam. If you wish to do something for your mother, do Sukhmani Sahib da Path for her every day.

2019-02-18 10:07:23 -0500 answered a question What to do.. Pls help

This is between you and Guru Ji. Guru Ji knows your heart and also knows why you made an insincere oath. You will face this issue sooner or later. Sweeping it under the rug, avoiding it, lying about, etc. only postpones the inevitable. Tell the truth. It will come out anyway. If you cannot go into your marriage with honesty then understand that trust will be undermined. Better to simply be honest.

2019-02-12 11:44:05 -0500 answered a question Why do nihangs do opposite parkarnama

Some Nihang Singhs who go anti-clockwise have said that the human heart is on the left and that they want to keep the heart close to Guru Jee when they do Parkarma.

2019-02-12 11:32:28 -0500 answered a question Aarti aarta

The Āratī-Āratā contains the Gurbāṇī of Guru Nanak Dev, the Bhagats including Kabir, Namdev, Sain, and Dhanna, as well as the Gurbāṇī of Guru Gobind Singh. In modern times it has been edited to exclude a lot of the original verses added by Guru Gobind Singh. The Āratī-Āratā starts with Sri Dasam Granth Sahib bāṇī, then Guru Nanak’s Āratī, the Āratā of the Bhagats, then Adi Sri Guru Granth Sahib bāṇī, and ends with Sri Dasam Granth Sahib bāṇī. Normally it is sung in Kirtan after the Rahirās Sāhib. Perhaps these links will help:

Āratī-Āratā full text

Āratī-Āratā ~ Author's Viewpoint

2019-02-12 11:27:37 -0500 commented answer Need a very tough situation

"...cannot bear this insult?" When so many have borne so much to carry our Guru through all the tests and trials that time gave them, they cannot bear this? What they are doing is called "emotional manipulation." Do not allow yourself to be manipulated in this way.