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it's okay, as i told you be yourself. Guru and God knows who you are, we can fake the whole world but not God and ourself. so go slow, even if you don't take amrit your whole life Guru won't hate you, you are judged according to your deeds, do good as much as you can, don't force anythng because the end result would be giving up. love is freedom, whatever you do do with love so that you don't feel any sort of pressure. I do only rehraas sahib in the evening and mool mantar in the morning, i will slowly increase but i find peace in that much, so what if i don't do so much bani and sewa i do as much as it gives me peace and love. God loves you however you are, and as i said become a good person, it is really not good for us even being non amritdhari to indulge in such things that would make our mind go wild. if you ever want you can go through this link, it helped me understand sikhi in a better easy way than the compulsions and wrong pressurized path. i don't say don't take amrit but i do say take it when you love it and can't live without it. a book by Dr. Gurbaksh Singh ji.

http://www.sikhmarg.com/english/list.html

I am not an amritdhari, but what i think is that it is better to start on as a new person, become a good human being first, sihki should start within then be showed outside through our bana...right now you should go through the punishment as it is stated you have to be punished if you break the promise(i really don't know about this)...after that do your bani, sewa, be a person with good character and when your spirit would be a Sikh your body will automatically become a Singh. what i mean to say is take it slow, very slow don't run you will just fall and get hurt. and yeah you don't have to hide anything, tell whoever asks that i couldn't keep the promises and this issue is between me and Guru and i will try my best to become a strong Sikh next time. don't hide or fake anything what you are not. and what you ahve to remember is that God and Guru is forgiving always forgiving no matter how bad person you are God is always ready to forgive you when you apologize deep within your heart and wants you to become a good child of His, the Sun shines on everyone, it doesn't make choices. Just start your change from right now, be what you really are, leave the bad habits behind and be proud of yourself. nothing is better and free than being true to yourself and God. God bless you with peace and comfort so that you take the right path and make the right choices.

nah you didn't hmmm even i am against suicide, i mean i will fight till the end but never give up and that is true courage. but this is one question on which i don't get the right answer, is it God's command or it's us committing the sin, i mean why do the family members have to suffer too? karma?

well i think that it is ok to meet someone put some time and get married but going out to the movies just for fun and all, maybe these things are wrong. i mean it is ok to find a soul mate but just having a gf or bf just for fun is wrong according to me. we should be looking for a man or woman to get married. the rest no offence to the OP as idk your intentions whether you want a girl to get married with or just as other people want a gf or bf.

Thanks for the reply, I understand you.

Well to be honest I don't know whether black magic exists or not but I do believe that God's and Guru's power exists. the thing is with our mind and our weakness, if few people will come and tell me that we sense you are a victim of black magic and all maybe my weak mind will also start believing in it, even if i don't wanna think about it the thought will come to my head and make me think that" am i really a victim of it" things are going wrong i don't feel good is all this because of the black magic??? i mean what i am trying to explain is that we all go through rough times in life, sometimes horrible but that's our karma, we get depressed, sad, anger overpowers us lots of mental issues but it doesn't mean that some black magic is working on us. and also i am not amritdhari, I am a sehjdhari, but i believe firmly in mY Guru's Love and God that no matter how many black magic people come to get me down my faith won't let them. Being a believer in God you should never fear anything because He is always there to protect you from the evil. so i will suggest you just make yourself strong mentally and physically and don't even question whether these things exist or not because even if they do they can't affect us. meditate on Waheguru's name Pray as much as you can.

oh no not at all, i want to survive till the end, and God and Guru will support me to keep moving on no matter how tough life gets, so don't worry it's not me but i always have this question regarding suicide. Thanks for your reply.

Is committing suicide God's will or it is a selfish act we do, i mean when a person commits suicide is his daana paani over?

yeah i just pray everyday and anything is possible in His world, so He can take all my worries away and bless me with a comfortable honest life. He will guide me through and always protect me need my faith in Him, 100%faith. thank you for your kind and uplifting words.

just hope God will help me and i will never worry about my past. living an honest life is not so easy.

he was born and brought up in the Uk, he told me that i could had told him everything after 10 years but i lied. but i just hope God makes me meet the right guy, a bit open minded one who won't keep digging in my past. i don't worry much about my past as much as being an honest person.

Yeah the time has changed, few decades back in India love marriage was taken as a huge issue but now it is sort of normal, i mean back then in Guru's times arranged marriages used to occur, girls used to get married at a very early age so did the guys..now guys and girls go after their higher education and career and while all this they can fall for someone and at the end our motive is to find a nice life partner not to fool around, so according to me either it is an amritdhari person or non amritdhari, falling for someone and getting married is not bad. but we should try not to get physical before marriage, that is wrong. idk whether it is true or not but i have heard that in Sri Guru Granth sahib ji, the love story of sassi punnu i guess has been mentioned, i mean love should be pure and if it is for opposite sex no worries.

Thank you for the advice i will take it and i will never mention it in future. it's just that the guys can do whatever they want and at the end they get the clean image but a girl's mistakes are viewed so badly.

hey there i can understand you, i have also done something in my past which might be bad for someone and nothing for other....but the main thing is i never wanted it in my past, i never wanted it to be with me...but dear you gotta understand we all make mistakes, i also can't accpet what i have done..the person i wanted to be forever but what i have become now, i am still a girl with good values but somewhere we fail, sometimes it is our bad karma that we act as fools and are left with regrets...no one is without regret we all make different kind of mistakes and feel bad. but you have to understand that we are human beings and we make mistakes. you were deceived , you never wanted to get physical with anyone before marriage maybe, but because you loved that guy so he took advantage of your love, this is where we girls are wrong, if we don't want to do it we should never, if the guy wants to leave because we don't want to do it, we should tell them leave right now instead of tomorrow. but what i wanna tell you is that i have been where you have been , but i have now taught myself that i am a human being and I can make mistakes and learn. Bhai Joga Singh Ji such a huge Sikh warrior were also about to go the wrong way in life, idk whether you know that Sikh story, but if such a religious Sikh warrior can fall in life why can't we?? Guru Gobind Singh Ji had to guard him otherwise they were gonna commit a huge mistake. So relax dear, I am another example who couldn't accept herself but now i have. I can't change the past but can pray for a better future. what are your worries about??? is there something related to the present and future that you are concerned about?? Tc