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Thank you so much Babaji. Your answer is very helpful.Many thanks.

Anyone any answers? Guidance? Ideas? Suggestions?

Anyone any answers? Guidance? Idea? suggestions?

Just an update the Giani who is now in Ludhiana who was supposedly looking for a girl me was actually asking the girls/her parents / relatives for 2 lakhs to marry their daugher to an NRI. I was heart broken and didnt say yes to any girl, I was so upset the giani was taking advantage of others!

Many thanks Strong kaurji,

I am travelling to India to meet prospective suitors, advice me on what i should do? Should I visit my existing in laws? I tried my best to help their daugher my dear wife but God had other plans!

Can i please get more peoples thoughts and advice? much appreciated! thanks

Tell everyone that you are a Sikh Soilder! A Sikh Warrior and a Fighter! Tell them you are the Guru's Sikh! Tell them that Guruji has blessed you for been born in a Sikh family and being born in this Paanth! Tell them your soul is what Guruji is looking at not what caste you are born in! tell them you are a Khalsa and need be become Amrithari and use Khalsa as your new surname! then there are no surnames no castes no differneces between rich or poor just a Pure Sikh soul immersed in the Guru's Shabad! You can also change your surname to Khalsa and when the time is right as per Wahegurujis blessings you can become Amrithari! Waheguruji bless this child, this person and her family of doctors! you are doing well and dont worry much about what people think! they are not providing you with food education a bed shelter and happiness? take care! bhul chuk maff!

Many thanks!

to India after the demise of my dear wife? As the group may already know i shared the pain of loosing my dear wife to breast cancer in Nov 2016. I will be travelling to India and Ludhiana as well where a Gianiji is helping me find another partner who may join us in London UK and complete my family. I know it will never be the same but Having kids growing up without a mother is a very difficult thing. As I am travelling to India at the moment just to meet prospective suitors, please advice me on what i should do? Should I visit my existing in laws and with what face do i go to their house? I tried my very very very best to help their daugher my dear wife but God had other plans! Are there any rituals or things I have to do? Do i have to go with something etc? Have no idea? Please help!

Tere than suhave roop suhava.... you are looking beautiful in the eyes of Waheguruji!

Listen to this for peace of mind: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jsXCfkXgAGE

Sorry to say this Please learn to stand up for your self! if you want to follow Sikhi tell everyone! and stick with it! dont be pushed by anyone! you are you and have to live your life! Your mom or anyone will not pay for your Karmas or even stand infront of Kaal when Yaam comes to collect your soul! sorry for being so abrupt! If you let thso happening your life will just spiral into this yes i follow attitude or give in attitude and there are many people out there who can abuse that situation! stand up yourself! Its your hair, if you want to grow or not! be it head or underarms! I am in teh same situation, I lost my wife recentlya nd started going to the Gurudwara for peace of mind and doing Simran, and evertime i sit with teh family they have only controversy to talk about like there is a fight in a gurudwara in Canada? God what i can do about that! some people will walk all over you! Please stand up for your self! and i can guarantee your life will be a good and happy one! Best of luck! Bhul chuk Maff!

Threaten your father with divorce of your mother and tell him to lay off or else you will tell the authorities of wife abuse physical and mental! and this could send him to jail for a few months? this might just put him off! face it once! he will know his place and stop! (talking from experience!) Waheguru give you and your mom strength!

Bhenji please go the Gurudwara and do sewa Waheguruji will help!

Please forgive me for sharing this, I do not know how old you are and why you started feeling like this. But believe me I am 50 yrs old and can see other people following this lifestyle and feel why didnt my parents put me in this. I am talking from real life experience, take a step at a time, think about what you would like your children to follow? I am not being being baised there are white and english people adopting Sikhism, and hundreds of people Sikhs worldwide follow it poassionately. You need to find peace in the shabad, you are blessed beta to have parents like this who want you to grow in this religion. Friends and your own inexperienced lifestyle will not answer questions you may have when you are older and when life will throw you in the opposite ends of pain and misery, But believe me my partner lived through the pain of Breast cancer, chemo and thereafter... it was very painful to see everything but she followed WaheGurus Bhana, but I am still struggling with guilt and pain, i am slowly following simran and going to the gurudwara regularly, Slowly find yourself in this Shabad and this lifestyle of Sikh everything will be ok. Bhul chuk maff! WJKK WJKF.

Questionji, How to wake up from the night of the shadow? How to overcome guilt?

Thank you ji bohot bohot!

I have just been listening to a video about a lady talking about Karma and deeds and how one is paying the price for these in This life! And when I talk to anyone they keep saying praying to God who is this forgiving ever loving being? Keep praying and things will get better. I am on the verge of a nervous breakdown and want some answers before i go mental! Nothing is getting better! If Dharamraj is the chap that is doing the balancing and looking at our good, bad deeds and rewarding us , then What is the reason to pray to the All Being God? I have never heard that God has interfered in Dharamraj's work! When they say in the Bani Tere Bhana Meetha Lageh, doesnt this mean take life as it comes! don't complain! so how can praying help? I am seriously thinking of stopping doing all this mental chanting, praying and going to the Gurudwara all my life is more messy, I am more upset and have become more vulnerable. I get teased by people telling me that, "You think God will apply some miracle to your life? in your dreams!" This is the talk of helplessness. If anyone is not aware! Even when I want I work I cannot, I fall sick, even when i want to help someone I have no money, every time i try to do something good there is a problem. What to do about helplessness when a person cannot even help their own partner to get better? And just look at them giving up on life right infront of the person's eyes?

Dear Veerji, What is the guarantee that cutting your hair will make you happy again? You have follwed the way of the Guru. This in itself is a big thing, Doing Paath and reading the Bani is part of Sikh life, one has to earn the Gurus word, Whatever your circumstances you have been blessed with the Amrit, Dont let the devil take over you and do the clean shave etc and eat meat! Be strong and you will find the way... You will be greatful that you didnt give up for the desires of your heart, which is why being stong in Sikhi is really important, You will see the fruits of your prayers and when you are abit older, ( dont know if you married or not) but in the future this will be your foundations for your wife and children! Be strong! Think of all the Shaheed Martyrs who gave up their lives so that we could flourish. The Guru let his children go and fight and die for the cause of Sikhi so please dont give up!

Thank you so much for sharing this Babaji!

Good answer Strong Kaur!

But i wish to add try getting out for about 3mts or 1 month or so take the child with you, If he will understand he will get better or he will not change, We are all living in this current age and adjusting will bring sickness and early death! please talk and compromise ih has to be good for both sides if cannot give you any support physical and mental and spend time with you then you are wasting your life there. A child will grow up looking at how his parents live and this will affect him/her in the future making realtionships with the opposite sex, better to be alone and look after your child well instead of being in a neglected relationship. If he cannot see that his mother is the root of some problem then give him time to dwell on it and after your holidays come back and see, he must know what it was like before and now! If he cannot share his feeling his fears and his inadequacies etc then why be there?

I am sorry this person does not want to share with you everything, This is very difficult situation to be especially in a relationship. You could be working very very hard to make it work but please know that relationships positive ones work both ways. Pull yourself away and go to the gurudwara!